Anyone with kids?

  • Jfritz0727

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    Sep 11, 2013 6:02 PM GMT
    Just a curious question, anyone who gay or bi, have any biological kids? Just curious on how they came about and how you handled it.
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    Sep 11, 2013 10:46 PM GMT
    Jfritz0727 saidJust a curious question, anyone who gay or bi, have any biological kids? Just curious on how they came about and how you handled it.


    I have two in college but was not divorced until 2009.
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    Sep 12, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    I have two sons. It came about because I was married to their mother. (We had sex.) By handling it, I'll assume you're referring to me being gay. Coming out is coming out, whether it happens when you're young, or when you're older. You talk frankly about it and hope for the best. In the end, it just didn't matter to them. They knew their parents weren't happy. Now they know why.
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    Sep 12, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    I have a few ton swimming around Right Now..
    Ugh... they never listen icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    I have kids, was married for a long time and the kids did well. They also did well when dad told them he was gay.
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    Sep 12, 2013 4:17 AM GMT
    Sounds like a few of us are living a similar story. Try to live the straight life, get married, have kid(s), realize it won't work, come out and separate (not necessarily in that order).
    I've got a few friends now in a similar place. Amazing, though, for so long I thought I was unique.
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    Sep 12, 2013 9:07 AM GMT
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    whydoineedanid saidSounds like a few of us are living a similar story. Try to live the straight life, get married, have kid(s), realize it won't work, come out and separate (not necessarily in that order).
    I've got a few friends now in a similar place. Amazing, though, for so long I thought I was unique.

    My story is a little different and weird. My lesbian best friend and I decided to marry in order to have kids that we both wanted. The year was 1981 and things that seem routine today were unthinkable back then. We agreed to stay married until and unless one of us found a serious life partner. The marriage lasted 11 years until she found her Serious Girlfriend. Then they moved out to the suburbs (New Jersey) with the kids, and I stayed involved in the kids' lives, taking them on weekends and Wednesday nights.

    The arrangement worked fine. The kids are grown and very successful and well-adjusted. Their mom passed away in 2005, so I'm their only parent now. Not that they need me as much. But I'm still Dad---embarrassing, out-of-it, yet somehow still lovable Dad.


    I'm sure you are!
    I'm sorry to hear that about their mom..
  • Pexus

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    Sep 12, 2013 9:33 AM GMT
    I have a daughter and a son, both adults with their own children. My son was 13 and my daughter 15 when I came out to them, after telling their mother. My son said "You're still my dad" and hugged me; my daughter ran off crying to a girlfriend, but even as an adult loves big 'little girl' hugs and loves me.

    They are now wondering how to tell their children, to which I said "They will always know.." I don't live close enough for them to know my partner but it isn't a problem to mention him or be myself around them. They are 7 and 6 year old girls so have way more important things to worry about....

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    Sep 12, 2013 9:41 AM GMT
    One kid. Used to be married.

    Got married before I had "figured things out." Hung in there for a long time because of commitment. Divorced now.
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    Sep 12, 2013 10:15 AM GMT
    I have two children..my son is in graduate school and my daughter is a sophomore in college. I was married to their mother for nine years. We've had our struggles, but everyone including my exwife is accepting and supportive....
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Sep 12, 2013 11:05 AM GMT
    I have three children.... they are are all doing well.

    They are my reward for denying my sexuality for 40 years.
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    Sep 12, 2013 11:27 AM GMT
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    Sep 12, 2013 12:37 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    whydoineedanid saidSounds like a few of us are living a similar story. Try to live the straight life, get married, have kid(s), realize it won't work, come out and separate (not necessarily in that order).
    I've got a few friends now in a similar place. Amazing, though, for so long I thought I was unique.

    My story is a little different and weird. My lesbian best friend and I decided to marry in order to have kids that we both wanted. The year was 1981 and things that seem routine today were unthinkable back then. We agreed to stay married until and unless one of us found a serious life partner. The marriage lasted 11 years until she found her Serious Girlfriend. Then they moved out to the suburbs (New Jersey) with the kids, and I stayed involved in the kids' lives, taking them on weekends and Wednesday nights.

    The arrangement worked fine. The kids are grown and very successful and well-adjusted. Their mom passed away in 2005, so I'm their only parent now. Not that they need me as much. But I'm still Dad---embarrassing, out-of-it, yet somehow still lovable Dad.


    awww that's sweet make me wanna icon_cry.gif

    thanks for sharing icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    I have two sons. One is 31, the youngest is 29. I married their bio-mother when they were ten and twelve. Both boys and my wife knew I was gay before we tied the knot. Now, after eighteen years my wife and I are separated and preparing to return to "single life". We are still the best of friends. My boys and even my wife are understanding and supportive of my needs. They know I did all I could for as long as I could. We still all work together in a family business and enjoy each others company and support. The four grand-children are just cherries on top.
    I know the OP asked about bio-children. I have no such critters and no plans of having any. I have no problem assisting in the raising of other peoples children. They are the future of our world and there are plenty who need support, love and guidance...without making any babies of my own. As an adopted child myself I have been on the receiving end of such love and support and it is easy for me to pass that on to others. icon_biggrin.gif


  • Hothouse

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    Sep 12, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI have one of each. They are 29 and 30.


    Hammerhead and Great White?
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    Sep 12, 2013 3:11 PM GMT
    1 son. 19. Awesome young man. Was married for 22 yrs. Separated now, in fact today is my 22 anniversary... lol.
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    Sep 12, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    One daughter and three grandkids....love them all. At first back when she was 23 when her mother and I lovingly separated it was difficult for her...since then she has adjusted and found love for herself with a great guy. My grand children could care less...
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    Sep 12, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidI have one of each. They are 29 and 30.


    Your kids are the same age as my older bro and I.
    You could definitely be my dad. wow.
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidI have kids, was married for a long time and the kids did well. They also did well when dad told them he was gay.

    Probably because they have a great dad.
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    I had one and he died early in age.
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    Sep 12, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    I have a biological kid who came about through fucking a woman. Divorced now.
  • wellwell

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    Sep 13, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    None, so far, but I'm planning on it . . .





    (...so, hit me up Lads; let's start this ball rolling)
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    Sep 13, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    TheRece25 saidI have a few ton swimming around Right Now..
    Ugh... they never listen icon_neutral.gif

    JUST LIKE YOU....
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    Sep 13, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    Hothouse said
    Aristoshark saidI have one of each. They are 29 and 30.


    Hammerhead and Great White?

    ha ha ha
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    Sep 13, 2013 2:56 PM GMT
    Bharat13 said I have two sons. One is 31, the youngest is 29. I married their bio-mother when they were ten and twelve. Both boys and my wife knew I was gay before we tied the knot. Now, after eighteen years my wife and I are separated and preparing to return to "single life". We are still the best of friends. My boys and even my wife are understanding and supportive of my needs. They know I did all I could for as long as I could. We still all work together in a family business and enjoy each others company and support. The four grand-children are just cherries on top.
    I know the OP asked about bio-children. I have no such critters and no plans of having any. I have no problem assisting in the raising of other peoples children. They are the future of our world and there are plenty who need support, love and guidance...without making any babies of my own. As an adopted child myself I have been on the receiving end of such love and support and it is easy for me to pass that on to others. icon_biggrin.gif

    I just want to say, Thanks for sharing!
    2nd para made my day!
    But, If I may ask, why did you married in the first place...some external pressure?