Must Watch: Adonis factor

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    Sep 10, 2013 12:06 PM GMT
    Rarely i find myself kind of angry when i watch a documentary ...but this one highlights how superficial gay men actually are. Its ridiculous. So now im thinking..are all gay men who are muscled and in shape...hold more of a serious case of self consciousness? The documentary also explains how being superficial...actually makes you miss out in meaningful possible relationships...i.e platonic or romantic.

    http://www.logotv.com/video/the-adonis-factor/1660929/playlist.jhtml?xrs=share_copy

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    Sep 10, 2013 12:28 PM GMT
    We've not only objectified ourselves, but we're now attempting to become like the images of perfection which are just not possible. Why? Because a lot of these images of perfection are TOTALLY PHOTOSHOPPED!

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    Sep 10, 2013 12:42 PM GMT
    There will always be superficial and stupid men and women. If you think muscles and a haircut are all that is keeping you from happiness, you're already too stupid to figure out what a meaningful existence is anyway.
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    Sep 10, 2013 1:03 PM GMT
    It's a superficial world, people come and go.
    Once they leave the place, they'll never look back. Cause they'll realize it's just a shallow world...
    It's just a body to body communication for attention, pride sex, pleasure etc. There's no soul in it.
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    Sep 10, 2013 1:21 PM GMT
    Yea everything on that documentary was true, i saw it a couple of yeas ago when i turned 18, when i came out I was accepted by pretty much everyone ( parents, friends ect.. ) so i was excited to get involved with gay men, not just romantically but just general friends too. I quickly learned that the superficiality of the " gay " world was way more intense. I began to realize that in some cases guys wouldnt even be friends with each other unless they found them attractive and that was ridiculous, and the jealousy of some people is so disgusting and thick its almost unbelievable that these are grown men. Obviously we all know that most people like attractive people and want a hot or sexy partner, but gay men seem to take that to an extreme level that is almost mentally unhealthy
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    Sep 10, 2013 3:50 PM GMT
    I saw this documentary during its release and what's sad, is that all those things they show are not embellished and continue to occur to this day.
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    Sep 10, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    Funny part about that documentary is that group of gay guys who all think they are hot shit and not a single one of them is good looking! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 10, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    It makes me feel ugly when I get photo shopped after a photo shoot.
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    Sep 10, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    the link is not working,someone pls put on a link that work outside of the United State.
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    Sep 10, 2013 6:05 PM GMT
    I loved and hated the documentary because it range so true.
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    Sep 10, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    Pretty interesting documentary. I've had little to no exposure to the gay community, I'm glad for that, especially after seeing how shallow it is and how detrimental it is to one's self worth and happiness. Definitely not my scene. Life is far to short to constantly be worried about how other people perceive you. Be and enjoy yourself to the fullest.
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    Sep 10, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    CopperDevil saidI began to realize that in some cases guys wouldnt even be friends with each other unless they found them attractive and that was ridiculous.


    Yeah totally agree with this point. It's so annoying to see these groups of gay men who literally look like carbon copies of each other.
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    Sep 10, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    Oh all the qualities we look for in prospective friends looks is way down on the list.I mean we are a couple.We are not looking for sex.So do we just want to sit at a table and gaze at some hot guy while he talks.I am worried about what my man thinks not what some bitchy group of queens think of me. icon_smile.gif Ryan.
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    Sep 10, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    I watched the documentary. It's not groundbreaking. Replace the men with females and... who cares? It's not a gay thing. The world will always have people making bad choices.

    BTW, is Beyonce "superficial" too? I noticed that Logo accepted payment to air her commercial in midst of their program. It showed her strutting her gorgeous self in sexy poses in tight clothes.... because of soda. icon_redface.gif

    Let's not get too "self-conscious" and degrade ourselves for being sexual and striving to become more attractive. It's natural.









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    Sep 10, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    I saw this like three times on Netflix and ushered for the show when it premiered at SF Frameline! Lol, to be totally honest, I'm not into buff/Adonis looking men. I like my men to be a little nerdy, cute, smart, handsome and boy-next door type! So I was shocked to hear all these horror stories these guys went through to achieve perfection, it's not really worth it.



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    Sep 10, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidFunny part about that documentary is that group of gay guys who all think they are hot shit and not a single one of them is good looking! icon_lol.gif


    not funny at all..u demonstrated the exact behaviour acted out by the individuals within this documentary.
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    Sep 11, 2013 12:17 AM GMT
    It is so true and also pretty sad especially when you think of all of the obstacles a gay man faces outside of the gay community -then in your own community, you feel discriminated against or like an outcast because you're not muscular enough, tan enough, or because of how you dress.

