Putting yourself "out there" on the Internet

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    Sep 13, 2013 6:40 PM GMT
    As a young guy who will be in career mode in less than a few years, this has been on my mind.

    I am trying to find a balance between (1) having fun and being active on social media, sites like realjock, etc. and (2) monitoring myself, not putting too much in the open. We all know the government sees every picture and word we have ever posted, but I really couldn't care less about that. I have nothing to hide from the feds.

    That said, I AM careful about my image online, more for the sake of potential employers snooping through my various profiles. Also, I want to maintain a certain level of privacy in general, not just because of the professional world. For instance, and I am not judging at all, I see guys posting full body pictures of themselves in underwear all the time - nudes too *gasp*. I would not do this because, just recently, I have seen several RJ members' provocative pics (with face) floating around tumblr. There are even times when I feel like making a post, and I refrain because I don't want particular opinions and words etched in stone and forever attached to me -- especially in threads about or relating to sex.

    What do you think about this? Do you worry/care about what you post? Do you not? Why?

    Let's hear it.
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    Sep 13, 2013 11:50 PM GMT
    "That said, I AM careful about my image online, more for the sake of potential employers snooping through my various profiles."

    Beyond the content, consider the volume of what you post.

    If you clearly post all day-every day, an employer may have reason to doubt either your work ethic or your focus.

    As an employer I would be concerned that the constant poster would end up being the constant talker in the office.
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    Sep 13, 2013 11:52 PM GMT
    I don't post anything my 99 year old grandmother couldn't see. That includes my underwear pics.
  • Splendidus_1

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    Sep 14, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    I found an online profile of a college teacher of mine. Face pics, body pics .. read, nude pics. Still, successful as fuck, he is.

    Companies check the major sites, like FB, LinkedIn, Tweeter, etc. I think this is a safe zone, haha.
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    Sep 14, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    Sometimes I look at them with admiration and other times in horror. Certainly it is risky, maybe even stupid to expose too much before a career is established. I suppose that might depend partly upon a person's talents, contacts and other personal resources.

    But also there's the question: is the person with that profile simply being forthright about our sexuality which might reveal a great deal of integrity with the person being honest about who they are right down to their skivvies and beyond. Or is that merely disguised exhibitionism? Nudity as costume.
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    Sep 14, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    Very good post.

    As an employer I always check all online activities aside from doing the traditional background check on all my potential employees. I take in consideration everything they post and then assemble a profile about them and determine if they're worth working for me.

    Photos don't play too much of a role in my process unless they are heavily intoxicated and is a constant routine. For example, three consecutive nights partying hard every week. On FB I also take into account their likes. It help relate more to them plus I want a harmonic workplace and if they don't "fit-in" they are not gonna get hired.

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    Sep 14, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    MCB_ said
    What do you think about this? Do you worry/care about what you post? Do you not? Why?
    Let's hear it.

    I really care about what I speak, I do sometimes restrain myself from speaking certain things. This self restrain is partly helping me what to speak and what not to speak out in public.

    I tend to choose my words carefully so that the reader cannot, even remotely, think or get the feeling that I'm insulting or offending him.

    Few things I follow..
    If you're good, then there's nothing to worry about.
    What happens in the future is not in our hands. Anything may happen. So, we should focus and put all our energy in the present than in the future or past.
    “There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever”...As a believer in god, recalling this quote whenever I worry calms me down.


    Just focus only on the good things, you'll be fine ;)
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    Sep 14, 2013 5:23 PM GMT
    I feel very much like you. I don't want pictures of me floating out of control around the internet (although not many people would like to see them haha), so I try to show just what I'd show for example on facebook.

    But well, you can always erase your profile (so as not to make your words so much 'etched in stone'). At least that would make it more difficult to trace them back to you.

  • HottJoe

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    Sep 14, 2013 6:00 PM GMT
    FastlaneKid saidVery good post.

    As an employer I always check all online activities aside from doing the traditional background check on all my potential employees. I take in consideration everything they post and then assemble a profile about them and determine if they're worth working for me.

    Photos don't play too much of a role in my process unless they are heavily intoxicated and is a constant routine. For example, three consecutive nights partying hard every week. On FB I also take into account their likes. It help relate more to them plus I want a harmonic workplace and if they don't "fit-in" they are not gonna get hired.


    I'm so glad I'm not job-huntung...

    You should change your SN to "big brother."icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    It depends on what type of job you want. Some employers will check deeply into your background, including your online presence. Some employers will check just because they want to see if you're a model employee. Others will check because they have to, like for jobs that have some sort of security clearance required.

    RJ is a very small site, but it's best to assume an employer will find it. You have to decide whether is worth posting something that could be used against you later.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:51 PM GMT

    [/quote]I'm so glad I'm not job-huntung...

    You should change your SN to "big brother."icon_rolleyes.gif[/quote]

    Seriously! What business is it of employers to snoop around their current or potential workers' life online in the first place? Back in the day somebody would go to jail for opening another person's snail mail without their permission (they still could.) Somehow having stuff on a computer means it's fair game. Now some companies are even demanding that any of their employees be either non-smokers or quitting. Again, WTF??? WHEN IT HAS NO EFFECT ON YOUR PRODUCTIVITY OR THE QUALITY OF WHATEVER YOUR PRODUCT MIGHT BE, LEAVE IT ALONE.

