Which of these 4 cities would you move or not move to and why?

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    Sep 16, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    Raleigh, NC

    San Diego, CA

    Phoenix, AZ

    Boston, MA


    These are all on my list of apartment searches this week, but can't decide. San Diego and Boston are not looking so promising since everything seems to be $1,500 a month and more.

    I'm not sure if I know enough about North Carolina to move there, and Phoenix seems the easiest decision with proximity and C.O.L. But, I've read things on here not praising Phoenix too much...but not sure why some people feel that way.
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    Sep 16, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    The state of North Carolina has a kinda reactionary Republican government, if that means anything to you.

    Phoenix is unbearably hot 7-8 months of the year, where no one goes outside except from their air-conditioned living space to their air-conditioned car to their air-conditioned destination. Rents are cheap because wages/salaries are low.
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    Sep 16, 2013 10:37 PM GMT
    Phoenix = hotter than hell, 10 months out of the year.
    Boston = Snow and freezing, 6 months out of the year.
    Raleigh = WAY too conservative (homophobic and racist)

    San Diego is the winner, although you said it was too expensive...
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    Sep 17, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidPhoenix = hotter than hell, 10 months out of the year.
    Boston = Snow and freezing, 6 months out of the year.
    Raleigh = WAY too conservative (homophobic and racist)

    San Diego is the winner, although you said it was too expensive...


    Well right now, San Diego is on my next destination list.

    I think if I do consider SD, I'd have to move further out from the city perhaps. Roommate situation I'm not too keen on. Living on the back of someone's house...doable,but still kinda iffy. Did that in Miami, didn't work out too well.

    One thing for sure, SD has some FIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINE guys out for me from what I've seen. These Denver dudes so far below par, they not even on my level.

    Oh btw thanks for the suggestion to avoid Raleigh. But dang, I thought it was a progressive college town and I was really considering it :-( I've gone twice, but it did kind of seem to 'southern' to me. Something about it didn't quite sit right with me.
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    Sep 18, 2013 7:54 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge saidThe state of North Carolina has a kinda reactionary Republican government, if that means anything to you.


    what kind of stuff do reactonary republicans do?
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    Sep 18, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidRaleigh, NC

    San Diego, CA

    Phoenix, AZ

    Boston, MA


    These are all on my list of apartment searches this week, but can't decide. San Diego and Boston are not looking so promising since everything seems to be $1,500 a month and more.

    I'm not sure if I know enough about North Carolina to move there, and Phoenix seems the easiest decision with proximity and C.O.L. But, I've read things on here not praising Phoenix too much...but not sure why some people feel that way.
    Move back to Florida. Based on all of your past threads, you seem pretty miserable everywhere else. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 19, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    Puppenjunge saidThe state of North Carolina has a kinda reactionary Republican government, if that means anything to you.


    what kind of stuff do reactonary republicans do?

    1) They passed one of the worst Voter ID laws in the country.
    2) Attempts to roll back abortion rights
    3) North Carolina's constitutional amendment against gay marriage also bans any type of civil union for same sex couples. That crosses the line between "protecting" marriage and being flat out anti-gay.
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    Sep 19, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    Take Boston.

    Cost of living is cheap in those other areas because the pay is low. This is the story of South Florida....low wages and the only wealthy ones are retirees from places like Boston.

    Gay have an advantage because we usually don't have kids to pay for, so we do things like buy a house. You rent rooms out at those high rental prices...which pays your mortgage.
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    Sep 19, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    Anywhere but Phoenix. Hot, not walkable, conservative. No.

    I haven't been to Raleigh proper but I know people who live there and they do not describe it as conservative, especially in and around Chapel Hill. I really enjoyed the time I spent visiting friends at UNC, but that's all I can say for that.

    Boston and San Diego are pretty different from each other. Boston is a very intellectual city. People like to discuss ideas and curiosity is a strongly valued trait. I don't think these characteristics are necessarily true of San Diego...not that that's necessarily a bad thing. Just people are more content to leave ideas unexplored in favor of relaxing times at the beach, or family or whatever.

    Boston is also much denser than San Diego, so you'll be able to get around walking, bicycling or on public transportation.

