Afraid of driving?

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    Sep 14, 2013 7:01 PM GMT
    I am 23 and I still have not got my driver's licience, this is not uncommon in the UK, however I have had plenty of opportunities in the past 6 years to take my test but I don't want to drive because I am afraid of driving, I often prefer to take trains and buses or just walk, I don't even like being a passenger of someone else's car, driving that fast in a metal box at high speeds with tons of other cars when just one wrong move that can kill you.

    Anyone else afraid of driving?

    Anyone got advice on how to overcome this fear?

    When I lives in America last year I was terrified of most travel, I often always had to be driven and it scared that crap out of me, my first night with a friend in LA and I saw over 4 car crashes.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    Even if you are afraid of driving, you should get your license just to have it.

    I'm not afraid of driving so I can't give you advice on how to overcome your fear, but I can assure you that it's not as bad as you make it out to be.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:06 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidEven if you are afraid of driving, you should get your license just to have it.

    I'm not afraid of driving so I can't give you advice on how to overcome your fear, but I can assure you that it's not as bad as you make it out to be.


    Driving well is very hard, and just one slip of attention or mistake in reading road lanes or failure to put turning signals or even another drivers mistake and boom you're dead.

    I don't get peoples fear of planes, but I do get fear of driving, far more people die of road fatalities than anything else.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:07 PM GMT
    dude, what aren't u afraid of? icon_neutral.gif


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    Sep 14, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    i2ci2i said
    Driving well is very hard, and just one slip of attention or mistake in reading road lanes or failure to put turning signals or even another drivers mistake and boom you're dead.

    I don't get peoples fear of planes, but I do get fear of driving, far more people die of road fatalities than anything else.


    I get that driving well is hard and many people don't drive well. However, I think that people like you (who realize how dangerous it can be) would make better drivers because of this. There will always be bad drivers though.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    Import saiddude, what aren't u afraid of? icon_neutral.gif




    It's a scary world out there icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:19 PM GMT
    i2ci2i said
    Import saiddude, what aren't u afraid of? icon_neutral.gif




    It's a scary world out there icon_wink.gif

    not really. icon_confused.gif

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    Sep 14, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    Import said
    i2ci2i said
    Import saiddude, what aren't u afraid of? icon_neutral.gif




    It's a scary world out there icon_wink.gif

    not really. icon_confused.gif



    muggers, serial killers, drugs, poverty, bankruptsy, unemployment, rapists, politicans, exams, hunger, storms, plane crashes, wars, racism, homophobia, sexism etc.

    need i go on?
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
    i2ci2i said
    Import said
    i2ci2i said
    Import saiddude, what aren't u afraid of? icon_neutral.gif




    It's a scary world out there icon_wink.gif

    not really. icon_confused.gif



    muggers, serial killers, drugs, poverty, bankruptsy, unemployment, rapists, politicans, exams, hunger, storms, plane crashes, wars, racism, homophobia, sexism etc.

    need i go on?


    no, please don't. icon_rolleyes.gif

    You need to lighten up a bit. You're wound too tight.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    Import said
    i2ci2i said
    Import said
    i2ci2i said
    Import saiddude, what aren't u afraid of? icon_neutral.gif




    It's a scary world out there icon_wink.gif

    not really. icon_confused.gif



    muggers, serial killers, drugs, poverty, bankruptsy, unemployment, rapists, politicans, exams, hunger, storms, plane crashes, wars, racism, homophobia, sexism etc.

    need i go on?


    no, please don't. icon_rolleyes.gif

    You need to lighten up a bit. You're wound too tight.


