Hollywood fantasy pr do they really exist?


  • Aug 30, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    Hi everyone,

    As you can see from my username I love films and would love to become a professional screenwriter. I'm in my early 30s and am finally accepting my sexuality. I find I am a naturally angry person when I hide away from the truth and more mellow when I don't.

    The thing is I am having trouble meeting people. I'm not comfortable hanging out on the gay scene and have no gay friends anyway so going to the gay village isn't possible nor on my to do list at the moment but I want to meet someone other than a cheap hook up. I know I have to just get over that hurdle of being seen in public and in the gay zone but well you know! One step at a time perhaps.

    Another problem is I like really fem guys and I am beginning to think they only exist in Hollywood comedies. You know the skinny, lithe, mincing, limp wrist, hot pant wearing type but looking through the members here for example there are no such guys. Even when I went on a night out once to the gay village in Manchester I didn't see anyone like this.

    Can anyone give me some help?
  • killercliche

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
    fanatic_about_film said I'm not comfortable hanging out on the gay scene and have no gay friends anyway so going to the gay village isn't possible nor on my to do list at the moment


    Uh... "the gay scene" is probably most concentrated with the type of guy that you described. I think you should re-evaluate your dating strategy.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 30, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    It's like an old dirty bandage .... just tear it off and go
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    Aug 30, 2013 9:08 PM GMT
    fanatic_about_film saidAnother problem is I like really fem guys and I am beginning to think they only exist in Hollywood comedies. You know the skinny, lithe, mincing, limp wrist, hot pant wearing type but looking through the members here for example there are no such guys. Even when I went on a night out once to the gay village in Manchester I didn't see anyone like this.

    You might be as likely to find someone like Carole Lombard as a date since what you really want is a similar anachronism, a 1930s-'40s era dandy. These were actors who may have had those innate traits but really camped it up for the camera. Some guys may model themselves after these but they were pure confection in old Hollywood films, played for laughs. There was a lot about this in the landmark book and film "The Celluloid Closet;" here are some examples from Part 1 of a similar documentary, "The Lavender Lens:"



    To make homosexuality as unthreatening as possible gays were the buffoons of films of that era. (Exceptions might include characters with acid wit - George Sanders, who played Addison DeWitt in "All About Eve," specialized in these.) Aside from "cocktail party gays," queers didn't start getting "sympathetic" (read: suicidal) until the late '50s and "dangerous" (read: serial killers) until the late '60s (excepting, of course, Hitchcock's 1948 "Rope" and 1960 "Psycho).