    Don't get me wrong..looking buff is beautiful but to me the inner beauty is what matters the mosticon_wink.gif


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    Sep 11, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    S34n05 saidFunny part about that documentary is that group of gay guys who all think they are hot shit and not a single one of them is good looking! icon_lol.gif


    Agreed!
  • killercliche

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    Sep 11, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    I feel terrible for a lot of the guys in that documentary: they all speak so confidently about being attractive...
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    Sep 11, 2013 12:56 AM GMT
    I have this on dvd. Nothing surprised me with it.

    Now let me say this, EVERYONE wants to be noticed and to be attractive. Anyone was says otherwise is just bsing...EVERYONE wants attention. We all would like to be the hottest or the most muscular, or leanest guy. The problem with these guys and circuit guys and a lot of the guys you see all over facebook that are incredibly hot is that mainly that's all there is to their life. The next party, the next dj, tea dance, cruise, etc. They have immersed themselves so much into that lifestyle that its all they know to look good...and there is always a younger one ready to take their place.

    In the end people need to find the balance. When they turn out and the lights and the party is over, you have to have something to fall back on other then your muscles
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    Sep 11, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidThere will always be superficial and stupid men and women. If you think muscles and a haircut are all that is keeping you from happiness, you're already too stupid to figure out what a meaningful existence is anyway.


    It's like a rich man telling a poor man that there's more to life than money. He's correct, but the poor man will never understand.
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    Sep 11, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    I've always preferred to hang around down to Earth gay men than those types. It seems like they live in a world that wasn't built for me. Even if I molded myself to fit into it I'd probably hate it.
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    Sep 11, 2013 2:59 AM GMT
    CopperDevil saidYea everything on that documentary was true, i saw it a couple of yeas ago when i turned 18, when i came out I was accepted by pretty much everyone ( parents, friends ect.. ) so i was excited to get involved with gay men, not just romantically but just general friends too. I quickly learned that the superficiality of the " gay " world was way more intense. I began to realize that in some cases guys wouldnt even be friends with each other unless they found them attractive and that was ridiculous, and the jealousy of some people is so disgusting and thick its almost unbelievable that these are grown men. Obviously we all know that most people like attractive people and want a hot or sexy partner, but gay men seem to take that to an extreme level that is almost mentally unhealthy
    52 here and I agree with what you said.
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    Sep 11, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    Watched it, wasn't particularly impressed. It does show that muscles for a lot of gay men is a form currency. If you don't have it, you can't afford basic friendship. At the same time, its also only good for one night stands. Because a lot of these men who are focused only muscles/beauty are not into LTR, its about how many mutual fuck buddies they can have per day/week/month/year.

    At the end of the day, I don't want that, but there are those who seem to adapt to that lifestyle quite fine. Its just for you to know yourself and don't get caught up in it. There is more to life than that.
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    Sep 11, 2013 8:35 AM GMT
    I have heard of this documentary but never watched it until now. I was debating on whether to watch it back then but I'm glad I did now. I haven't had much experience being in the gay scene but watching this documentary, I feel it's for the better that I haven't.

    These guys... It's like a double edged thing. I'm happy that these men feel good about themselves whereas they feel more self confident but I can't help but think there's something missing...

    I've always felt disconnected from people and in time, while it does get at me, I learned to accept who I am and to just live enjoying the little things in life. As far as the physical attraction thing goes, I know I can pack on muscle and be considered "hot" but I personally like the size and way I am even if it's not ideal for other gay men. Have I ever wished I could be more attractive? I won't lie, sometimes I did/do but I know there will always be someone out there more attractive then yourself so I feel you should do things for yourself and have fun doing them. That's not to say that if an individual enjoys working out, he shouldn't. If it makes him happy, that's all that matters. icon_smile.gif And this goes for any hobby be it drawing or playing an instrument and so on.

    It's kind of painful to watch the truth since honestly, I am attracted to guys with muscle (I love size difference) but seeing how the feelings wouldn't be mutual, it does make me wonder at times but at the end of the day, I like being my lean self. I eat healthier than I used to and I do exercise and I feel just fine.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing the link, it was an interesting watch and I have learned some thing from it. icon_smile.gif