British humor ? Need input from the Brits. Tks.

  • itiscool

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    Aug 27, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    I went to a straight party with some good friends. There was a British couple, good friends of mine, yet I never told them if I was straight or not. I remembered the husband hinted a few times that I might be gay last time we hang out. Back to the party, everyone was drunk, including the couple. While I stood at a table, the husband stood behind me, wrapped has arm around my waist, after a while, he started rubbing my belly with his hand, in front of his wife. I didn't want to make the situation awkward, n pretended that I need to grab another glass of wine n left the table.. When I came back, he did that again. Anyway, I know he likes to touch the girls when he had a few drinks too many, but I never seen him touching a guy like that. Lol I just like to know if it is common for someone drunk to touch other females or males in uk. I heard the British tradition entails more touching. Don't know if that is true . I was also told it was British humor. I alos think he might also be trying to test my response to see if I was gay? Or he was to drunk to tell the difference btw a guy or a girl. What do u guys think? Tks.
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    Aug 27, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    they're swingers and they want your bones.
  • seafrontbloke

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    Aug 27, 2013 6:47 PM GMT
    Touching / invading my personal space is anathema. He was a) drunk and b) thinking he knew that you knew that he knew that you are gay thought it funny.

    If I were in your position, I would have been appalled, yet wouldn't have done anything about it because that would involve drawing attention to myself.
  • itiscool

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    Aug 27, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    He is definately straight...just that the 10 seconds bellyrubbing was an unexpected humor. Lol
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    Aug 27, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    seafrontbloke saidTouching / invading my personal space is anathema. He was a) drunk and b) thinking he knew that you knew that he knew that you are gay thought it funny.

    If I were in your position, I would have been appalled, yet wouldn't have done anything about it because that would involve drawing attention to myself.

    Concur, and defer to your personal British knowledge. Because drunk is drunk is all cultures. I lived in Europe a number of years, had many lovely British friends, and none would have behaved so boorishly.

    The OP should consider it an aberration of drink, or bad manners, or both. Happens everywhere. And not worry himself about it further.
  • jackooh

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    Aug 28, 2013 8:24 AM GMT
    brit here, and no invading personal space is not the norm, especially for a straight guy to be fondling a guy x.x

    I think its more of a general drunk tradition to try n fondle everyone, not specifically british, i hope his wife is easy goin or thats a bit cruel!

    British humour is classically sarcastic, witty and dry. 'A guy fondled me it was so british!' the hell do you take us for? D;
  • mindblank

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    Aug 28, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
    This guy was taking the piss out of you. He was disrespecting you. I'd have been livid if someone did that to me. He thinks you might be gay so is making a joke out of it, him "on top" of course. It's all about subtlely marking himself as boss in front of his wife, using manipulation and shame to stop people from challenging you "it's only a joke" trying to make nothing out of it when in reality it was quite invasive. Was anyone laughing out of humour or were they laughing out of politeness/nervousness?

    Either that or as said above, the couple are swingers and want a piece of you. Either way it's odd and rude behaviour! Worse so for his wife.

    Brit here.
  • mindblank

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    Aug 28, 2013 12:42 PM GMT
    itiscool saidI heard the British tradition entails more touching. Don't know if that is true .


    Not a great deal of touching goes on in the UK. In fact very little at all.
  • itiscool

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    Aug 28, 2013 3:56 PM GMT
    Tks for your input. I really don't know what to think... No body was laughing n I am not sure if someone noticed. The the rubbing went on for quite some time n I didn't know what tomdomasmimdidnt want to make a scene out of it. icon_smile.gif
  • itiscool

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    Aug 28, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    jackooh saidbrit here, and no invading personal space is not the norm, especially for a straight guy to be fondling a guy x.x

    I think its more of a general drunk tradition to try n fondle everyone, not specifically british, i hope his wife is easy goin or thats a bit cruel!

    British humour is classically sarcastic, witty and dry. 'A guy fondled me it was so british!' the hell do you take us for? D;


    Lol..I didn't mean that..I asked a friend of mine why he did that and he said it was British humor, and I didn't understand. He was mocking me or something. icon_cool.gif so I don't think Brits r like that..on the contrary, I think u guys are hot n polite..lol
  • kiwi_nomad

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    Jan 12, 2014 1:38 PM GMT
    mindblank said
    itiscool saidI heard the British tradition entails more touching. Don't know if that is true .


    Not a great deal of touching goes on in the UK. In fact very little at all.

    Try telling that to my boss! She's very touchy feeley.
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    mindblank said
    itiscool saidI heard the British tradition entails more touching. Don't know if that is true .


    Not a great deal of touching goes on in the UK. In fact very little at all.


    I am not too surprised by this tbh. British people (especially men) are often very reserved and feel very awkward about touching people, even when they want to be friendly. Then when they are drunk they go too far the other way. In any town in the UK after chucking out time at the pubs/bars/clubs you will see all the guys who didn't pull either:
    1. Talking nonsense
    2. Hugging/play fighting
    3. Fighting
    4. Doing something dumb like stealing traffic cones