How do I know if I'm Prejudice or just have a Preference ?

  • BeachStud2014

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    Aug 28, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    So what would make someone prejudice ?
    I have never really been interested in a person of color and have only been with other white males ?
    I don't really have many colored friends and the ones I do have or met usually (are gay)
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    Preference or Prejudice ?
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    Aug 28, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    Nothing against you, beachstud, but please allow me to pack my bags and get out of town before this thread gets started icon_smile.gif
  • BeachStud2014

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    Aug 28, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidNothing against you, beachstud, but please allow me to pack my bags and get out of town before this thread gets started icon_smile.gif


    hahah why is that
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    Aug 28, 2013 2:15 AM GMT
    beachstud2013 saidhahah why is that

    See above. It's just the beginning.
    Go easy on him, RP! icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 28, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    there is nothing wrong with you and this thread has been created nine trillion times already.
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    Aug 28, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    Point taken.
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    Aug 28, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    I love rhetorical threads
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    Aug 28, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    I've said this before...preference stems from attraction. Prejudice stems from hatred. You should know the difference yourself when you assess your personal situation.
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    Aug 28, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    hmm...let me think

    It's Preference If I say: I prefer books over magazines (which doesn't mean I don't read magazines) (more like judging the book by its content)
    It's Prejudice if I say: Because all magazines are stupid (which means I reject them totally without knowing what's the content inside) (more like judging the book by its cover)

    So, just because you have more white friends doesn't mean you're prejudiced.
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    Aug 28, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    beachstud2013 saidSo what would make someone prejudice ?
    I have never really been interested in a person of color and have only been with other white males ?
    I don't really have many colored friends and the ones I do have or met usually (are gay)
    ?
    Preference or Prejudice ?


    How do I know if I'm Prejudice or just have a Preference ?

    It's a good question because preference can be colored by past prejudices even after preconceived ideas have been accounted for and where required corrected.

    So then how would you know if you are acting upon a pure preference of taste or a preference which might have flavored by even some distant association with prejudice?

    I suppose one way would be to try it and see if you like it. Volunteers?
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    Aug 28, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    I think to answer your questions, you need to move out of South Carolina or move to a city that has a diverse population.
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    Aug 28, 2013 6:39 AM GMT
    Simple..

    "I'm not attracted to that guy." --> Preference
    "I'm not attracted to that colored guy." --> Prejudice
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    Aug 28, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    beachstud2013 saidSo what would make someone prejudice ?
    I have never really been interested in a person of color and have only been with other white males ?
    I don't really have many colored friends and the ones I do have or met usually (are gay)
    ?
    Preference or Prejudice ?


    yer a real piece of shit.
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    Aug 28, 2013 7:42 AM GMT
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    These might be the only "colored" friends you deserve..
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    Aug 28, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    Preference or prejudice?

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    Preference or prejudice?
  • Generaleclect...

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    Aug 28, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    theantijock saidPreference or prejudice?

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    Preference or prejudice?


    I'm willing to bet someone would rather pick the "undesirable" white guy over the men of color, lol.
  • adultoreo

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    Aug 28, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    It's your preference and nobody should care about it.
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    Aug 29, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    Generaleclectic saidI'm willing to bet someone would rather pick the "undesirable" white guy over the men of color, lol.


    That you would describe the older men as undesirable not only suggests that you'd lose your own bet but also it underscores my original, pictured point, that rejecting a black guy is thought of as prejudiced while rejecting an older guy is considered preference.

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    I get your humor in relating to the purposefully juxtaposed pictures, but reality--at least from this white, older guy's personal observations--is that most guys would rather be with an out of shape, uglier younger guy than with a better looking, well-kept older guy.

    Not being one nor currently having a close friend who is, I don't know what happens to black guys as they age, subject then to both prejudice and preference as aforementioned defined, but judging from the change of reception I notice from my youth to age, I would not only take your bet, but I'd double up in betting that by gay society, currently, aging black men are fucked.
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    Aug 29, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    gta5iscomingin19days saidif you reject someone because they're not your type, that's preference. if you refuse to date someone because of their skin color texture... you already know what that is. don't have to say it to you. and let's keep it real here too. for a LOT of people, it goes beyond just dating. they refuse to mingle with someone of another skin color texture whether it's talking with them, being friends with them, quick to say racist ageist shit, and etc. don't act prejudiced all sorts of preferential or say prejudicial preferred shit THEN turn around talking about "i'm not racist ageist but...." naw, you're racist just a preferentialist. get over it.


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    Aug 29, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    gta5iscomingin18days said...you clearly don't know or what i think you're really doing, DON'T want to know the difference....


