When and how do you plan on having your wedding?

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    Sep 07, 2013 12:26 AM GMT
    I would just like to see what everyone's dreams are, I would like to meet a great guy and get married between the ages of 25-35 ideally, and I thought to myself that I would love to be liberal and just do it at city hall or something, but actually I would love to get married with all my friends and family with me, somewhere warm and beautiful like in a small park in Italy or Southern France.

    Any of you dream of your wedding day?
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    Sep 07, 2013 12:52 AM GMT
    I don't have a interest in that right now. Maybe in my mid 30's if i get a decent man and not a pig like i usually end up with


    No lie i always wanted a romantic fairy tale type wedding even though it won't happen
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    Sep 07, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    i2ci2i said
    Any of you dream of your wedding day?

    Yes. I dream of it being similar to my straight wedding, though without all the Catholic Church crap, the Papal Blessing, the Vatican Representative and all that superstition I did for her sake.

    Full orchestra, Handel, maybe some Mozart, part of it outdoors in Summer, just as I did the first time. I still like this entrance I used before, stepping off as the live French horns sound, though we would now enter together arm-in-arm, no bride going up to her groom on the arm of her father.

    I'm so proud I chose this way back in 1978, which I understand has become something of a standard today, though often now as a recessional, whereas I used it as her entrance. With a full orchestra it is absolutely stunning, no church lady on an electric organ.

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    Sep 07, 2013 1:19 AM GMT
    I'd go with a kazoo orchestra.


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    Sep 07, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    ART_DECO saidFull orchestra, Handel, maybe some Mozart, part of it outdoors in Summer, just as I did the first time.

    We had a Dixieland band play at our wedding. And not just during the reception---we had them play the processional and recessional music too. We were a-swingin' and a-swayin'.

    LOL! I had a chamber orchestra in the choir loft, nearly 30 instruments. They reassembled outdoors in the university gardens after we exited, in full bloom in June, for our receiving line. They continued to play Handel and other music appropriate for an outdoor festival, heavy on the brass.

    At the reception for 300, at a private estate nearby (we actually walked over in procession, no cars), we began with a piano combo during cocktails as guests arrived. After dinner a dance band took their place. We were both amateur musicians then, and so music was essential to us, a number of our musician friends performing.

    A limousine drove us over to our wedding suite at the Plaza in Manhattan. Next morning the Matron of Honor and Best Man joined us for breakfast in our rooms. Later we went down to the Palm Court to listen to a violin quartet while we took coffee. Then back to New Jersey and into our own car, already packed with our luggage.

    Next stop was Williamsburg, Virginia. I had rented one of the historic colonial homes on the site, which you could do in 1978 (not sure if you can today). We stayed there nearly a week, then went on to Florida for another week at Disney World, staying at a couple of places. Including Fort Wilderness for a few days, because we both loved camping.

    Then finally to my sister's property in South Florida for a final week. After which my bride went to Ft. Benning, Georgia to begin Active Duty as an Army Second Lieutenant. I had personally commissioned her a month earlier, so that we were married as Officers (though I declined the uniform nonsense for the wedding). And if I told you who she is today, one of the most prominent & distinguished women in the United States, you would be stunned.
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    Sep 07, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    Yeah I thought about it! I probably want to get married in Malibu or Beverly Hills CA! or do a quick hitch in New York City or if we're feeling spontaneous, get hitched in London or Canada! But first, I'm still searching for that great guy! I enjoy dating around for now though. My ideal wedding would be something cute, small, intimate and lots of close friends/people I know. I don't like big or flashy though!



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    Sep 07, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    City hall, judge, sign papers, done. Or maybe have a small ceremony on the beach or something. I don't think I wanna deal with my Catholic and Evangelical family.
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    Sep 07, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    Want it but haven't thought of specifics.. he might find it Too controlling or girl like if I decided such a Big thing without him haha
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    Sep 07, 2013 2:40 AM GMT
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    ART_DECO saidAnd if I told you who she is today, one of the most prominent & distinguished women in the United States, you would be stunned.

    You were married to Nancy Pelosi???


    OMFG!!!!! I was thinking Nancy Pelosi as well !!!!! That is soo freaky!
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    Sep 07, 2013 3:02 AM GMT
    Justice of the Peace in Maryland sometime soon. We just need to find a witness. When we get back in the car and drive off, we'll play the Hallelujah Chorus.
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    Sep 07, 2013 3:03 AM GMT
    I want to get married at Plymouth Rock. Fortunately it's in Massachusetts which allows same-sex marriage. It's the site of a new beginning, which is how I feel about marriage.
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    Sep 07, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    Well, I've thought a little bit about it.