    Boston weather really isn't that bad - snow can be fun, and it's kind of hard to explain just how amazing a crisp autumn day feels there. There's also a great culture of really living up the beautiful days. But San Diego's weather is just consistently pleasant. San Diego is also more scenic - beautiful in a way that Boston cannot compare - and there are more opportunities for outdoor recreation.

    Anyway, just don't be fooled by cost of living. The laws of supply and demand apply to it just like anything else...in other words, you get what you pay for.
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    Sep 19, 2013 8:28 AM GMT
    xrichx saidMove back to Florida. Based on all of your past threads, you seem pretty miserable everywhere else.

    Fuck you, you fucking non-negotiable bitch. Your profile doesn't sound much like you really like where you are either.

    But...you may have a point there. I grew up in Florida, so I will be criticle of many other places. Like Dorathee said, "there's no place like...Florida" In good and bad ways...as we learned not so long ago. The bad is what keeps me from moving back there. Roaches, racism, and rent. The 3 r's. All of which run high there.

    Are you happy now? I just slandered my own state...
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    Sep 19, 2013 8:43 AM GMT
    CFL_Oakland saidAnywhere but Phoenix.

    Boston is also much denser than San Diego, so you'll be able to get around walking, bicycling or on public transportation.

    Anyway, just don't be fooled by cost of living. The laws of supply and demand apply to it just like anything else...in other words, you get what you pay for.

    Ugh, I was really thinking about moving to Phoenix...atleast as a starting point. I could go and get a nice place in a flash. But, lessons learnt...I don't want to be disappointed again. I usually spent time in Scottsdale, if that makes a difference. Scottsdale is really pretty.

    Phoenix may be good just for vacation it sounds. But then again, seems like all the guys I meet there are living well lol. I don't get it. Living and visiting are 2 different things I guess.

    As for cost of living...it's just hard to decide. Boston and Diego want you to come up with $3,000 just to move in. I'll already have to spend 1/4-1/2 of that trying to get there. That's going to be a factor. I also don't want to spend all my money on housing either at this point in life. I pay less than $600 where I'm at for a place that has everything I need. I don't even need to go to a laundrymat or share a room with anyone.

    It scares me to think I'd need to pay $800 and not have any of that, or be living subpar. Wherever I move, I want to make sure I enjoy it and be able to afford it. I don't want to live in a nice city but have to go home to a dump.
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    Sep 19, 2013 1:47 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    xrichx saidMove back to Florida. Based on all of your past threads, you seem pretty miserable everywhere else.

    Fuck you, you fucking non-negotiable bitch. Your profile doesn't sound much like you really like where you are either.

    But...you may have a point there. I grew up in Florida, so I will be criticle of many other places. Like Dorathee said, "there's no place like...Florida" In good and bad ways...as we learned not so long ago. The bad is what keeps me from moving back there. Roaches, racism, and rent. The 3 r's. All of which run high there.

    Are you happy now? I just slandered my own state...
    Why so angry? I'm just concerned because your past threads clearly indicate you're not happy.
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    Sep 19, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
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    FuzzyPecs25 saidRaleigh, NC

    San Diego, CA

    Phoenix, AZ

    Boston, MA


    These are all on my list of apartment searches this week, but can't decide. San Diego and Boston are not looking so promising since everything seems to be $1,500 a month and more.

    I'm not sure if I know enough about North Carolina to move there, and Phoenix seems the easiest decision with proximity and C.O.L. But, I've read things on here not praising Phoenix too much...but not sure why some people feel that way.
    Move back to Florida. Based on all of your past threads, you seem pretty miserable everywhere else. icon_neutral.gif


    Please don't encourage her to move back to Florida. That fat black guy lives here already and I don't want another near me.

    Pecs is mad at the world. I'm sure everywhere she goes she will be angry at something. SHe will be like "Dey be racist" or "Dey not on my level"

    Move to China for all I care. Just not here...
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    Sep 19, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidThese are all on my list of apartment searches this week, but can't decide. San Diego and Boston are not looking so promising since everything seems to be $1,500 a month and more.


