Are You TRULY Happy?

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    Aug 31, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    I seem to go back and forth between a Yes and No....

    There is SO Much I Want To DO! But I feel like certain things are holding me back that were/are out of my control. Which causes me to do things that I Know will hold myself back Even further from my dreams.

    This feeling Hurts So BAD. . . Knowing Exactly what I want to do since I was kid, yet feeling like I could NEVER be accepted in the field just Disgusts me.. right down to the core of my soul. I feel like so much time has been and still is being wasted, wasted doing things other people expect of me when I couldn't careless about these things. Being treated like a child at 19 is sickling. . . People just Assume someone my age knows nothing about anything.. and their feelings are invalid.

    So I guess My Answer as of now is No...

    I pray that will change and part of me Knows it will... It Always has strangely, but I hate waiting, though I am good with coping to a degree I guess. I ignore people as I ignore my own problems... and for the same reason.. so I can't be hurt.

    Sorry for the TMI BUT I could NEVER tell anyone offline this, I just don't have anyone who could handle and process this information correctly in my life.. I have told "friends" some of this before but they seem to fall on deaf ears. . .
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    Aug 31, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
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    Aug 31, 2013 10:37 PM GMT
    Yes, I am. I'm in school for what I want to do and I have good friends.
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    Aug 31, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    elektrisk564 saidYes, I am. I'm in school for what I want to do and I have good friends.


    That's Really Great! I like when others are happy doing the things I am not, I never understood book worms but I admire them
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    Aug 31, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    No Im not very happy, havent met enough nice people in my real life, however I am a hell of a lot more happy now than I have ever been in my life, got my family, back at university soon and i have my own place again.
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    Aug 31, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    gta5iscomingin17days saidNOPE. doubt i ever will be as long as i'm living in this planet.


    ( 0_0) Seriously?

    How could anything you are going through have absolutely No Way out?

    I didn't mean to depress anyone because I am not, I just don't feel I am on the track to life fulfillment yet but I know I will

    You will too if you believe you will, not like a Disney Movie but you got to have Something to look forward to.. even if that Something seems currently unrealistic

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    Aug 31, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    i2ci2i saidNo Im not very happy, havent met enough nice people in my real life, however I am a hell of a lot more happy now than I have ever been in my life, got my family, back at university soon and i have my own place again.


    Wow.. well all of that sounds great to me. But I understand the people part, I figure I just have to keep going to I find the good ones.. even if it is just 1... I will be happy

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    Aug 31, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
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    elektrisk564 saidYes, I am. I'm in school for what I want to do and I have good friends.


    That's Really Great! I like when others are happy doing the things I am not, I never understood book worms but I admire them


    I am confused if you are calling me a bookworm. For what it's worth, to get any sort of education, you have to read a lot. My first test Thursday is over 20 chapters in our textbook.
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    Aug 31, 2013 11:05 PM GMT
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    elektrisk564 saidYes, I am. I'm in school for what I want to do and I have good friends.


    That's Really Great! I like when others are happy doing the things I am not, I never understood book worms but I admire them


    I am confused if you are calling me a bookworm. For what it's worth, to get any sort of education, you have to read a lot. My first test Thursday is over 20 chapters in our textbook.


    I am saying I am not a fan of college, I go to it, but I much rather do something else. I do the work and make decent grades but I can never put my heart behind it because it just.. Doesn't make me happy

    So I admire the people it Does make happy..
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    Aug 31, 2013 11:16 PM GMT
    The secret to finding happiness is not fighting against the world around you, but discovering how to live your own life happily within it, accepting that it is both good and bad.

    ps - now that I understand this, I'm well on my way to happiness.
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    Aug 31, 2013 11:21 PM GMT
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    You said it.
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    Aug 31, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    creature said
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    You said it.


    Then You Both Don't Comment or Visit Here Again... How 'Bout That! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 01, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    Are You TRULY Happy?

    TheRece25 saidI seem to go back and forth between a Yes and No....

    Well OF COURSE you do! You're 19!!!

    You're SUPPOSED to go back and forth between Yes & No at 19. I know I did. It's a normal part of teen angst.

