Just told my parents

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    Aug 30, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    I have to say, that was a very... Very hard thing to do. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    Well my mom told me she loved me, and my dad has stopped talking to me. Which is fine, and I know that he needs to process...
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:25 AM GMT
    Blondeboy1165 saidWell my mom told me she loved me, and my dad has stopped talking to me. Which is fine, and I know that he needs to process...


    It will be okay - just be glad you did it now when your young - its not as easy when you reach your 30s...
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    I can believe that...
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    i thought people who lived in Washington are suposed to be so tolerant and liberal. Whys ur dad gotta be a dick about it? If anything-- he's to blame. He'll get over it.

    Congrats
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:31 AM GMT
    Well I'm actually from the Southern California valley, Bakersfield to be exact, and my family is very conservative.
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    Import saidi thought people who lived in Washington are suposed to be so tolerant and liberal. Whys ur dad gotta be a dick about it? If anything-- he's to blame. He'll get over it.

    Congrats


    His dad is to blame? For what? Dad may be responsible for his own behavior but not for his son being gay and he is entitled to be stunned, if that is the case.
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    Aug 30, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    Blondeboy1165 saidWell my mom told me she loved me, and my dad has stopped talking to me. Which is fine, and I know that he needs to process...


    You are exactly correct.
    Dads usually take it harder.
    But, from what you've said, I'm quite sure that he loves you, no matter what.
    You're a lucky man to have such good parents.
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    Aug 30, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Props to you for your courage!Hope it all goes smoothly.icon_smile.gif Ryan and Ruben.
  • Apparition

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    Aug 30, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    get dad a book to read. he needs it.
    "is it a choice" is the one i recommend. hundreds of questions and answers. 5 bucks on amazon.
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    Aug 30, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    Apparition saidget dad a book to read. he needs it.
    "is it a choice" is the one i recommend. hundreds of questions and answers. 5 bucks on amazon.


    Bad idea. Leave it lay.
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    Aug 30, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    WJohnP said
    Apparition saidget dad a book to read. he needs it.
    "is it a choice" is the one i recommend. hundreds of questions and answers. 5 bucks on amazon.


    Bad idea. Leave it lay.


    he will read it eventually. I have sat through enough coming out discussion groups to know he will.
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    Aug 30, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    Congratulations, that's a big step and you are brave for taking it. Give it time and your dad will come around.

    Import saidi thought people who lived in Washington are suposed to be so tolerant and liberal. Whys ur dad gotta be a dick about it? If anything-- he's to blame. He'll get over it.

    Congrats


    In Western Washington, yes, but over the Cascades, not so much. Eastern Washington is pretty much Idaho.
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    Aug 30, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    Apparition said
    WJohnP said
    Apparition saidget dad a book to read. he needs it.
    "is it a choice" is the one i recommend. hundreds of questions and answers. 5 bucks on amazon.


    Bad idea. Leave it lay.


    he will read it eventually. I have sat through enough coming out discussion groups to know he will.


    I would let his mom give it to his dad.
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    Aug 30, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    I'm really thankful for all of your advice, and I'm just going to let things lay where they are. It took me 19 years to fully accept it, so I'm not expecting acceptance in one day icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 30, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    Blondeboy1165 saidI'm really thankful for all of your advice, and I'm just going to let things lay where they are. It took me 19 years to fully accept it, so I'm not expecting acceptance in one day icon_smile.gif


    Just understand that coming out nor being gay mean that you have to be tolerant of bullshit or disrepect in the name of giving people time. Accepting you is not hard. If friends and family can't see you for their hangups, what is the point of them being a friend or family member? Be tolerant of the stupidity of others because you WANT to be. Not because you think you need to be.
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    Aug 30, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    Congrats man, tough thing to do!
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    Aug 30, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidGive your Dad time to process and see that your Mom is right. You're still the same son they've loved all this time. Daddy-o just needs some time to realize how fortunate he is to have a son with the balls to tell him face to face!
    Actually, the hardest part is over now. Let the healing begin...icon_cool.gif


    "Healing"....of???

    You just told your parents you are.... who you have always been, not that you have terminal cancer, right?

    Do you have any straight siblings? And how was the "healing" when they sat your parents down and "told" them they were....straight? Just wondering.
  • 1blind_dog

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    Aug 30, 2013 4:45 AM GMT
    What's your relationship like with your dad up to this point? You don't seem surprised or concerned that he shut you out.
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    Aug 30, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    dude let your dad be for a while he might come around or not but now that his issue. In honesty u did nothing wrong, we dnt choose who we are. Anyway congratz man and u can breathe from now on, it done
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    Aug 30, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    Your Father will come around in His own time.

    You have lots moar Love and Support than You may even realize.

    We are ALL here for You!!!

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:28 AM GMT
    Blondeboy1165 saidI'm really thankful for all of your advice, and I'm just going to let things lay where they are. It took me 19 years to fully accept it, so I'm not expecting acceptance in one day icon_smile.gif



    Being gay is really awesome. Set a good example for others .
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:52 AM GMT
    Blondeboy1165 saidI'm really thankful for all of your advice, and I'm just going to let things lay where they are. It took me 19 years to fully accept it, so I'm not expecting acceptance in one day icon_smile.gif


    So what were your gay experience like?
  • ASHDOD

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:57 AM GMT
    congrats man !

    i was so lucky i didnt have to tell my parents, my mom asked me when i was 19, and she told my dad [still they had to process it]
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    Aug 30, 2013 9:54 AM GMT
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