My co-workers are on to me...

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    Sep 12, 2013 6:56 PM GMT
    I was just added to my employer's LGBT list serve, but I don't remember discussing my sexual orientation with anyone...

    I don't care, but i didn't think it had come up. I must be gayer than I thought... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    And tall too. Jus from checking your pics i spotted both of those things.
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:47 PM GMT
    Imma guess it was the offhand remark* about the Myers-Briggs personality test being like taking a Cosmo quiz.

    *not that I MADE, mind you, that I AGREED WITH. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    Maybe they just bought the information from some internet data mining company. Faster and cheaper than building your own database.
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:52 PM GMT
    They found all gay that fisting porn you starred in.
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    Sep 12, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    CFL_Oakland saidI was just added to my employer's LGBT list serve, but I don't remember discussing my sexual orientation with anyone...


    WHAT???
    OMG!!...
    Pack up and leave town NOW!!..Your life is in danger!!

    Kidding..icon_biggrin.gif

    If they have a LGBT list serve.. It can't be that bad.. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 9:42 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThey found all gay that fisting porn you stared in.


    That'll do it! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThey found all gay that fisting porn you stared in.


    I'm much more likely to stare than star icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 12, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    CFL_Oakland saidI was just added to my employer's LGBT list serve, but I don't remember discussing my sexual orientation with anyone...

    I don't care, but i didn't think it had come up. I must be gayer than I thought... icon_biggrin.gif



    Maybe I'm just uninformed, but I've never heard of such a thing and I'd hope I never would. What the hell is this?
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    Sep 12, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    Just an e-mail list for invitations to happy hours at gay bars.

    My employer is large and gay-friendly.

    Edited because "advertise" is not the right word
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    Sep 12, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    Here in the Bay Area...people notice very easily. I had a coworker give me a pink spots magazine last year( directory of LGBT friendly business in the Bay Area), it was a week after I started my job.
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    Sep 12, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    CFL_Oakland saidI was just added to my employer's LGBT list serve, but I don't remember discussing my sexual orientation with anyone...

    I don't care, but i didn't think it had come up. I must be gayer than I thought... icon_biggrin.gif


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    Sep 12, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    Regardless of all other view points, it's still SPAM.
    What nerve!
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    Sep 12, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    CFL_Oakland said
    HottJoe saidThey found all gay that fisting porn you starred in.


    I'm much more likely to stare than star icon_eek.gif

    lol, my bad.icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 13, 2013 12:33 AM GMT
    I joined my company's LGBT "affinity group" network in hopes of at least meeting some "family" besides the few "obvious" queens in my work area. Didn't happen! With equal opportunity policies in place that extend to health coverage for spouses/partners regardless of sex, "gender identity"-blind employment practices, etc there's no lobbying or activism left to do. So what mainly happens is officer elections. Wow, exciting! And being a nationwide corporation there's no telling who might be where you are. (The membership list isn't shared even among the membership.)

    After a year or so of sheer boredom I asked to be removed from the mailing list. That took months to happen. And it turns out that my enrollment had stayed on the record after the fact. Once in a conference with my managers some page or other in my personnel file popped up while we were talking about whatever. And there was my former membership in this group, noted in writing. This passed without comment, but still it was disconcerting in a way. No one with even a hint of gaydar doesn't "know." And most people know for a fact. Regardless, I saw this as a breach of privacy since my business is my business. Happy talk about level playing fields is one thing but reality is all too often something else.
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    Sep 13, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    I don't know. With the exception of the franchised pizza restaurant I worked at in high school, I can't think of a single workplace I've been in that was anything but a level playing field for gays and lesbians (and no, I haven't lived in the Bay Area all my life).

    I also take some issue with the "it's nobody else's business" bit when straight people make it everyone else's business every single day.

    Anyway, I suspect it was a guy in finance who outed me...we have a lot of mutual friends that would probably have given me away icon_biggrin.gif