    Unless you're looking to live alone, Boston should be doable for less than $1,500, especially if you're willing to live a little bit farther out and take the subway/commuter rail in.
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    Sep 20, 2013 4:59 AM GMT
    SxyDrkHair saidThere are so many negative stereotypes about Phoenix Arizona in here.

    Here is a short video that explains a lot better than some guys in here talk about Phoenix.




    I am planning to move to Flagstaff in several months.


    LOL @ the bars stop serving alcohol at 1am. I don't even get to a club or bar in Miami till 1ish....
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    Sep 20, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    SxyDrkHair saidThere are so many negative stereotypes about Phoenix Arizona in here.

    Here is a short video that explains a lot better than some guys in here talk about Phoenix.




    I am planning to move to Flagstaff in several months.


    Hell, I'd move to Flagstaff!

    Phoenix is no Flagstaff.icon_razz.gif

    Cute video, though.
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    Sep 21, 2013 12:44 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said

    Please don't encourage her to move back to Florida. That fat black guy lives here already and I don't want another near me.

    You have a lot of nerve you fucking short, fathead, wetback spic. You're a Mexican immigrant trying to tell me not to move to the place that's my native land. Where I have relations to the Seminoles who are also native to Florida. You don't get to tell me where to move. Let's just be clear on that...

    You need to stay in your place and be picking grapefruits and oranges, and strawberries in Polk county instead of always coming on here spitting your vile.

    CLS332 said
    Unless you're looking to live alone, Boston should be doable for less than $1,500, especially if you're willing to live a little bit farther out and take the subway/commuter rail in.


    Well...that may just be an option for consideration. Only reason i say Raleigh, NC is because it's only 4 hours drive from DC, Which is 4 hours to everywhere else in the northeast. It gives me a headstart on being up north...as chances are when I move I won't have a ton of money to work with. Better than being in Denver and 500 miles away from nothing in every direction.

    I thing for sure, I think I'm over the West Coast. I hate to seem like I'm a racist, but I need to live in another state where Mexicant's aren't the primary Latino ethnicity. They are a fucking pain in my ass no matter whether I was in Texas or Colorado and I'm pretty sure California isn't much better and Phoenix is probably worse.

    I never had an issue with them until I moved away from Florida. I never had an issue with Puerto Ricans either. But out here, they feel entitled and want to think they tougher than other minorities and somehow better than us, and have this attitude that we're somehow beneath them. I'm sick of this mentality out here.

    People may be right I may not like anyplace in AMERICA...But I believe there's better places. People making comments like they probably never been around the globe. They think America is the center of the earth, and if you can't be happy here you can't be happy anywhere. Go travel some, open your mind.
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    Sep 21, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    I will choose SAN DIEGO!!!

    I really want to move to a bigger city. where theres lots of people. lots of self expression going on around the streets. lots of night life.

    so yea, San Diego, CA.

    I am dying with boredom here in Tallahassee... huhu...

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    Sep 21, 2013 8:06 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    jmusmc85 said

    Please don't encourage her to move back to Florida. That fat black guy lives here already and I don't want another near me.

    You have a lot of nerve you fucking short, fathead, wetback spic. You're a Mexican immigrant trying to tell me not to move to the place that's my native land. Where I have relations to the Seminoles who are also native to Florida. You don't get to tell me where to move. Let's just be clear on that...

    You need to stay in your place and be picking grapefruits and oranges, and strawberries in Polk county instead of always coming on here spitting your vile.

    CLS332 said
    Unless you're looking to live alone, Boston should be doable for less than $1,500, especially if you're willing to live a little bit farther out and take the subway/commuter rail in.


    Well...that may just be an option for consideration. Only reason i say Raleigh, NC is because it's only 4 hours drive from DC, Which is 4 hours to everywhere else in the northeast. It gives me a headstart on being up north...as chances are when I move I won't have a ton of money to work with. Better than being in Denver and 500 miles away from nothing in every direction.

    I thing for sure, I think I'm over the West Coast. I hate to seem like I'm a racist, but I need to live in another state where Mexicant's aren't the primary Latino ethnicity. They are a fucking pain in my ass no matter whether I was in Texas or Colorado and I'm pretty sure California isn't much better and Phoenix is probably worse.