    Rampant disregard for privacy isn't the only reason I'll never have a Facebook account. As for the sites I do haunt, you'll waste your time trying to find my real (or at least full) name.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    gta5iscomingin3days said


    now that you said it. if you live in like one of the 30 plus states where you can be fired simply because you're gay, does it really make a difference when you're on a gay website? all your employer has to do is see your face, you hugging it up with your boyfriend, you taking pictures of the gay pride parade, having a rainbow flag or implicating that you're gay. then when hr sees it, it's like "boom, you're gay. we don't want to hire you." it could be here, facebook, myspace, or whatever. as gay men, we really don't have that much protections that keep us from being discriminated against period.


    Egg-zack-a-lack-a-lee!!! And who's fooling who? In "equal opportunity" places there's a whole list of handy excuses for not selecting somebody for a job because of what they are.
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    Sep 14, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    FastlaneKid saidVery good post.

    As an employer I always check all online activities aside from doing the traditional background check on all my potential employees. I take in consideration everything they post and then assemble a profile about them and determine if they're worth working for me.

    Photos don't play too much of a role in my process unless they are heavily intoxicated and is a constant routine. For example, three consecutive nights partying hard every week. On FB I also take into account their likes. It help relate more to them plus I want a harmonic workplace and if they don't "fit-in" they are not gonna get hired.


    I'm so glad I'm not job-huntung...

    You should change your SN to "big brother."icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yeah, because no one else in corporate America does it to make sure they don't hire the wrong candidates... icon_rolleyes.gif dumbass
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    Sep 14, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    MCB, I agree with your current practices.

    One thing I would add is to severely limit linking to and from FB. For example, I was using some web running log and each time I added a run it would add an entry on FB. I quickly realized that it was just noise and stopped it updating FB; nobody cares about my running. Likewise my achievements on my PS3, etc. ad nauseum. The only stuff on your FB should be stuff you've manually added. And don't use FB for a proxy login to other sites; that just makes more trails for snoops to follow; google is probably better for single sign on. Same for everything for twitter.
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    Oct 03, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    MCB_ saidAs a young guy who will be in career mode in less than a few years, this has been on my mind.

    I am trying to find a balance between (1) having fun and being active on social media, sites like realjock, etc. and (2) monitoring myself, not putting too much in the open. We all know the government sees every picture and word we have ever posted, but I really couldn't care less about that. I have nothing to hide from the feds.

    That said, I AM careful about my image online, more for the sake of potential employers snooping through my various profiles. Also, I want to maintain a certain level of privacy in general, not just because of the professional world. For instance, and I am not judging at all, I see guys posting full body pictures of themselves in underwear all the time - nudes too *gasp*. I would not do this because, just recently, I have seen several RJ members' provocative pics (with face) floating around tumblr. There are even times when I feel like making a post, and I refrain because I don't want particular opinions and words etched in stone and forever attached to me -- especially in threads about or relating to sex.

    What do you think about this? Do you worry/care about what you post? Do you not? Why?

    Let's hear it.


    Personally I wouldn't post nudes. It would be awkward to have coworkers with "X-Ray" vision if that makes sense.

    As far as other things go, it depends what career you want to enter into. Yes, RealJock maybe under the radar from job searches now, but that doesn't mean it will be this way forever. With all of that being said LIFE IS TOO SHORT NOT TO BE WHO YOU ARE. Then again at 19 I'd search the RJ forums and didn't even have a picture up.
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    Oct 03, 2013 6:04 AM GMT
    Okay it's annoying me. I am 98% it's "whom", but "who" sounds better.
  • Eli_jah

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    Oct 03, 2013 6:29 AM GMT
    Who gives a fuck? I'm not censoring myself or my thoughts for anything or anyone.
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    Oct 03, 2013 7:21 AM GMT
    I think it depends on your comfort level and the job you're after. A couple guys said it, let me address a couple of concern.

    . Set your facebook profile private and just share in your friends setting, I only have about 240 something peeps, still a lot and I don't approve random people. How can employers see your partying pics if you set it private/friend only right? Lol I can be wrong but I don't post pics of me drinking on there. (well ok just me sipping some martinis and champagne at a wedding, big deal).

    . RJ is a gay site for fitness/gay men, I think it's safe that employers won't track you down here.

    . As far as nudes, naked or whatever *embarrassing photos you may have, this is just me, I don't have a problem with this or looking at nudes photos or showing off my nude photos (but I deleted them recently due to the fact I noticed that the same *weird guys kept looking but never said anything, lurkers and those photos are kinda old). Anyway, it's not like you made a porno like Paris Hilton and ended up suing Sunshine Video! icon_redface.gif

    . But yeah, the bottom line is don't share infos or pictures that you may regret later and even if it goes there in the future, you know whatever, we're humans and we all made mistakes! I think it's funny and kinda creepy that potential employers try to look for your nudes on the internet, like they need to just get on with business and get a life! How does my naked photos affect my performance at work exactly? Lol, just my observation, some of the boys next door clean cut types are like the freakiest in bed lol maybe bc they're so repressed. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 03, 2013 7:29 AM GMT
    OK I'll give my 2 cents on this. I've worked in online advertising long enough to pretend I know a little about it:

    1. Work, work work those privacy settings. Nobody you're not friends with should be able to see any posts or tagged pictures on Facebook, at the minimum.

