ha i just erased my "spoiled" essay on my profile. But i'll try to quickly recap it.
i think that, like anything else, there's different kinds of being spoiled; not all of them bad.
I personally will tell you that, as the youngest of three kids, I was definitely spoiled. But not with material things...with being "overindulged," if you will, in love and caring by everyone else in my family. My older brother and sister are still over protective of me, and while some would say it would hamper ones independence, I can tell you it's given me the courage to do what most of my peers are afraid to do because they're too scared of possible failure.
As far the "coming to expect it part;" yes, I do have high expectations of people. But again, I don't think that's particularly a bad thing. As high expectations I have towards others and how they treat me, I hold myself to those same standards in my treatment of others.
Further, I lost my mom my senior year of high school, and had little regrets as to the time spent with her. While most others would be for the most part overcome with grief and fear, there was no doubt in my mind that we had loved each other to the fullest for the time we had together, and could quickly get back on my feet to accomplish what I knew she would want me to in life - my dreams. I'm working on it.
So, yes, some kinds of being spoiled are disgusting and definitely disgraceful. But then there's the other kinds of spoiling that are a blessing. And I thank God for being spoiled.