Date went awesome but he doesn't return texts.

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    Sep 01, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    What the fuck is wrong with people? Why would you lead someone on into a genuine great connection on a date that lasts 5-6 hours without sex (hiking trip, shared a water bottle and everything), and then not want to meet up again? Why would you talk about other activities you want to do together and then just ignore someone?

    I used to not date due to this crap. Then I reopened my emotional side and this shit happens.
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    Sep 01, 2013 5:36 AM GMT
    Wow you shared a water bottle!!! icon_eek.gif

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    But no, how long has it been since the date?
    Have you turned yourself into a Insane Man by OVERLY texting someone who maybe hasn't had time to text you back yet?
    Was this date somewhere he could Easily escape from if he wasn't into you, instead of being stuck there for hours?
    Did it end awkwardly?
    Maybe he fund someone new...?

    Not enough data here for Anyone to help you
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    Sep 01, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    Maybe the guy just wanted a hook-up.

    Or maybe he didn't feel the connection as much as you did.
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    Sep 01, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
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    Sep 01, 2013 5:58 AM GMT
    I texted him once a day since (ie and he replied and was friendly--all of a sudden it is getting longer and longer and now it's a day before he returns--our texting conversations would last maybe 2-3 min max--short and sweet). It has been 1.5 weeks, but he had a cold last weekend and was home with his mom (he's 25), and this weekend he went to some beach house with friends (which surprised me, because he told me he was a loner like me...and so I asked for details like how many people are going). Yes, he couldn't have escaped, but he could have turned around and ended it early instead of going into the woods with me 1.5 hours requiring an additional 1.5 hours on the way back, and then spending an additional 2 hours laughing with me on a bench while we rehydrated.

    Sharing a water bottle was more romantic than anything I've ever done with a guy. Sad huh.

    No he didn't want a hookup--he says he's not capable of them which is why his last relationship failed because his partner could enjoy them and wanted it open and he couldn't enjoy them.

    Not sure what the snow feet pic means.
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    Sep 01, 2013 6:04 AM GMT
    bluey2223 saidI texted him once a day since. It has been 1.5 weeks, but he had a cold last weekend and was home with his mom (he's 25). Yes, he couldn't have escaped, but he could have turned around and ended it early instead of going into the woods with me 1.5 hours requiring an additional 1.5 hours on the way back, and then spending an additional 2 hours laughing with me on a bench while we rehydrated.

    Sharing a water bottle was more romantic than anything I've ever done with a guy. Sad huh.

    No he didn't want a hookup--he says he's not capable of them which is why his last relationship failed because his partner could enjoy them and wanted it open and he couldn't enjoy them.

    Not sure what the snow feet pic means.


    Seems the most you got a long is on a friend level then.. and he wasn't looking for more friends.. sorry
    Also 1 a day for 2 days after the date was fine.. but After that was too much.. he saw them just ignored them so it was too much, let the next guy comeback to you.

    He may a have really bad cold and can't reply but you shouldn't bank on it and just leave him alone.. find a new guy. It won't be hard icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 01, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    bluey2223 saidI texted him once a day since (ie and he replied and was friendly--all of a sudden it is getting longer and longer and now it's a day before he returns--our texting conversations would last maybe 2-3 min max--short and sweet). It has been 1.5 weeks, but he had a cold last weekend and was home with his mom (he's 25), and this weekend he went to some beach house with friends (which surprised me, because he told me he was a loner like me...and so I asked for details like how many people are going). Yes, he couldn't have escaped, but he could have turned around and ended it early instead of going into the woods with me 1.5 hours requiring an additional 1.5 hours on the way back, and then spending an additional 2 hours laughing with me on a bench while we rehydrated.

    Sharing a water bottle was more romantic than anything I've ever done with a guy. Sad huh.

    No he didn't want a hookup--he says he's not capable of them which is why his last relationship failed because his partner could enjoy them and wanted it open and he couldn't enjoy them.

    Not sure what the snow feet pic means.

    The snow feet implies that the other guy got cold feet, to borrow the colloquialism. Not your fault, just something on your date's end
  • whytehot

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    Sep 01, 2013 6:21 AM GMT
    you're not dating until after you've had sex twice. The gays like to test drive many cars over very long distances before making a purchase.
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    Sep 01, 2013 8:41 AM GMT
    bluey2223 saidI texted him once a day since (ie and he replied and was friendly--all of a sudden it is getting longer and longer and now it's a day before he returns--our texting conversations would last maybe 2-3 min max--short and sweet). It has been 1.5 weeks, but he had a cold last weekend and was home with his mom (he's 25), and this weekend he went to some beach house with friends (which surprised me, because he told me he was a loner like me...and so I asked for details like how many people are going). Yes, he couldn't have escaped, but he could have turned around and ended it early instead of going into the woods with me 1.5 hours requiring an additional 1.5 hours on the way back, and then spending an additional 2 hours laughing with me on a bench while we rehydrated.

