brodyg saidI love rhetorical threads
This is my wth of the day.
The op already has an opinion on his question, keyword "preference". He wants other gays to affirm his life choices.
AMoonHawk saidIf you will hit on ugly white guys but not looking men of color, then you are probably racially biased ... does that automatically make you prejudice? No it doesn't. Prejudice is when you mistreat others because of their skin color. Not wanting to date people that do not look like you is not mistreating them or in any way affecting any of their freedoms, so it cannot be considered as being prejudice, as long as you treat them as equals and with respect. Some people will try to play the race card to guilt you into dating them. That is a sort of manipulative type of behavior, which in the long term can be very dysfunctional.
I never get the disingenuous play in semantics. If a server at a restaurant gives extra dessert to only the white table, it's not like the black table is being mistreated, yet the humiliation would be the same as being constantly rejected by a gay population conditioned by porn into preferring white guys. A more common scenario is how little white guys have to wait at the bar to get a drink in a gay club compared to non whites
If gay people were being conditioned by porn, then they would go after every possible huge black dick they could find. A persons preference is generally going to depend on their upbringing. In area where race have melded into common communities there is a lot of interracial relationships. When someone is brought say for instance in a purely Italian neighborhood, then their preference is to find a nice Italian boy or girl. If you feel you are humiliated because you are some specific racial ethnicity and grew up in some specifically racial ethnic neighborhood, but your preference is for a white guy, but white guys are not asking you out, then maybe it is you that was conditioned by television and society to want a white guy. Life is not restaurant where you sit around waiting to be served, it is more like a buffet where you get up and serve yourself. So if white guys are not hitting on you, then it is up to you to go out and approach them first. And not just anybody, no matter what ethnicity, if you are shooting for some guy that looks like the high school captain of the football team and you are the nerd that snorted and walked with his hands wrapped around himself down the hall, expect to be shot down when you approach the guy, because yes, like it or not, not everyone is in the same league as everyone else. Take a good honest look in the mirror and aim for a guy that is in the same league, or maybe even a little below, and you will find what you are looking for.
And hunny, the trick to getting fast service at a bar or where ever, is to tip well. When I drank, I tipped every drink and very well and you can bet that I always went to the head of the line and was served first even when standing behind a group of white guys.