I need help with anger issues

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    Sep 17, 2013 11:54 AM GMT
    Hi!
    I'll give you a little background. I've always been bubbly, and a ton of people have said I have a sunny disposition. However, of late, I've been having unforeseeable, uncontrollable fits of anger over insignificant things people might say or do. I haven't hit anybody or gone on a hulkish rampage, but I say things that hurt and ruin ties forever. People are scared sometimes to talk to me, and I'm scared and ashamed of myself.
    I deal with what I assume are the normal issues in everyday life, nothing overly cumbersome. I even saw a counsellor about this, she suggested yoga, meditation, and some brain excercises to help calm me down, but they never help. In the more recent episodes, I've only JUST managed to keep myself from physically hurting people. I'm extremely worried, and I hope this is just some phase.
    Any advice?
    Thanks!
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    Sep 17, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    Anger hurts a lot!

    I used to be a very short tempered person in the past, I strictly followed this and now I rarely get angry and even if I do get angry I can almost fully control my thoughts and actions and bring them under my control instead of submitting myself to them, which would otherwise makes it worse.

    The best thing I did was walk away from the source of the anger and try to recall some memories or incidents or quotes or whatever that helps me to calm down and think about it.
    I'm confident that this kind of approach will be helpful for anyone. It's tough at the beginning(What isn't?) but as you continue doing it, it'll surely does works miracles.

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    Sep 17, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    Thats the first thing I tried. Didnt really work. Thanks, though! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 17, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    There are other ways to deal anger.
    Watch this video...it may help you...or at least gives you a push.
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    Sep 17, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    Working out with weights can help to channel negative anger energy into positive physical and emotional strength. When I feel angry, I take it out on the weights. That helps with the more immediate symptoms. I also introspect on what is causing my anger so that I can pull that out by the root.

    Failure to address symptoms AND root cause can spell a life long recipe for misery, ill-health, and social disaster.