    Most of us grow out of it, trust me. Today I'm mostly happy, most of the time. Some things occasionally bother me, it would be miraculous if they didn't.

    But overall, yeah, I'm very happy. And you will be, too. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 01, 2013 12:35 AM GMT
    Nope, not even close...
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    Sep 01, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    DSHANE77 saidNope, not even close...


    Awe... Why? icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 01, 2013 1:02 AM GMT
    No, on a day to day level, I'm probably not happy. But I realize a lot of what I think is unhappiness is really just dissatisfaction, which can be a pretty slippery, untrustworthy mindset.

    One of my favorite quotes comes from historian Will Durant who said, "In the end, most men don't ask for happiness, they ask for peace."

    The way I define things, happiness tends to be dependent on conditions and external things, which I may or may not have much control over. It's always going to come and go, and a big part of maturity comes with deeply understanding that and developing some detachment. When times are happy, you enjoy them, when they pass, you let them go.

    Peace, on the other hand, is something you cultivate inside your own mind. For me, it comes from listening to my religion's teachings, from reading and reflecting on history and biography, from listening and, again, reflecting on other peoples' experiences and how they compare with my own. All of these things give me a larger context in which to place myself and my experiences. And it leads to detachment, which isn't a cold, uncaring thing; just the opposite. It allows you a greater capacity for warmth and caring because it wears down your selfishness.

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    Sep 01, 2013 1:04 AM GMT
    No I'm not and that is ok. I know what my brand of happy is and I can and will get there. Just a somewhat difficult part of the journey right now.

    And like starboard5 above says in his post, I am more concerned with being at peace on a day to day basis than being happy per se'.
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    Sep 01, 2013 1:09 AM GMT
    The answer to that is no. Three yrs ago i left a job i had a passion for and took my ball and went home. Everyday i think about it . I knew that someday i would be back but i dont know when. So much shit has happened and week by week i just keep getting older. Eventually its going to be too late to live my dream. I am feeling tremendous pressure and frustration. Ive got nothing left to lose and everything to prove and it better happen damn fast. Ive made so many sacrifices and pd dues i cant let this be the end. However its gotta be done right this time around.
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    Sep 01, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
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    DSHANE77 saidNope, not even close...


    Awe... Why? icon_sad.gif
    Nothing to be happy about...
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    Sep 01, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    No, I feel like I could do a lot more with my life. I guess I'm just ambitious and impatient.
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    Sep 01, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    Lightbringer saidNo, I feel like I could do a lot more with my life. I guess I'm just ambitious and impatient.


    Exactly...lol Me Too
  • madsexy

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    Sep 01, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    I am. There are highs and lows, but my life is on the right track, I'm making progress professionally and personally, and it's all good. I wasn't always in this place, had to work for a lot of it, but I also had to realize that life is never just constant, therefore happiness has to be the overall, not the momentary.
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    Sep 01, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    No but considering the hell I have been through,the current situation is about as good as it will get lol.
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    Sep 01, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
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    creature said
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    You said it.


    Then You Both Don't Comment or Visit Here Again... How 'Bout That! icon_biggrin.gif


    lol, I was just saying that emoticon expresses how I feel. I'm not truly happy at the moment, though not completely down. I'm sure things will get better by the end of the year.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 01, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    What the hell does happy mean?
    Nobody can be happy all the time.
    Who's happy in the morning that has still not had that first cup of coffee?
    Who's happy at night when they know they will get up in the morning to do the same job they did that day and the day before?
    Who's happy when they stub their toe?
    Who's happy when the driver in front of them won't go faster when they are in a hurry?
    Who's happy when they get in the shortest line at the check out and it turns out to take the longest to get checked out of?
    Life is not a bed of roses. You have to live for the good moments.
    That first sip of coffee in the morning.
    The refreshing splash of water on your face from a warm shower.
    That commercial on tv that just made you laugh.
    That look in your dogs eye that tells you he trusts you more than anything else and would protect you to the death.
    The joy you see in someone else's eyes when something wonderful just happened for them.
    The kind nod and hi from a stranger on the street you just passed by.
    Life is not happy and never was meant to be. It is up to you to find the moments that make it happy.