    I do want mine to be in a church. Or if not in a church, I want my church friends to be involved and my/our pastor to speak in it. We could read passages from Song of Solomon, or Psalms, or from the seventh Harry Potter books. We would have a reception under the stars, with equal parts praise music and dance music. We would dance with the ones who "gave us away," and we would present each other with a year's worth of love letters in separate journals we traded on the day of our engagement. We would read them on our honeymoon, until we knew intimately every secret, every thought, every desire for our marriage that we had for one another. We would probably honeymoon someplace where we could see architecture or the seasons, so maybe Maine or somewhere in New England. Or in Oxford. We'd tour churches in Germany and Sweden, or walk the countryside of France or Scotland in February, just to see it once. We'd end our honeymoon on the front porch of our home, looking up at the moon, a cup of tea, listening to the night sounds. We'd tell each other we loved each other. We'd agree to call one another "brother" and "husband" interchangeably. We take a deep breath every time we were near one another, and we'd possibly be the happiest people we could think of.
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    Sep 07, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    I would like it either in Barcelona or southern France, small with mainly family and few close friends.

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    Sep 07, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    ART_DECO saidAnd if I told you who she is today, one of the most prominent & distinguished women in the United States, you would be stunned.

    You were married to Nancy Pelosi???

    LOL! Not quite. I'll PE you.
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    Sep 07, 2013 3:43 AM GMT
    We did it 4 weeks ago at a courthouse in Rockville, MD. Officially we eloped (so we didn't have to have a big wedding celebration) but all of my husbands immediate family made it to the ceremony and afterwards we all went to have brunch together. The courthouse was a disaster area due to renovations, but they have a cute little chamber for wedding ceremonies, the clerk of the court did a very nice job and it felt just wonderful.

    Before, we were totally cool, "we are doing it only for the greencard and don't really need it", but still, getting married was a very special feeling, one of the happiest moments of my life. Feeling everyone's love and happiness for us felt incredible.

    We will be celebrating 20 years together at the end of the month.
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    Sep 07, 2013 3:44 AM GMT
    I choose to dream more of the man than the wedding we will have.

    I would like something with family and friends, but you never know what life is gonna throw your way, so I don't know if I'll always feel that way.

    As long as it's me and him, I find little reason to complain.
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    Sep 07, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    I don't need or want to marry. (That could change for the right guy.) In the meantime, I'll play piano at all of yours!

    I played at my niece's wedding in June. There wasn't a dry eye when I played "Marry Me" by Train as my brother walked her down the isle. Next up is another niece. I'm playing "Thousand Years" at hers.

    I was going to play at a lesbian wedding this coming October until one of the girls asked me to give her away instead.

    I love weddings! I just don't see myself marrying.
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    Sep 07, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    I like weddings. I'd love to help someone plan one. But at this point, I really don't think I'll ever get married.
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    Sep 07, 2013 8:36 AM GMT
    For me the wedding would be a quick formality in front of a judge. The real and big event would be the honeymoon.
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    Sep 07, 2013 8:50 AM GMT
    Hopefully by the time I am 40 that will happen. If and when it does...I plan on getting married in the church.
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    Sep 07, 2013 9:13 AM GMT
    A_Montax1 saidWell, I've thought a little bit about it.

    I want my church friends to be involved and my/our pastor to speak in it. We could read passages from Song of Solomon, or Psalms, or from the seventh Harry Potter books.


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    Sep 07, 2013 9:44 AM GMT
    This will be my bridal march!

  • Drift

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    Sep 07, 2013 10:31 AM GMT
    I would love to invite my friends and family to share their food, and art, and stories... Maybe more like a little festival. And hidden among all that would be a moment to acknowledge, and sigh, and join souls. ;)
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    Sep 07, 2013 1:06 PM GMT
    Already engaged, getting married next year (March).
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    Sep 07, 2013 1:17 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidWe did it 4 weeks ago at a courthouse in Rockville, MD. Officially we eloped (so we didn't have to have a big wedding celebration) but all of my husbands immediate family made it to the ceremony and afterwards we all went to have brunch together. The courthouse was a disaster area due to renovations, but they have a cute little chamber for wedding ceremonies, the clerk of the court did a very nice job and it felt just wonderful.

    Before, we were totally cool, "we are doing it only for the greencard and don't really need it", but still, getting married was a very special feeling, one of the happiest moments of my life. Feeling everyone's love and happiness for us felt incredible.

    We will be celebrating 20 years together at the end of the month.


    I used to work at that courthouse, assuming you're talking about the Circuit Court for Montgomery County, Maryland. The chamber is nice. I actually was a guest for a wedding there when a co-worker was married.