mykale saidlol I was trying to thank you for your help. Sorry I'm new to this forum stuff.
You're welcome; and thank you for your considerate clarification. As to the "It's the whole let him go thing", I've seen a lot of guys here advocate that but I'm not necessarily one of them, depending on what makes both you and he the most comfortable or at least the least miserable.
Some guys require monogamy but some of them never find happiness, sexual satisfaction or even a partner. Sometimes settling is realizing there is no perfection. Or you might miss out on something better down the line. Oh nooos. Life is risky.
With my bi bud, at first he wanted just a friendship denying the so fucking obvious sexual tension between us. I told him up front that ain't gonna happen. I wasn't about to give him that platonic power over me. But we were so tight from our first meeting each other that he wasn't about to let that go. And I was okay with him running free. I knew he'd always come home. We got along too well. Two tiny fights in 10 years. It was a great relationship. I miss it.
I could do monogamy under the right circumstances but I don't require it. Throw bisexuality into that mix--and I say I wouldn't want that again but I know ya never know who you might fall for--my highest priority would be the other person fulfilling their sexuality. I'm not into a lot of sexual things other people are into. That doesn't mean I'd ever want to prevent them from enjoying themselves. So I allow for that in a relationship.
I think that's important even for heterosexuals--why dismiss everything about a person & a potential relationship just because of sex--but considering our limited number, I think it paramount for our community. I realize that's counter a lot of typical thinking and it is not for everyone, but it is a practical love nature and it can open another door to happiness.