What's with guys wanting to hook up and not wanting to use protection??

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    Sep 13, 2013 6:45 AM GMT
    Just want to meet a nice, normal, chill guy for a fuck buddy...But all anyone wants to do is fuck it seems. I'm a little old fashion I guess...but in the rare case that someone gets me into bed...every time it seems, they never want to use a condom..WTF? Do people think they are invincible or that an sti just won't happen to them? Ugh
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    Sep 13, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    PREACH.
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    Sep 13, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    Perhaps some/most people are under the assumption that there's a cure for HIV/AIDS coming in the near future.
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    Sep 13, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    Let me give my story. For the record, I use protection.

    I didn't always care if I used protection. I would only use protection if the other guy mentioned it. However, one time I went to bottom for a guy who wasn't wearing a condom, and he stopped me. He was older, and he turned the conversation into a lecture of sorts, and I was annoyed then, but it stuck with me.

    He was much older than I was, and he told me that during a year of the AIDS epidemic in the US of the 80's, he attended more than 50 funerals in ONE year due to friends dying of AIDS. He told me that no matter what a guy says, what he offers, or what he looks like, nothing is worth an uncurable disease just because I didn't want to wear a condom.

    I went to Walmart that night, bought a huge box of condoms, and keep some in my wallet, my car, and my house so I always have some with me. With the availability of condoms these days, there is no reason not to use protection.
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    Sep 13, 2013 8:05 AM GMT
    Hookup without condom,I wonder how their future husbands think of them?
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    Sep 13, 2013 8:29 AM GMT
    Cooper87 saidHookup without condom,I wonder how their future husbands think of them?


    A man should be concerned if his partner is clean, but judging him based on his past activities is stupid and I've left guys for less.
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    Sep 13, 2013 8:35 AM GMT
    elektrisk564 saidLet me give my story. . .


    I have nothing but respect for an older man (or any man for that matter) who is willing to potentially ruin a hookup to educate someone. For you to take what he said to heart is very admirable too. Thanks for sharing that, I wish there were more people like both of y'all.
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    Sep 13, 2013 11:51 AM GMT
    elektrisk564 said
    Cooper87 saidHookup without condom,I wonder how their future husbands think of them?


    A man should be concerned if his partner is clean, but judging him based on his past activities is stupid and I've left guys for less.


    Clean or what?This is exactly why people should use condom for hookup in the first place,to protect body from STD,minus herpes.Rather than ask the hookup partner :"Are you clean?".Live healthy and long life until you meet ur mr right.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 13, 2013 11:55 AM GMT
    Anybody who does that has lost a real sense of reality.

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    Sep 13, 2013 1:00 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidAnybody who does that has lost a real sense of reality.

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    And they're idiots!
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    Sep 13, 2013 1:03 PM GMT
    Stupid people do stupid things.
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    Sep 13, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    Cooper87 said
    elektrisk564 said
    Cooper87 saidHookup without condom,I wonder how their future husbands think of them?


    A man should be concerned if his partner is clean, but judging him based on his past activities is stupid and I've left guys for less.


    Clean or what?This is exactly why people should use condom for hookup in the first place,to protect body from STD,minus herpes.Rather than ask the hookup partner :"Are you clean?".Live healthy and long life until you meet ur mr right.


    Do you understand what 'clean' means? It means free of STDs/diseases. When I start dating someone, I insist that we go get tested together and see each other's results.

    Also, you initially mentioned 'future husbands' which means relationship partner. Now you are talking about hookup partner. Of course it is useless to ask a stranger you're gonna hook up with if they are clean. If they aren't they likely won't tell you.
  • PR_GMR

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    Sep 13, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    A lot of prejudicial moralizing going on in this thread. And holier than thou attitudes. People using the term 'clean'..people 'insisting their date partner gets tested before dating.' It's sad to see gay men judging and rejecting one another over status. The best men I've met in the past years have been poz. Go figure.

    It's your body. It's your life. Fucking without condoms? It's your decision.
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    Sep 13, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidPeople using the term 'clean'..people 'insisting their date partner gets tested before dating.' It's sad to see gay men judging and rejecting one another over status. The best men I've met in the past years have been poz. Go figure.

    It's your body. It's your life. Fucking without condoms? It's your decision.


    First off, it is very laughable when people indirectly talk about other people. I am the one talking about testing with your partner and asking people if they are clean, so why didn't you quote me?

    It is a very personal matter whether to pursue relations with a poz guy. Poz people need to be understanding of that. Yes, some HIV- people are rude and disrespctful, even unsympathetic, but when it comes to being sexually active with someone who they know to be poz, it is reasonable for them to err on the side of caution.

    You said it yourself.. "It's your body. It's your life." So why is there such a stigma to not wanting to have sexual relations with guys who have STDs or HIV? Conditions that are not curable?

    I am so over the gay guys who try to act all politically correct as if there are standardized rules to being gay.
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    Sep 13, 2013 8:07 PM GMT
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    elektrisk564 said
    PR_GMR saidPeople using the term 'clean'..people 'insisting their date partner gets tested before dating.' It's sad to see gay men judging and rejecting one another over status. The best men I've met in the past years have been poz. Go figure.