    Sharing a water bottle was more romantic than anything I've ever done with a guy. Sad huh.

    No he didn't want a hookup--he says he's not capable of them which is why his last relationship failed because his partner could enjoy them and wanted it open and he couldn't enjoy them.

    Not sure what the snow feet pic means.

    You're sounding just a little to possessive, for just having met and just barely knowing this guy ... You might just want to turn it down a notch or two.
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    Sep 01, 2013 9:36 AM GMT
    Let stop beating around the bush here,
    1. you have done nothing wrong, u seem to be a level headed guy. 1 text a day is not bad, not @ all. But the truth is this guy is not that into u or he just got cold feet. He is not ready. On to another fish, maybe this time ull get to grill it and eat it too.
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    Sep 01, 2013 9:37 AM GMT
    His loss, you're a very attractive guy.
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    Sep 01, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    Now Bluey.. let's talk about this for a second.

    Bluey Is ThinkingWhy would you lead someone on into a genuine great connection on a date that lasts 5-6 hours without sex (hiking trip, shared a water bottle and everything), and then not want to meet up again?


    Now i'm not trying to mock your experience.. But if this was a true connection.. The outcome would have been better.

    Now in the sense that you are "Just getting back on the horse".. I'm urging you to slow down a bit.. Time is really the only way you can be sure a connection is as solid as you'd like it to be.

    Hugs.. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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    Sep 01, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    bluey2223 said It has been 1.5 weeks, but he had a cold last weekend and was home with his mom (he's 25), and this weekend he went to some beach house with friends (which surprised me, because he told me he was a loner like me...and so I asked for details like how many people are going).
    No he didn't want a hookup--he says he's not capable of them

    You are intelligent enough to process these data points.
    If he really is a loner, spending a weekend in a beach house with a random group of guys would not be the optimal choice. However, he evidently preferred it to planning something with you.
    Don't take it as a reflection on what you have to offer. It's about his willingness to lower his defenses. We've all had first dates that seemingly made a real connection and then went nowhere. Every dating prospect fizzles until the one that doesn't.
    (Sorry for all the cliches, but this situation is one we've all been through so many times it's impossible to discuss it without falling back on them.)
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    Sep 01, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    bluey2223 said (hiking trip, shared a water bottle and everything)... I reopened my emotional side and this shit happens.


    THIS IS SOOO CUTE icon_smile.gif but sorry man. i dont get that situation/people either. dont let it bring you down. dont go chasing someone whos not worth it
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    Sep 01, 2013 7:17 PM GMT
    I guess I'll stop texting him. What I don't get is why people can't just tell me and be frank. WHY DO YOU LET ME GET EXCITED ABOUT YOU?! Fucker.
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    Sep 01, 2013 7:17 PM GMT
    Be angry at him. Not yourself. He probably already has a boyfriend. Who knows. He's a rotten person with a nice personality. Get rid of him. Forget him.
    I'm sorry he treated you so poorly but there a lot of people out there like that.
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    Sep 01, 2013 7:20 PM GMT
    I had this happen twice in about 3 months - got over one and it happened again with the next one. Both were bankers. I donĀ“t put people in my phone until the second date now.

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    Sep 01, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    It's more of a commentary on him, than you. There are more sausages on the grill. Move on. He's not worth even your thought effort.
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    Sep 01, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    I know this might be hard to believe but some guys, of any age, just don't like texting and don't always carry or check their phones. Maybe he'd rather call you on the phone or see you in person later.
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    Sep 02, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    bluey2223 saidWhat the fuck is wrong with people? Why would you lead someone on into a genuine great connection on a date that lasts 5-6 hours without sex (hiking trip, shared a water bottle and everything), and then not want to meet up again? Why would you talk about other activities you want to do together and then just ignore someone?

    I used to not date due to this crap. Then I reopened my emotional side and this shit happens.
    Next time wear a Camelbak. That way you don't have to share.
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:51 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidI know this might be hard to believe but some guys, of any age, just don't like texting and don't always carry or check their phones. Maybe he'd rather call you on the phone or see you in person later.


    I'm like that, but I will return a short text as long as it doesn't get out of hand. If it does, I let people know.
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    Sep 02, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    It's one date. Calm down. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 02, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    bluey2223 said
    eagermuscle saidI know this might be hard to believe but some guys, of any age, just don't like texting and don't always carry or check their phones. Maybe he'd rather call you on the phone or see you in person later.


    I'm like that, but I will return a short text as long as it doesn't get out of hand. If it does, I let people know.


    If he doesn't even make the time to send u a short quick text, then he's not worth your time.