Why it's so hard to get friends?

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    So when I came here (almost 2 years ago ) I had a hard time in high school finding friends, I figured it was becauseiI didn't speak the language but now I just started college and I do speak way more and yet haven't been able to get a group of friends.

    What am I doing wrong? :/
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    Force yourself to interact with people, join a club or a sports league. Making friends isn't all that hard if you have shared interests.
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
    They see your hot body.. get nervous/scared.. and runaway icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:19 PM GMT
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    Don't be shy.
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    its not that hard, just relax and be yourself icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:33 PM GMT
    Haha all of those comments made me laugh real hard... I just suck at starting conversations and keeping them :s
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 30, 2013 7:37 PM GMT
    get a dog ... trust me ... they are more dependable
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    Aug 30, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    The library should have books on etiquette and conversing. You should check it out.
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    Just checked out your profile. You gotta ready made conversation starter. Just bring your guitar, or piano if you can fit it in your backpack, to campus and start playing on the lawn where everyone hangs out and protests important issues of the day.


    warning: vid not that funny
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 30, 2013 8:17 PM GMT
    Start sharing your dope ... potheads always have a shit load of friends
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    lol

    Amoonhawk: I would love getting a dog, and I know right! seems like I have to be "don't give a shit about anything" type guy, they always have a hole bunch of people surrounding them

    theantijock: I think that can work, specially the piano part, I'll try and break it to some.. or a lot of pieces to make it fit
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    Aug 30, 2013 8:35 PM GMT
    I'm guessing that it's not so much you as everyone else. Axelx99 has it right that we're all comfortable with people we know so, unless you're alone, there's no reason to reach out to someone unless they have a uniqueness that peak our interest. If you can find that something then you might find others with an interest.

    Be assertive but not aggressive. Start conversations with a casual 'hi, how's your day going' and then follow with the fact that you're new to the area but so far enjoying. Or ask them about something in the area just to get them to start questioning you about where you came from. Small talk leads to conversation.
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    Cooper87 saidtumblr_mfg4dgRftH1rdbskoo1_500.gif

    Don't be shy.


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  • LJay

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    Aug 31, 2013 3:11 AM GMT
    I think that people are more standoffish than ever these days. Probably something about needing space.

    Still, you can meet people at school pretty easily. Remember that there are a lot of new people just like you so it is OK to get used to things together.

    Try finding some activities like intramural sports or clubs or dorm or musical groups where you can start as a member of the crowd and get to know people as you go.

    Ask for help with a tricky class or for a ride if you don't have a car.

    In other words, don't worry so much about making friends, just do stuff with others.

    There may be something to the intimidation comment. You are really good looking, so try to be friendly. Smile and ask questions.

    Have a great time in college!
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    David3000 saidits not that hard, just relax and be yourself icon_cool.gif


    This ^

    Just relax and be yourself. Do the things that you enjoy and try to connect and share with others. The right people and friends will automatically gravitate towards you. And yeah even shy people have friends! Just be open minded and see with whom you click. You are still pretty young so just enjoy and experience all that you can

    Trust me you will find your group ..we all do ;)
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    Definitely join a club or sport. That's how I met ppl in the past. Just make sure it's not some weird ass cult. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    Lord_Trollileo said
    hellass saidDefinitely join a club or sport. That's how I met ppl in the past. Just make sure it's not some weird ass cult. icon_wink.gif
    This. Club sports teams are very welcoming.

    Only if you're good at sports. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    Now now...twerking is rapidly being considered a sport.
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    It's not that hard. It helps to find activities or interests or social hobbies to get involved in. Then you will naturally meet other people with the same interests and you already have that in common.
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    Aug 31, 2013 3:54 AM GMT
    george1818 saidSo when I came here (almost 2 years ago ) I had a hard time in high school finding friends, I figured it was becauseiI didn't speak the language but now I just started college and I do speak way more and yet haven't been able to get a group of friends.

    What am I doing wrong? :/


    I had a really hard time in high school and then in college I found the people I liked being around. Even if your shy - theres always tons of other shy people who will be friends. approach the guy or girl you see whos alone and say hello. Its awkward but can work.

    Also it is possible people are intimidated by your good looks. Ive heard this before - sometimes the best looking people have the hardest time. People assume they have friends already.

    Good luck! =)
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    Aug 31, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidSome people have trouble making friends because they're, like, total dweebs.
    I name no names.

    Fortunately, I don't have that problem. I do, however, have the problem of being a complete asshole. Oh well.
  • BloodFlame

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    Aug 31, 2013 6:41 AM GMT
    I'm not sure what it's like in your location in Texas but I get the vibe that it might have plenty to see and do so I'd just try and get out more and just be yourself.

    But I do know what you mean. I don't have any friends and I feel that a big reason is because I just don't have anything in common with practically anyone. So it can get frustrating at times. But I get the vibe that you have a lot of interesting things to converse about so just try joining things that spark your interest and in time, you may make some friends. Just go in with an open mind. Good luck. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 31, 2013 7:03 AM GMT
    My 2 cents.

    1. You live in Beaumont.
    2. You're one of those "discreet" people. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 31, 2013 7:22 AM GMT
    To get friends you have to be a friend. Get out of your comfort zone, be approachable and engaging.

    Take the advice of joining a club or sport. A study group would work too. Or do some volunteer work.

    Dont' worry. You won't always get this response.
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