    Take some time to go through the privacy settings and when in doubt, choose the higher security setting. When an employer looks you up on Facebook, they shouldn't see anything beyond a G-rated profile picture, your name, and the town you're from. This way they can't do anything more than confirm it's you.

    2. On Twitter, consider locking your account, or if you don't want to do that (which is fair enough as it defeats the purpose of the medium somewhat) think twice before posting anything that's funny but may seem inappropriate in a professional way. Many professionals use their Twitter account for online personal brand building and talking about somewhat work related things.

    Do not ever engage trolls on Twitter, having a page full of endless @replies to random people about dumb topics makes you look unprofessional. Instead, groom your Twitter to show both a bit of your more serious/professional interests and a bit of personality. All G-rated of course.

    3. Make sure your LinkedIn profile is good, up to date, contains important keywords and is complimentary (as opposed to a replacement) of your resume. If you do this well, your LinkedIn profile will always rank above most other things when your name is googled.

    I'd say make your LinkedIn profile that good, that your potential future employer will only check out your Twitter for good measure (and because you linked to it from your LinkedIn) and won't even bother with your Facebook account.

    4. Google yourself, be aware of what's out there and make sure to remove any incriminating or otherwise undesirable content well in advance to when you suspect someone may look for it; it will take a while to be flushed from the index.

    5. For fuck's sake hide your Instagram account with an endless stream of selfies, sandwiches, screendumped quotes of "wisdom" and inappropriate party pictures. There's some privacy settings too that you can use to prevent non-logged in users to see your profile. If your employer has instagram, his account is probably all douchy selfies and chicken sandwiches, too. It may also help to not use your real name in your instagram username the way you would in your Twitter handle.

    For extra security, google your most common username - something that you've used for Hotmail and Gmail and Yahoo and whatever emails you may have had. Sometimes forums or message boards won't display your name, but will display your email address/username.

    You may not be able to fix everything, but at least you're aware. The most impportant advice would be to optimize the profiles that you want found so that employers will see them, and keep out of sight that what you don't want found.

    Unless you're applying for a job with the NSA of course, in which case you have some explaining to do icon_razz.gif
  • Manarii2281

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    Oct 03, 2013 9:00 AM GMT
    I always use my secondary or third-ary email for all online registrations and never use my full name. If I am asked for a name, I use my first and middle name.

    I can't imagine how I would be traceable. If I did a random search for my name, I am findable thru a few older jobs and old addresses, but that is normal.

    I do know a guy in San Francisco of all places who has been looking for a few years to find a better job, qualified as he is, he cannot at all. One thing particularly glaring, is that he posts on facebook with his full name (first middle and last) and much of what he posts is gay oriented, political commentary, depression, old job info, jokes about being arrested, jokes about drug use (even though he doesn't use), heavy tv commentary. He posts all day and even during his job. I cannot imagine how this does not affect his job search and the fact that out of over 500 facebook friends, (none to few close ones) not one has helped recommend him to a position.

    I guess: Use a dummy email, do not use your full name and of course, be vigilant on what you post. I.e no threats of destruction. But you have to have some life though.
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    Oct 03, 2013 10:29 AM GMT
    It sounds like you may be concerned about a certain level of consistency with your profession. When it comes to representing your company you may have the option to get creative with your marketing strategy. Not saying I do or do not want to see you naked man but just keep in mind there have been some very successful seminars held with a happy hour party showing acceptance for the customer's euphoria which could be orgasmic.
  • Fable

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    Oct 03, 2013 10:49 AM GMT
    lmao, as if an employer is gonna find you on realjock.

    if they do... they probably swing the same way and won't be surprised if you're posting some questionable content.

    and look at the hundreds of n00dz on here, it's safe to assume that those people still have jobs.
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    Oct 03, 2013 12:02 PM GMT
    Well at some pt in time i will be toning down my pics alot . ill probably lock most face pics and use a torso pic as main profile. I work in the public eye so i think for the sake of my career thats the best step. Honestly if i was straight id have to do the same thing on those sites. Hopefully by that time ill find my guy and wont care too much
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    Oct 03, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    The irony of this is that the cries of freedom of speech and the declaration of some on here (not this topic) that they would fight to the death for another's right to free speech, no matter what is said, are helpless against the greatest of censorship- that of corporations that have you by the balls.

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    Oct 03, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
    meninlove said The irony of this is that the cries of freedom of speech and the declaration of some on here (not this topic) that they would fight to the death for another's right to free speech, no matter what is said, are helpless against the greatest of censorship- that of corporations that have you by the balls.


    I would make a long and extremely political reply to this post, but I don't want any potential employers to see it. icon_wink.gif