Does your Mr. Right exist?

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    Aug 30, 2013 6:55 PM GMT
    Or to be clearer, is it possible for your Mr. Right to exist? For those of us who want a relationship, a lot of us sketch a picture in a mind of who we want as the love of our life, but are those sketches always realistic and do we expect too much? Do you believe that your Mr. Right exist? I tend to believe mine does, but finding him is the hard part and it can take trial and error.

    If this sort of thread has been done before, I apologize, but this is something that I've been thinking about lately and wanted to discuss it.
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:16 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:17 PM GMT
    xrichx saidNope.


    Not even me?

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:25 PM GMT
    TheQuest said
    xrichx saidNope.


    Not even me?

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    I hope so icon_surprised.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    In a world fill with 7 billion people ... I would like to hope so.
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:37 PM GMT
    There are over 7 billion people on the planet right now. Let's go with the conservative number and assume that 50% of people alive right now are male...now we're at 3.5 billion. Let's now go with another conservative number and say that 3% of those men have not only had homosexual experiences but are also willing to be in a relationship...now we're at 105 million men worldwide. Your chance of finding Mr. Right? 1 in 105 million. That's not even factoring in the extreme unlikelihood that you'll ever encounter all 105 million of those men in a meaningful way.

    So no, I don't believe that there is one Mr. Right for each person. By the numbers it's not only an absurd notion, it's pretty much impossible. There are guys you will get along with better than others, and no matter who you end up getting into a long-term relationship with, a civil union with, or a marriage with, there is always the possibility that there is someone else out there that you'd get along with just as well or even better. But why would you dump someone great that you've got just because there are other people out there that might be better? Both guys and girls are guilty of this because they buy into the idea that "the one" is out there for them somewhere, and they fear that the person they're with might not be it. "The one" doesn't exist! Be thankful for what you've got, and if you don't like what you've got, then recognize that it might well be entirely your fault for having unrealistic expectations.
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:43 PM GMT
    What a bunch of pessimists!

    I believe in love, I believe that the eyes are the windows to the soul, I believe that the perfect kiss can tell more than words can convey.

    I don't have an exact blueprint in mind. But I know how it will make me feel.
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Mr. Right may be a figment of your imagination. There's someone for everyone however you'll need to better define Mr Right.

    If Mr Right is that mental image of the guy that has everything you love, physically, emotionally, sexually and spiritually, then the answer is probably no. Or if he does exist some place, you may never know.

    If Mr. Right is a person that you can enjoy, love and look past his many imperfections then yes, Mr Right is out there and each time you meet someone you have a chance that they might be YOUR MR. Right.

    This is why you should keep a very open mind when meeting people. It's OK not to like or want to interact with every person you meet but when you do see some that you think you might want to get to know, put away all your preconceived ideas of the perfect man and instead, get to know who he is. His good, his bad and his ugly. Only then, after seeing the inside and the outside, can you really determine if he is Mr Right or Mr I. Don't Think So.
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:49 PM GMT
    unckabasa saidWhat a bunch of pessimists!

    I believe in love, I believe that the eyes are the windows to the soul, I believe that the perfect kiss can tell more than words can convey.

    I don't have an exact blueprint in mind. But I know how it will make me feel.

    Yes, but you see you're already admitting that you don't know what Mr Right is but you'll know it only after you get to know him. He will be YOUR Mr Right, not necessarily someone else's. I agree with your assessment but you can't just pick him out of a line up, you get to know him through interaction!
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidDoubtful. He'd have to put up with me, and I'm pretty annoying.


    got that right.
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    yes, my mr. right exists.

    stop overthinking and being pessimistic, y'all.
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    Aug 30, 2013 9:59 PM GMT
    There are lots of Mr. Right's for all of you. Paraphrasing Eb925guy, you have to be open to the possibility that when you meet some guy, he might fit the bill. But if the OP is looking for Mr. Perfect, although that guy may exist, he may already be taken, may have a terminal illness, or may never be found. All those Mr. Rights out there won't be Mr. Perfect, but if you reject everyone because they aren't, you'll never know when you missed connecting with a Mr. Right.
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    Aug 30, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    Since I don't have a laundry list of preferences, I'm hoping finding Mr. Right won't be so hard when I start looking. I've seen profiles where guys are even picky about his eye color, hair, or what specific part of Europe his heritage is from.

    I only have two requirements: That he strictly wants a monogamous relationship (no open relationship, play together, or any of that), and that he wants to have kids.

    That's all. Let him be a nice guy and that's all I ask.
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    Aug 30, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    Of course.

    Maybe it's a case of simply haven't meeting him yet.

    Or maybe it's a case of you simply not realizing that you have met him. icon_wink.gif

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    Aug 31, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    ReluctantPromises said
    So what you're saying is someone doesn't have to be 'the one' to be someone for you?

    I have the unfortunate history of being around charismatic Christians who believe that God has predestined "the one" for them. They (girls especially, but both sexes) will break up with someone because the other person "doesn't feel like the one" or they say that "God has someone else for you" when the relationship doesn't work. "The one" is a crutch, and a figment of the imagination.

    What I'm saying is exactly what you gleaned out of it - someone doesn't have to be 'the one' to be someone for you. Accepting that there are many Mr. and Mrs. Rights and not just one for each person is the most freeing thing that anyone will ever come to realize. I'm not sure how that was construed as overthinking or pessimistic...it's not. It's actually quite simple and optimistic because realizing there's more than one Mr. Right out there for you significantly increases your chances (purely numerically speaking), and makes you take initiative to make things happen/work with another guy because you're not just waiting for "the one" to come along and sweep you off your feet.
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    Aug 31, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    If he does, he probably lives on the other side of the country! icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 31, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    yeah! he does exist...

    i believe that the circumstances we face in life determine weather or not we will meet "Mr. Right"

    He is around somewhere but circumstances each of us face brings us either closer or farther from each other.

    only when that magic happen, like just out of the blue, you bump into him, well it takes more than that, will you only realize you've found the one.

    no explanation. no warning. you will just know it. its him.
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    Aug 31, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidDoubtful. He'd have to put up with me, and I'm pretty annoying.

    I don't like false modesty. You're pretty impressive.

    Rather than annoying I'd say you're an acquired taste.

    Just like me. I found a guy who likes my eccentric & difficult taste. You need to do the same thing. If that's really what you want. icon_question.gif
  • wellwell

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    Aug 31, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    I've met him, but he does not yet seem romantically inclined toward me.
  • camfer

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    Aug 31, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    Walk down the sidewalk three abreast with you in the middle. Mr Left is on one side of you. Mr Right is on the other.
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    I've had a number of guys who were "Mr. Almost Right" or "Mr. Alright Now" and it took me a lot of years to find my "Mr. Right". I had to go all the way to Connecticut (across the country) to find him, though! Nobody good enough for me on the west coast! (Translated, that should read: Nobody could STAND me on the west coast!)
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    xrichx said
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    xrichx saidNope.


    Not even me?

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    Too far. icon_neutral.gif


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    AHHHHHHHAAAAAHHH!

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    Aug 31, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    Im sure of it, I just have to wait... yet not so patiently =I