    I've been having a dry spell this summer icon_cry.gif

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    Sep 14, 2013 7:29 PM GMT
    Meah.
    Don't beat yourself up, plenty of people don't drive and have fear of it.
    Had a buddy that would not get on the interstate, anything over 40 miles and hour would send him into a panic attack.
    -With a coworker once, who I had to get out and take over driving as she couldn't merge into traffic.
    -Hubby's finrges turn white from gripping the steering wheel if it starts raining or god forbid a truck passes us.
    You may be actually doing the rest of us a favor by not driving.
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    Sep 14, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    I think everyone is afraid of driving at the beginning when they first start learning how to drive. It's because you are doing something that you are bad at (because driving takes much practice) and is potentially dangerous. For some, it's harder to get over this initial hump than others. I was one of those people. It really helped me when I just stopped over thinking (about the associated dangers and what I was constantly doing wrong). In order to feel safe, practice defensive driving. And remember, nothing in life is a 100% safe. Hope this helps.
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    Sep 15, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    maybe u could like....take a few valium before u drive so u calm down... u know?
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    Sep 15, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    Import saidmaybe u could like....take a few valium before u drive so u calm down... u know?



    lmao import you do crack me up sometimes.
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    Sep 15, 2013 3:03 AM GMT
    Import saidmaybe u could like....take a few valium before u drive so u calm down... u know?


    icon_eek.gif good advise icon_rolleyes.gif

    if you are afraid of driving, then don't.. Not everyone is made to drive, and thats ok.
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    Sep 15, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    Is that meaning gay man can't drive?I can ride motorbike in full speed all I want on the road,but with car,I seriously need to slow it down,so that I don't kill any people.I haven't drive since I got the license,icon_lol.gif.
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    Sep 15, 2013 9:16 AM GMT
    i2ci2i, please find the reason for your fears and find solution on your own to overcome them.

    I were afraid of riding bikes though i know it and am having the driver's licence.
    It was due to an automatic feeling set up in my mind after i lost my father in a bike accident when i was 7. My father was crazy of bikes and i too were acquiring same interests as a child.
    But now i am overcoming the fear through my friends and am almost done. I'm even planning to buy one shortly.
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    Sep 15, 2013 10:17 AM GMT
    I'm afraid of driving too. In fact I learned how to ride a bicycle when I was 13 whereas all my fellow mates know how to ride way before me. It just scares me because in my country no one follows traffic rules. The only way to travel across any City in my country is by ignoring the very rules which are required by every citizen to follow, which I can't concentrate on.
    Now I lost interest totally, it's not exactly fear I think I have now...I have some ethical reasons too.

    To OP
    The fear you said you have, is it the fear of you making an accident or the fear of someone causing you an accident.
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    Sep 15, 2013 12:09 PM GMT
    Import saidmaybe u could like....take a few valium before u drive so u calm down... u know?


    So the solution is doping him up and putting him behind the wheel of a machine? Lol. Now i'm frightenedicon_eek.gif
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    Sep 15, 2013 12:40 PM GMT
    Growing up, we had a long time housekeeper & her husband who worked for us. The housekeeper didn't know how to drive all those years, and the husband always drove her wherever they went. I asked her why she didn't want to learn to drive and she said, "If I drove, and came up to an intersection or anything complicated, or if anyone did anything to rattle me, I'd throw my hands up over my eyes and scream!"

    So, it was then that I realized that not everyone should have a driver's license.
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    Sep 15, 2013 12:59 PM GMT
    I have a fear of stupid people, always. The people who drive and text and other mindless activities are the worst people in history, or something like that. The world is full of entitled morons and drivers are dangerous when they feel like they are better at multi-tasking than anyone else.
    I have a license to drive, but I hardly ever drive because way too many stupids are on the roads. If you can avoid driving, do it.
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    Sep 15, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    Hmm. Being a car nut from early childhood, I couldn't wait to drive a car as a kid. The first time someone let me drive (illegally) was when I was 13, and I did ok, it was the biggest thrill of my childhood. Got my license at 17 and driven a lot since, driving being necessary on Long Island if you want to get somewhere. My grandfather, on the other hand, who grew up in NYC, had no interest in driving whatsoever and never had a license. My grandmother got one instead, and she drove everywhere they needed a car to get to, which was unusual in those days.

    It's an independence thing, which is why many old people who shouldn't be driving insist on keeping their car and license. If you live where there's decent public transportation and/or everything is within walking distance, then you don't really need to drive. Otherwise, it's necessary, and part of growing up. It's up to you.