Nervous / Wedding Jitters

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    Sep 02, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    So... I'm getting married on Thursday. And I'm starting to get nervous.

    Since military land has allowed gay marriage, and they are making it easier to get it done, I got leave to go tie the knot this week. And now that the day is getting close, I'm kinda getting really nervous.

    What can I do to distract myself? I'm on a 24 hour duty and all I can do is stress. Leave starts on Tuesday once I get relieved so... yeah.
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    Congrats! icon_biggrin.gif

    No need to stress. Just be happy the day has come. Are any of your Army buddies attending?
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    Wow. Congratulations! That's big news. The best way I know of to take away nervous feelings like you describe is to focus your attention on the other person. Think about what HE might be feeling and think of ways to make HIM feel better. Taking the attention off of yourself will automatically make you feel calm and in control.
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    married at 23?.....hey go for it..just make sure that this is the only wedding you'll have...and the person is indeed the love of your life...and this is not just 1 of future 3s.
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    Never been married, so I can't give you advice on the stress and nervous-ness. . . But, congrats!
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
    CALL HIM!!!!!



    And

    Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:38 AM GMT

    " And I'm starting to get nervous."

    Nervous about what part?
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    How long have your known each other and how well do you actually know each other?
    Why exactly are you getting married?
    How long have you been planning this marriage?
    And why is it so important to get married right now at this point in time?
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:47 AM GMT
    congrats man! are you able to take the permissive TDY to get married?

    how long have yall been together?
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    Nervous about it actually working.
    Not the marriage. The my getting to GO to get married.

    I'm in training status and my leave is kind special. As I am NOT engaged in training for the next three weeks, I am allowed to go on the leave. But as I am in Batallion Staff Duty right now and my leave request is not where it is supposed to be, I am beginning to freak out. And I don't really want to have to call him to get his Commodore to call my Lt Colonel and play who has the bigger commander dick.

    As to what state, Connecticut, where he is.

    But sitting here stressing because my leave form is PROBABLY in Company Operations, which is locked up till... 0800 Tuesday. And my flight is at 0705 on Tuesday. Unless it is sitting in my Barracks with all of this weekend holiday passes, but... that is a stretch.

    And so playing League of Legends to distract myself. Oh guard duty. So stressful.
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHow long have your known each other and how well do you actually know each other?
    Why exactly are you getting married?
    How long have you been planning this marriage?
    And why is it so important to get married right now at this point in time?


    Known each other? Bout a year.
    Getting married because we are young and dumb? Or he is 29 so I'm not sure about the young part. It is more that if we don't we will never be stationed anywhere near each other and the times we have been around each other it was very chemical. Or romantic. Or something. I liked it okay?
    Planning the marriage since April. He proposed in July. Saw the opportunity to make it official on paper on the 13th of August when the TDY came up so... hoping to get either get my orders changed to a CONUS station near Connecticut, or to at least make it that once I am done in Korea I will be sent back to a place near him. He is Navy, so... planning three years out to live with each other is high hopes. Doing it RIGHT NOW so that way we can get the paperwork rolling.

    And yeah, free leave, hooah!
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    Consider it preparation for a lifetime icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 02, 2013 4:56 AM GMT
    Olandew saidNervous about it actually working.
    Not the marriage. The my getting to GO to get married.

    I'm in training status and my leave is kind special. As I am NOT engaged in training for the next three weeks, I am allowed to go on the leave. But as I am in Batallion Staff Duty right now and my leave request is not where it is supposed to be, I am beginning to freak out. And I don't really want to have to call him to get his Commodore to call my Lt Colonel and play who has the bigger commander dick.

    As to what state, Connecticut, where he is.

    But sitting here stressing because my leave form is PROBABLY in Company Operations, which is locked up till... 0800 Tuesday. And my flight is at 0705 on Tuesday. Unless it is sitting in my Barracks with all of this weekend holiday passes, but... that is a stretch.

    And so playing League of Legends to distract myself. Oh guard duty. So stressful.


    Lol, I'm glad I asked.

    Hmmm...the obstacles you've mentioned are so far beyond your control I'd just recommend you relax, know you're in love, communicate that to your guy (because that must be a HUGE happy) and tell him about the fiasco taking place with timing. Sharing with him how you're feeling is what it's all about, my friend. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 02, 2013 5:06 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    Lol, I'm glad I asked.

    Hmmm...the obstacles you've mentioned are so far beyond your control I'd just recommend you relax, know you're in love, communicate that to your guy (because that must be a HUGE happy) and tell him about the fiasco taking place with timing. Sharing with him how you're feeling is what it's all about, my friend. icon_wink.gif


    I would let that calm me down, were it not for the fact that I was on Brigade for 24s two of the past 4 days. So... I got to have a nice talk with the Colonel, who seemed really excited for the possible PR of a soldier already taking advantage of the leave. Hooray PR! But if I can't go on the leave then... Well... Sad Panda.

    And maybe angry Colonel. But that doesn't fix the not married thing. Or the missed flight.
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    Sep 02, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    lol
    so you're not jittery about the actually wedding; your worried about getting to the church on time.
    again.
    Ahhhhhhhhhhh

    sorry buddy, my experience: You're screwed--holiday too: so screwed.

    fyi: Navy dick--always bigger.