Why am I always around older guys...

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    Sep 03, 2013 3:32 AM GMT
    I don't know why... I guess the reason is they are more thoughtful, having more thoughts on what I feel. In the US many of the guys in their thirties and forties can be still very hot. I can feel very safe and protected when they are holding me......

    I'm not saying I don't like young guys in the country, most of them are very hot to me. But I find it hard to talk with them in general somehow... They look cold and I feel uncomfortable to have a conversation with them...

    I'm not even clear about what the thread trying to say... Maybe it's just a little whining here...

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    Sep 03, 2013 2:04 PM GMT
    Yeah I get that too, you're not the only one icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 03, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    OscarWilde saidYeah I get that too, you're not the only one icon_smile.gif


    +1, You're not alone bro, same thing happens to myself. Just has a thing to older man. Although sometime they tend to stay away from us youngster because afraid of our immature mentality. icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 03, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    SWilliams said
    OscarWilde saidYeah I get that too, you're not the only one icon_smile.gif


    +1, You're not alone bro, same thing happens to myself. Just has a thing to older man. Although sometime they tend to stay away from us youngster because afraid of our immature mentality. icon_sad.gif


    It can be a delicate balance. I havent found that balance yet.
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    Sep 03, 2013 2:41 PM GMT
    Older guys ROCK, that's why! icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 03, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    Alexxx5 saidOlder guys ROCK, that's why! icon_twisted.gif

    You got that right. A HOT BUILT man in his 40s or 50s always knows what he wants and how to get it . . . mmmmm mmmmm GOOD!
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    Sep 03, 2013 2:47 PM GMT
    You guys are probably more emotionally and intellectually mature than others your age.

    Don't despair, you will find others like yourself, it will just be a rarer find when you do.

    To improve your odds, make an effort to socialize with guys your own age at activities and events which require an uncommon emotional and intellectual maturity. Use Meetup.com to find groups of interest in your area. If there is no group in your area, start one based on one or more activities or events which would attract more emotionally and intellectually mature guys.

    And yes, you can even say "Gay 20-Somethings Activity Group" and it's "politically correct". I belong to one group where you must be in your "30's or 40's", and another group where you must be "over 40".
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    Sep 03, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    ShawnLee saidI don't know why... I guess the reason is they are more thoughtful, having more thoughts on what I feel. In the US many of the guys in their thirties and forties can be still very hot. I can feel very safe and protected when they are holding me......

    I'm not saying I don't like young guys in the country, most of them are very hot to me. But I find it hard to talk with them in general somehow... They look cold and I feel uncomfortable to have a conversation with them...

    I'm not even clear about what the thread trying to say... Maybe it's just a little whining here...

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    Sep 03, 2013 2:53 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidYou guys are probably more emotionally and intellectually mature than others your age.

    Don't despair, you will find others like yourself, it will just be a rarer find when you do.

    To improve your odds, make an effort to socialize with guys your own age at activities and events which require an uncommon emotional and intellectual maturity. Use Meetup.com to find groups of interest in your area. If there is no group in your area, start one based on one or more activities or events which would attract more emotionally and intellectually mature guys.

    And yes, you can even say "Gay 20-Somethings Activity Group" and it's "politically correct". I belong to one group where you must be in your "30's or 40's", and another group where you must be "over 40".


    Personally I do enjoy hanging out with both, young and old. I react differently when I meet different ages group of people. I could be a crazy kid and a serious guy. But I'm more comfortable being a serious guy lol.
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    Sep 03, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    Some of this may just simply be sexual attraction. I really don't think age is a good barometer of maturity. I've known a lot of guys who get their act together quite young and a lot of older guys who never quite get serious. Frequently it has more to do with intelligence than age. But one constant seems to be that younger guys who like older guys just simply like the look. It took me a while to believe that but I now think it is true. And vice-versa.
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    Sep 03, 2013 3:04 PM GMT
    Beats working?
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    Sep 03, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidBeats working?

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    Sep 03, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidBeats working?

    icon_lol.gif Ive gotten a few of those.
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    Sep 03, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    or maybe you all have daddy issues
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    Sep 03, 2013 5:25 PM GMT
    Older guys are hot lol
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    Sep 03, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    Don't overthink things. If you feel comfortable around older guys, then go with it.
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    Sep 03, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidBeats working?

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    Sep 04, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidYou guys are probably more emotionally and intellectually mature than others your age.

    Don't despair, you will find others like yourself, it will just be a rarer find when you do.

    To improve your odds, make an effort to socialize with guys your own age at activities and events which require an uncommon emotional and intellectual maturity. Use Meetup.com to find groups of interest in your area. If there is no group in your area, start one based on one or more activities or events which would attract more emotionally and intellectually mature guys.

    And yes, you can even say "Gay 20-Somethings Activity Group" and it's "politically correct". I belong to one group where you must be in your "30's or 40's", and another group where you must be "over 40".


    Thanks for ur advice!
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    Sep 04, 2013 1:06 AM GMT
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    SWilliams said
    OscarWilde saidYeah I get that too, you're not the only one icon_smile.gif


    +1, You're not alone bro, same thing happens to myself. Just has a thing to older man. Although sometime they tend to stay away from us youngster because afraid of our immature mentality. icon_sad.gif


    It can be a delicate balance. I havent found that balance yet.


    Same here man. I just don't feel like raising a little bro and that's what I end up with when I try to be more open on my range.
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    Sep 04, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    Same for me, I've been to gay happy hour a couple of times and I've spent all my time talking with older men. I'm an old soul, so it fits.
  • wellwell

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    Sep 04, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    Hit me up yungns; I'm available !!
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    Sep 04, 2013 1:27 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    wellwell saidHit me up yungns; I'm available !!

    There must be plenty of men that would be just right for you in the county mental hospitals.


    Wait, so, like...You can just walk in and hang out and see who shares their meds????


    You can really do that?!??!?!?!?!

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    Sep 04, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    Perhaps because we older guys usually have better jobs/careers and are picking up the tab.
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    Sep 04, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidPerhaps because we older guys usually have better jobs/careers and are picking up the tab.


    We're not all interested in how much a guy makes. Of course, it's nice if a guy is established in his career and successful, but money isn't really a factor for me.
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    Sep 04, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidPerhaps because we older guys usually have better jobs/careers and are picking up the tab.


    For me, it's about older guys being more grounded and sensible. Older guys for the most part have been the only ones who actually have held a real conversation with me that didn't involve just sex.