    I never had an issue with them until I moved away from Florida. I never had an issue with Puerto Ricans either. But out here, they feel entitled and want to think they tougher than other minorities and somehow better than us, and have this attitude that we're somehow beneath them. I'm sick of this mentality out here.

    People may be right I may not like anyplace in AMERICA...But I believe there's better places. People making comments like they probably never been around the globe. They think America is the center of the earth, and if you can't be happy here you can't be happy anywhere. Go travel some, open your mind.

    That would be awful if someone took things out of context and thought you might be racist. Just awful.

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    Sep 21, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
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    That would be awful if someone took things out of context and thought you might be racist. Just awful.
    Quoted for posterity.


    I'm not racist though. Mexi guys are 1 of mi favorito. It's like just because a straight guy calls a woman a disgusting, filthy, slut whore slag, doesn't mean he's gay.

    With some people, you have to call them things to shut them the fuck up. It applies only to them, no one else. And stop fucking sticking up for him. I have NO tolerance for some immigrant telling me where I can't move in my own damn country. Fuck that.
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    Sep 23, 2013 11:49 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    xrichx saidMove back to Florida. Based on all of your past threads, you seem pretty miserable everywhere else.

    Fuck you, you fucking non-negotiable bitch. Your profile doesn't sound much like you really like where you are either.

    But...you may have a point there. I grew up in Florida, so I will be criticle of many other places. Like Dorathee said, "there's no place like...Florida" In good and bad ways...as we learned not so long ago. The bad is what keeps me from moving back there. Roaches, racism, and rent. The 3 r's. All of which run high there.

    Are you happy now? I just slandered my own state...


    No, you didn't slander us---you told the truth. Come back when the asshat Governor is gone, which should be January 2015 when a Democrat will take over.

    Raleigh is fairly progressive, which is saying a lot given the current state of political affairs in North Carolina. San Diego can be expensive, but the weather is flawless. Phoenix is hot and politically too far to the right for most tastes. Boston is the best bet if my opinion means something.

    Can I add a couple of other options? What about Washington, DC or Seattle?
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    Sep 25, 2013 2:11 PM GMT
    What about hell? You can go to hell.

    I hear the weather is warm year round!!!icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 26, 2013 3:47 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidRaleigh, NC

    San Diego, CA

    Phoenix, AZ

    Boston, MA


    These are all on my list of apartment searches this week, but can't decide. San Diego and Boston are not looking so promising since everything seems to be $1,500 a month and more.

    I'm not sure if I know enough about North Carolina to move there, and Phoenix seems the easiest decision with proximity and C.O.L. But, I've read things on here not praising Phoenix too much...but not sure why some people feel that way.


    Raleigh - Maybe.

    Lacking in any real culture or identity. I guess it's, charming?

    San Diego - HELL YES.

    Hot men. Beautiful weather. Great culture. Tons of restaurants/bars/museums/shops. Great QOL.

    Phoenix - NO.

    Again, lacking in culture. No identity either. Too right-wing for me.

    Boston - HELL YES.

    Best city in the USA. Great culture. Tons of young hotties. Diverse. So much greenery. Tons of restaurants/bars/shops, etc. Decent nightlife. Easy access to the ocean/mountains of New England.
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    Sep 26, 2013 1:07 PM GMT
    I would move to San Diego, CA top of the list. Well because it's in So Cal, I already live here and like the climate/people. San Diego looks great and has great job prospects. I met a couple guys that moved to LA from Phoenix and Boston (basically they said that Phoenix is too hot/cowboy or something and Boston gets really cold/hot extreme). I visited Boston twice back in 2010, my ex family live there. I like the city, kinda like San Francisco by the water, the one thing I hate in Boston is - They have rats in their apartments, I even saw the rental signs! Now if I'm paying like $1400 for a 1 bedroom, it better not have a rodent problem! Raleigh, don't know much about it but probably a good city! (prob. a lot of whites and not really big on diversity? Not sure!, never been to the south though). So yeah, but I still like Cali and prob. be here for a long while like the rest of the other Asian-populations.