What does success mean for you?

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    Sep 08, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    And how can you ever be successful without knowing what it means for yourself? I'm trying to set some goals and would like to see where everyone is on the "success" spectrum.icon_cool.gif

    My idea is that you can't be somewhere without knowing where you're going first.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    You can't be anyone without knowing who you are.

    Knowing yourself is success.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    theantijock saidYou can't be anyone without knowing who you are.

    Knowing yourself is success.


    I like this but i'm looking for more explicit examples of success. "own a nice car. find the love of my life. have a job in something i'm passionate about." that type of thing.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:29 PM GMT
    Every month it's a battle to keep from maxing out my credit card (and I don't live lavishly either.) I grew to hate my job so much that my last day is coming up soon, and if my financial plans fall through I'm up the creek without a paddle as of mid-October. I need to remodel big time (falling plaster means "need to") and only my cats will sleep with me.

    BUT! I consider myself to have been successful in life anyway. I can claim a broad variety of interesting, cool, and caring friends. My state has equality for LGBT's written into its laws, as well as same-sex marriage rights, and my city has all that and then some. I live in an awesome neighborhood. People out there may hate me for what I am, but nobody hates me on a personal level. A younger, straight, guy who lives upstairs feels safe and free to bring his problems to my ear. Plenty of fun things to do are close at hand. I want for nothing spiritually. That last sentence, to me, sums up the true meaning of success.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:29 PM GMT
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    theantijock saidYou can't be anyone without knowing who you are.

    Knowing yourself is success.


    I like this but i'm looking for more explicit examples of success. "own a nice car. find the love of my life. have a job in something i'm passionate about." that type of thing.


    Oh I'm sorry, I thought that when you asked "What does success mean for you?" that you meant what does success mean to me. But okay, I can play this game too.

    Success is knowing yourself in the world.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    Self-actualization.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    MCB_ saidSelf-actualization.


    +1 check my profile heading!

    i know everybody will probably think I am craz"ier" But I took a huge interest in Self actualization two years ago and achieved cosmic transcendence briefly, it was extraordinary, but man isn't meant to be fully self actualized in state of mind through will alone, it is potentially damaging to one's sense of self, I recommend achieving self actualization by basic random selection of life's trials and enjoyments.
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    Sep 08, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    workhard13 said
    theantijock saidYou can't be anyone without knowing who you are.

    Knowing yourself is success.


    I like this but i'm looking for more explicit examples of success. "own a nice car. find the love of my life. have a job in something i'm passionate about." that type of thing.


    Oh I'm sorry, I thought that when you asked "What does success mean for you?" that you meant what does success mean to me. But okay, I can play this game too.

    Success is knowing yourself in the world.

    no games.
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    Sep 08, 2013 5:01 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidRemaining rude and shallow until I die.


    A shallow shark. Go figure.
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    Sep 08, 2013 5:25 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidRemaining rude and shallow until I die.

    Exactly. Self actualization is for people who are stupid.
  • GMSatire

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    Sep 08, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    I'll be successful if I die happy.
  • Eli_jah

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    Sep 08, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    MCB_ saidSelf-actualization.


    ^This. and that means drastically different things for different people.
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    Sep 08, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    Pursuing and thriving in happiness, wherever it may lead you.
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    Sep 08, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    I believe that we're programmed by our genes, i.e., our brains are pre-wired with certain things. And men are programmed to be the bread winners, the one who brings home the bacon. Bonus points if you have a job you find fulfilling and enjoy, where you look forward to going to work every morning.

    If you're in that situation you'll know what I mean, and that everything else is just icing on the cake.
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    Sep 08, 2013 5:47 PM GMT
    CryoDream saidPursuing and thriving in happiness, wherever it may lead you.


    I love this idea.icon_idea.gif
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    Sep 08, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    There are different types of success...
    Setting goal and achieving it is not success, it's the path that counts.
    A fool can become a hero if he was given a chance, but it's a man who can be hero always, not even when he was given a chance, but also when he's helpless. It's his constant and habitual actions that tells if he was indeed successful or not. In other words, moulding himself and building himself a stainless character is the greatest success.


    Some say the ability to love your enemy is one of the highest form of success. Selfless service, selfless love, working for the sake of work without desiring the fruits of the work, loving for the sake of love without expecting anything in return, serving for the sake of service without seeking pride from it, etc. All comes as the highest form of success. And all these are related to different qualities of a chaste character.
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    Sep 08, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    I would add the ability to learn from rather than repeat the mistakes of the previous generations. For example, marrying too young, not preparing oneself financially before having children, not having children with the wrong person/people, not preparing for retirement, not preparing for a rainy day in general, not just money but taking care of your home and car, having good friends you can turn to, etc. In other words, thinking ahead instead of just living for the moment. This is not to condemn those who fall on hard times, it's saying one should try and think ahead to try and prepare for these things, because we know clusterfuck is always a possibility.
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    Sep 08, 2013 6:06 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidThere are different types of success...
    Setting goal and achieving it is not success, it's the path that counts.
    A fool can become a hero if he was given a chance, but it's a man who can be hero always, not even when he was given a chance, but also when he's helpless. It's his constant and habitual actions that tells if he was indeed successful or not. In other words, moulding himself and building himself a stainless character is the greatest success.


    Some say the ability to love your enemy is one of the highest form of success. Selfless service, selfless love, working for the sake of work without desiring the fruits of the work, loving for the sake of love without expecting anything in return, serving for the sake of service without seeking pride from it, etc. All comes as the highest form of success. And all these are related to different qualities of a chaste character.


    i like this
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    Sep 09, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    Success means one thing to me. When i get my opportunity to do what i love and have a passion for as a job i will consider myself sucessful. I' ve busted my ass, paid dues, and fought my whole life for this. Three yrs ago i walked away from my passion in life but i knew id work my ass off to come back better, faster, and stronger. icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 09, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    Success to me is being able to pursue your dreams and your goals and be happy with them.

    For me: I guess you can consider it being able to have followed my dream and my goal to leave NJ and come to CA and start a new life with my boyfriend with a good job, a decent apartment and great friends.

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  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 09, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    Success to me means a collection of things, taken together. First, I have some material needs and this means at a certain level of luxury. Not crazy luxury, just an appreciation of fine things. Having these things and being able to afford them matters. I want a love in my life. I actually want many loves of different sorts but at the center, I want a loving mate who I love and who loves me. Lastly, I want independence financially. I can cover my bills without worrying what someone else thinks of my work. I don't want to have a boss. I may have one and like him or her and be happy working for him or her, but ultimately, to achieve success in my mind, I don't want a boss. There are other important things than these, but having these make me feel successful.
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    Sep 09, 2013 6:51 PM GMT
    Having tons of money with a huge house.A walk-in closet with all the designers' bags,shoes and jewelry.

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    Sep 09, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    I have 2 answers ;


    1. Achieving what you desire without a day feeling tired of life.

    2. Something that's naturally in you, that you enjoy doing which meets your criteria of the life you always wanted it to be.
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    Sep 09, 2013 7:37 PM GMT
    Accomplishing my goals while defeating my inhibitions.

    There are barriers that try to stop us from completing every task we set out to perform, and when I can do something without letting myself be defeated by those barriers, that's cause for celebration; something I consider to be success.

    We celebrate when we accomplish something, and success is when we no longer need to worry about the barriers we have faced before!
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    Sep 09, 2013 7:49 PM GMT
    Everything I want to achieve before I die.