What is "Spoiled"????

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    Nov 20, 2008 8:28 AM GMT
    When you call someone that...or describe them as being "spoiled"??? Is it a good thing o be called that, or is it a deragatory remark?

    Or just like rotten lettuce?

    Is it something to be proud of? Are you spoiled?
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    Nov 20, 2008 9:59 AM GMT
    For my generation it means to be excessively pampered & indulged, until such treatment becomes expected and even demanded, and is a derogatory term. At the same time, it can be used jokingly.

    "Oh, you shouldn't serve me coffee in bed, you'll spoil me!"

    "Well, you deserve to be spoiled this morning, after the wonderful time we had last night."


    I believe the origin of that use of "spoil" is related to its meaning as something that is ruined or rotten, in this case referring to a person's character becoming damaged from overindulgence. It can also be applied to animals, particularly pets.

    "He spoils his dog terribly, and now it refuses to eat anything but table food."
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    Nov 20, 2008 1:16 PM GMT
    It's a derogatory remark and nothing to be proud of.

    Paris Hilton fits the definition she became infamous for having accomplished nothing but by being a spoiled, over indulgent rich kid.
    Children that scream and cry at their parents in stores because they want something, when the parent originally said no are spoiled... Proven by, if you note 9 times out of ten the child gets what it wants by this tatic.

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    Nov 20, 2008 2:09 PM GMT

    Uh oh. We're in trouble aren't we? We spoil each other rotten. Constantly catering to each other. We're not talking wild excesses of lavish purchasing etc. We're talking the realm of human relationships, similar what good ol' Vespa describes.
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    Nov 20, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    I think it's about a sense of entitlement. When people who earn nothing, barely work, yet expect everything to be catered to their whim, that's "spoiled."

    Perfect examples are on the "Real Housewives of Atlanta." These women do nothing but throw parties and brunches and live off the wealth that their husbands (and "Big Poppas" -- ick!) accumulate and then have the nerve to be pissed they aren't automatically country western stars just because they wanted it.

    That's my definition, at least. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 20, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    Spoiled - person was pampered and protected to such an extent growing up that they cannot reach their full potential as an adult. For example, a guy who is living on his own for the first time and refuses to do his laundry or clean up after himself because his mom did that for him. I would consider him spoiled.

    To my mind spoiling a kid is almost as bad as the opposite which is neglecting a kid.

    In my culture (WASP) being spoiled was considered a bad thing.

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    Nov 20, 2008 3:23 PM GMT
    ha i just erased my "spoiled" essay on my profile. But i'll try to quickly recap it.

    i think that, like anything else, there's different kinds of being spoiled; not all of them bad.

    I personally will tell you that, as the youngest of three kids, I was definitely spoiled. But not with material things...with being "overindulged," if you will, in love and caring by everyone else in my family. My older brother and sister are still over protective of me, and while some would say it would hamper ones independence, I can tell you it's given me the courage to do what most of my peers are afraid to do because they're too scared of possible failure.

    As far the "coming to expect it part;" yes, I do have high expectations of people. But again, I don't think that's particularly a bad thing. As high expectations I have towards others and how they treat me, I hold myself to those same standards in my treatment of others.

    Further, I lost my mom my senior year of high school, and had little regrets as to the time spent with her. While most others would be for the most part overcome with grief and fear, there was no doubt in my mind that we had loved each other to the fullest for the time we had together, and could quickly get back on my feet to accomplish what I knew she would want me to in life - my dreams. I'm working on it.

    So, yes, some kinds of being spoiled are disgusting and definitely disgraceful. But then there's the other kinds of spoiling that are a blessing. And I thank God for being spoiled. icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 20, 2008 3:42 PM GMT
    it means ruined, damaged! there is nothing cutesy or cuddly about it.
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    Nov 20, 2008 3:45 PM GMT


    transitive verb1 archaic : despoil , strip b: pillage , rob 2archaic : to seize by force3 a: to damage seriously : ruin b: to impair the quality or effect of 4 a: to impair the disposition or character of by overindulgence or excessive praise b: to pamper excessively : coddleintransitive verb1: to practice plunder and robbery2: to lose valuable or useful qualities usually as a result of decay 3: to have an eager desire
    synonyms see decay, indulge
    — spoil·able Listen to the pronunciation of spoilable ˈspȯi-lə-bəl adjective

    ...like most words, it depends entirely on the context you use it in.
  • Aquanerd

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    Nov 20, 2008 3:48 PM GMT
    I think "being spoiled" is the lack of appreciation for what you have. So on some level, we are all spoiled. Whether it's having more money than you know what to do with, a great relationship, enough food to eat, or a smile that can melt anyone's heart. icon_cool.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 20, 2008 3:51 PM GMT
    To me "spoiled" means someone who tends to have everything handed to them on a silver platter and, consequently, they have no appreciation for the value of anything. They don't like it when they don't get their own way because they are so use to getting their way. They are "Takers" rather than "Givers", and generally selfish in nature.