theantijock saidYou're out to your immediate family, you say? So what makes you think the cat is still in that bag?
Never underestimate the power of repression in Midwest Irish/Catholic families. They accept me but don't really talk about it, and give non-committal answers when directly asked, playing dumb if I'm in a relationship, otherwise, "He's dating around, searching for the right one."
In other words, they're as hesitant to broach the subject with relatives as I am. Which brings me here.
I guess that's just the Jewish-American families then. Within two years of telling mom, she was matchmaking. Hooked me up with the love of my life. I know I was lucky in that.
But maybe you have other gay cousins you can talk to first. I gotta bunch of'm and we first talked about it as teens back in the 70s, so in a more liberal family but during a less gay time. Seems to me it runs in families. At your next reunion just gather the gay ones, have a few beers together and the rest will join in. They'll figure it out. Or when you have someone you love enough to bring to a family gathering, just bring them along like it's normal.
Even with my brother who is a bit of a homophobe by his own insecurities, he's not a real outspoken supporter of gay rights--though he wouldn't vote against us--but when I had my buds with me he acted completely normal around them and he does want me to find another guy to fall in love with.
If your parents accept you, with some exceptions, of course, I'd think most family, even if homophobic, would respect their love for you. Once you've got your parents' love, cousins tend either to fall in line or to the wayside. Don't fear them.