    It's your body. It's your life. Fucking without condoms? It's your decision.


    First off, it is very laughable when people indirectly talk about other people. I am the one talking about testing with your partner and asking people if they are clean, so why didn't you quote me?

    It is a very personal matter whether to pursue relations with a poz guy. Poz people need to be understanding of that. Yes, some HIV- people are rude and disrespctful, even unsympathetic, but when it comes to being sexually active with someone who they know to be poz, it is reasonable for them to err on the side of caution.

    You said it yourself.. "It's your body. It's your life." So why is there such a stigma to not wanting to have sexual relations with guys who have STDs or HIV? Conditions that are not curable?

    I am so over the gay guys who try to act all politically correct as if there are standardized rules to being gay.


    Truth.

    You've should have seen all of the bisexuals that came at me. All because of my tastes.
    Its just like a racial preference tbh.


    You should have seen the people raging at me because I said I did not like dating black men, just hooking up with them. I might as well have been a leader of the KKK in their eyes. I have never been called racist and misquoted so many times in one thread lol.
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    Sep 13, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    No one around here uses condoms

    Not even my BF of almost 5 years and I (tested HIV- a week and a half ago, btw)

    In terms of fucking other people - uhh honestly it's not gonna happen with the people around here. I am far too paranoid.
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    Sep 13, 2013 9:11 PM GMT
    failscarf said
    elektrisk564 said
    failscarf said
    elektrisk564 said
    PR_GMR saidPeople using the term 'clean'..people 'insisting their date partner gets tested before dating.' It's sad to see gay men judging and rejecting one another over status. The best men I've met in the past years have been poz. Go figure.

    It's your body. It's your life. Fucking without condoms? It's your decision.


    First off, it is very laughable when people indirectly talk about other people. I am the one talking about testing with your partner and asking people if they are clean, so why didn't you quote me?

    It is a very personal matter whether to pursue relations with a poz guy. Poz people need to be understanding of that. Yes, some HIV- people are rude and disrespctful, even unsympathetic, but when it comes to being sexually active with someone who they know to be poz, it is reasonable for them to err on the side of caution.

    You said it yourself.. "It's your body. It's your life." So why is there such a stigma to not wanting to have sexual relations with guys who have STDs or HIV? Conditions that are not curable?

    I am so over the gay guys who try to act all politically correct as if there are standardized rules to being gay.


    Truth.

    You've should have seen all of the bisexuals that came at me. All because of my tastes.
    Its just like a racial preference tbh.


    You should have seen the people raging at me because I said I did not like dating black men, just hooking up with them. I might as well have been a leader of the KKK in their eyes. I have never been called racist and misquoted so many times in one thread lol.


    Thats all we need to know.
    *Blocks*
    *Take notes of his kind*

    And as a parting note, please don't hit on us black men when you become a fat, old, oily, crusty troll; we WON'T be interested. Hope you enjoyed the ride kkkiddo. Thx.


    You're kidding, right? lol
  • MarvelClimber

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    Sep 14, 2013 7:27 PM GMT
    I've noticed this a lot lately. Guys who claim that they're HIV- and want to stay that way, but they're willing to bareback with me because I'm hot or really cool. That's a complete turn-off; obviously they're saying the same shit to others.

    I rather sleep with a HIV+ guy who's upfront about it than some guy who says he's "clean." Anyone who says that clearly doesn't know about all the other STIs you can get without protection. We already run risks by not using condoms during oral sex. It's as if these guys don't think about their futures.

    On the plus side, I have noticed more HIV+ guys owning their status and telling others. And it doesn't seem they're lacking in the sex dept.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    You would think they would at LEAST wear a decent mask...

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    Sep 14, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    you have risky sex, you reap what you sow
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    Sep 14, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    somersault saidyou have risky sex, you reap what you sow


    And afterwards, some folks will be praying for crop failure.

    @all - It's just a condom. Use them already.
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    Sep 14, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    Not enough people are thinking about herpes when they hook up unfortnuately :-/

    I am freaked outed when someone requests to be barebacked or "breed". I'm scared for them and more scared for self so it results in no physical contact. No condoms as a preference seems like a death by sex wish.

    Now guys who bring up testing are potential keepers.
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    Sep 14, 2013 8:20 PM GMT
    villain4hire said...

    Now guys who bring up testing are potential keepers.


    THIS. Anybody who is intelligent enough and confident enough to have "The Conversation" has definitely passed one of my "filters".
  • FRE0

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    Sep 14, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    The consensus, which seems quite reasonable, is that everyone should use a condom. But how many guys use a condom for oral sex? Is it assumed that the only way gay men have sex in anal?
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    Sep 14, 2013 9:15 PM GMT
    If he doesn't want to use protection, I'd dump him to the curb Lol, not even worth it catching something! I mean, I like you but I am going to put my health/safety first.