How do you tell people you are gay.

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    Nov 20, 2008 1:19 AM GMT
    I just moved away from Mn to Ma , back there I was out completly and when I moved here. My friends wanted me to join facebook so I did to keep in touch with them. So now facebook comes up with my old high school and people I knew way back then. I have been talking to old high school people I knew then. They never knew about me though high school. So it brings back what do I say. Just curious has anyone had that happen to them. Normaly I would say i'm gay if they asked in person. On online its seems odd. any help
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    Nov 20, 2008 1:22 AM GMT
    There is a tab to say you are interested in men..just select that and they can see it. If they dont like it, then one less person you have to get annoying hourly updates from.
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    Nov 20, 2008 1:25 AM GMT
    Thanks I will do that. Who knew there is so much to do online ,all these different web site. Guess I'm just out of touch. Or I Now have time on my hands.
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    Nov 20, 2008 3:58 PM GMT
    that's why i hate facebook! icon_evil.gif
    if i wanted to be in touch with people from a hundred years ago i'd find them myself. but jesus god don't just indiscriminately put my profile in front of people who MIGHT know me -- thats internet russian roulette, i says.
    arrgh.
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    Nov 20, 2008 4:01 PM GMT
    what is this facebook all you kids keep talking about?
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    Nov 20, 2008 4:16 PM GMT


    How do you tell?

    *hits mike*.." thump thump"

    says "errr, ahhemm...I'm gay."
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    Nov 20, 2008 8:30 PM GMT
    oh thats easy...
    In your highest pitched voice you squeal "OMG THATS FABULOUS SWEETY" ;)
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    Nov 20, 2008 8:33 PM GMT
    As soon as the topic of women or hetero sex comes up, I say "well I don't know much about all that."
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    Nov 20, 2008 8:47 PM GMT
    i just dont
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    Nov 20, 2008 9:46 PM GMT
    I usally just say "you're a Homo!!" icon_evil.gif


    and then I add, "oh wait, no I am... my bad" icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 20, 2008 9:47 PM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidAnd then Rugger slips into something more comfy and more his style. Something like this!

    Sexy-Lingerie-Leather-PVC-Corset.jpg

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    Lately that would be a muumuu, or something a little less form-fitting. ;)
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    Nov 20, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    Once I came out I was ok with people knowing. The only people I cannot tell, is my friends and neighbors in Mexico. The reason is because, my parents still live there and dont want them giving my parents a hard time or my parents conflicting their relationships with them because of me.

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    Nov 20, 2008 10:30 PM GMT
    its easy...just suck their cocks. if you do it enough times they'll figure it out

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  • DiverScience

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    Nov 20, 2008 10:36 PM GMT
    Just don't censor your pronouns when doing things like talking about dates or exes, and people will figure it out *and* not feel like you're throwing your sexuality at them.
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    Nov 20, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    DiverScience saidJust don't censor your pronouns when doing things like talking about dates or exes, and people will figure it out *and* not feel like you're throwing your sexuality at them.


    Yup, that is what I usually do..or if the girls are talking about a guy who is hot, I join in.
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    Nov 20, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
    Using the words "my boyfriend" in a sentence usually gets the job done.
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    Nov 21, 2008 7:17 AM GMT
    I guess they would get the point if i said boyfriend. I find it weird connecting with people from my past like almost 20 years ago. So I will see how it goes, who knows I will try anything once. No harm in putting myself out there. Plus if they read posst from my friends back west, they will know...lol
    Thanks for your help
  • OptimusMatt

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    Nov 21, 2008 7:37 AM GMT
    typically its the most fun to tell them bluntly, in person. Like when after I got my flu shot this year, the red cross was offering to test to see what your blood type is for free (obviously to try and get you to donate). So when her eyes lit up when she said "O+" and asked "Have you ever thought about donating blood?" I chimed in with a "Yes - but I'm gay."

    omg, the look on her face as it kind of crumbled a bit was worth not being able to give blood. Take that Red Cross.

    She was quite nice though, and apologetic. Still funny as fuck though.
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    Nov 21, 2008 10:05 AM GMT
    Hmmm today was thursday so i was wearing my rainbow sandwich board and ringing my bell.

    Who needs to tell, if they want to know they'll ask, And if they ask actions speak louder than words icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 21, 2008 10:19 AM GMT
    I came out to my grandmother a month ago, and when i come out to people that know me I always start with,

    Me: "Have you ever wondered why my sister and all my cousins have had relationships the past 8 years except me? I am the only one who has not had a girlfriend"

    Grandmother: "No.... why?"

    Me: "Weeeelllll."

    ...long pause...

    Grandmother: "You're not gay are you?"
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    Nov 21, 2008 10:31 AM GMT
    No matter how they ask the question be it in person or through the use of the internet just being honest and open with the question should be your number one priority.

    I can't say that I ever went through a situation like this because I feel if a person has to ask me a question like that then they'll get an answer. When people do ask me this particular question (sometimes I finish the sentence for them) I just give a casual "yes" and then leave it at that.

    If people have a problem with your answer then in reality it's THEIR problem and not yours. I say just give it to them straight (hahahahahaha) and press on and if they choose to inquire more about you then give them and answer that you feel comfortable giving.
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    Nov 21, 2008 11:36 AM GMT
    It amazes me that people ask, but if they do, then just say, "I'm gay."
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    Nov 21, 2008 11:38 AM GMT
    just sing the bender song

    'i'm a big bender and i take it up the bum,
    i love sucking cock and swallowing cum!'

    simple really!
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    Nov 25, 2008 1:27 AM GMT
    WOW, People are really shallow, Once they found out I was gay I was taken off thier facebook list. A few I talked to have stopped talking to me as well. All I did was say I prefer males and had a bf.

    Old friends I had back home email me but don't want me on their face book page, So I wondered why until I looked at their friends and the people they talk to. (from the midwest) Some had pastors and the church groups they belong to, So I got to thinking as long as no one knows they are friends with gay people they will talk to me thru email. But not in the open forum. So people say they are ok with us but as long as their social network doesn't know.

    Thus brings up prop 8, People can say on thing to your face. Then donating to no. maybe thats why it stings so much.

    So can we all get along. Or is that just a myth.

    R
  • DCEric

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    Nov 25, 2008 1:30 AM GMT
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