    You don't get me at all.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 29, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    If you will hit on ugly white guys but not good looking men of color, then you are probably racially biased ... does that automatically make you prejudice? No it doesn't. Prejudice is when you mistreat others because of their skin color. Not wanting to date people that do not look like you is not mistreating them or in any way affecting any of their freedoms, so it cannot be considered as being prejudice, as long as you treat them as equals and with respect. Some people will try to play the race card to guilt you into dating them. That is a sort of manipulative type of behavior, which in the long term can be very dysfunctional.
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    Aug 30, 2013 4:59 AM GMT
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    brodyg saidI love rhetorical threads


    I don't.
    This is my wth of the day.


    The op already has an opinion on his question, keyword "preference". He wants other gays to affirm his life choices.

    AMoonHawk saidIf you will hit on ugly white guys but not looking men of color, then you are probably racially biased ... does that automatically make you prejudice? No it doesn't. Prejudice is when you mistreat others because of their skin color. Not wanting to date people that do not look like you is not mistreating them or in any way affecting any of their freedoms, so it cannot be considered as being prejudice, as long as you treat them as equals and with respect. Some people will try to play the race card to guilt you into dating them. That is a sort of manipulative type of behavior, which in the long term can be very dysfunctional.


    I never get the disingenuous play in semantics. If a server at a restaurant gives extra dessert to only the white table, it's not like the black table is being mistreated, yet the humiliation would be the same as being constantly rejected by a gay population conditioned by porn into preferring white guys. A more common scenario is how little white guys have to wait at the bar to get a drink in a gay club compared to non whites
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    Aug 30, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    gta5iscomingin18days said
    AMoonHawk saidIf you will hit on ugly white guys but not good looking men of color, then you are probably racially biased ... does that automatically make you prejudice? No it doesn't. Prejudice is when you mistreat others because of their skin color. Not wanting to date people that do not look like you is not mistreating them or in any way affecting any of their freedoms, so it cannot be considered as being prejudice, as long as you treat them as equals and with respect. Some people will try to play the race card to guilt you into dating them. That is a sort of manipulative type of behavior, which in the long term can be very dysfunctional.



    see... you're completely missing the point. it has NOTHING to do with imposing someone's will against someone else. it has to do with RESPECTING THEM AS A HUMAN BEING. you don't have to be interested in dating somebody in order to respect someone and that's the entire problem. it's basic human courtesy. if someone doesn't want to date me for whatever reason, that's fine and i respect their decision and as a human being BUT they better not disrespect me in the process. you can go about it in a nice way where you're not belittling me or trying to boost yourself at my expense. don't dehumanize me because you're not interested in dating me where you view me as subhuman where you got more respect for the dog than me as a human being.

    that's what my beef is. i think with a good portion of men out there. they don't know how to respect other people. they think it's all about THEM where they demand respect but can't give it.

    And you obviously decided to do like the homophobe Xristians and pick what you please to backup your bigotry
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 30, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
    brodyg said
    failscarf said
    brodyg saidI love rhetorical threads


    I don't.
    This is my wth of the day.


    The op already has an opinion on his question, keyword "preference". He wants other gays to affirm his life choices.

    AMoonHawk saidIf you will hit on ugly white guys but not looking men of color, then you are probably racially biased ... does that automatically make you prejudice? No it doesn't. Prejudice is when you mistreat others because of their skin color. Not wanting to date people that do not look like you is not mistreating them or in any way affecting any of their freedoms, so it cannot be considered as being prejudice, as long as you treat them as equals and with respect. Some people will try to play the race card to guilt you into dating them. That is a sort of manipulative type of behavior, which in the long term can be very dysfunctional.


    I never get the disingenuous play in semantics. If a server at a restaurant gives extra dessert to only the white table, it's not like the black table is being mistreated, yet the humiliation would be the same as being constantly rejected by a gay population conditioned by porn into preferring white guys. A more common scenario is how little white guys have to wait at the bar to get a drink in a gay club compared to non whites


    If gay people were being conditioned by porn, then they would go after every possible huge black dick they could find. A persons preference is generally going to depend on their upbringing. In area where race have melded into common communities there is a lot of interracial relationships. When someone is brought say for instance in a purely Italian neighborhood, then their preference is to find a nice Italian boy or girl. If you feel you are humiliated because you are some specific racial ethnicity and grew up in some specifically racial ethnic neighborhood, but your preference is for a white guy, but white guys are not asking you out, then maybe it is you that was conditioned by television and society to want a white guy. Life is not restaurant where you sit around waiting to be served, it is more like a buffet where you get up and serve yourself. So if white guys are not hitting on you, then it is up to you to go out and approach them first. And not just anybody, no matter what ethnicity, if you are shooting for some guy that looks like the high school captain of the football team and you are the nerd that snorted and walked with his hands wrapped around himself down the hall, expect to be shot down when you approach the guy, because yes, like it or not, not everyone is in the same league as everyone else. Take a good honest look in the mirror and aim for a guy that is in the same league, or maybe even a little below, and you will find what you are looking for.
    And hunny, the trick to getting fast service at a bar or where ever, is to tip well. When I drank, I tipped every drink and very well and you can bet that I always went to the head of the line and was served first even when standing behind a group of white guys.