Why are you SINGLE???

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Sep 19, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    I would like to know why some of you think you are single. A great majority of the people on this site are. Why do you think you're single? Is it location? Lifestyle? You just don't have time? The right guy hasn't come along? You're not confident enough? You think you're not cute? Is it because you enjoy being single? If so will you be single forever? Or is it because the Prince Charming you have been waiting for all your life hasn't come and swept you off you feet?

    I am not asking you to look at your self in a negative way? I'm just wondering why it is so many "good looking" / "good guys" on this site are single?

    I'm single and I'm single because of my lifestyle. I really enjoy not having to worry about someone but sometimes it would be nice to have someone around. I've learned to enjoy my own company and I think that matters quite a bit.
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    Sep 19, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidI would like to know why some of you think you are single. A great majority of the people on this site are. Why do you think you're single? Is it location? Lifestyle? You just don't have time? The right guy hasn't come along? You're not confident enough? You think you're not cute? Is it because you enjoy being single? If so will you be single forever? Or is it because the Prince Charming you have been waiting for all your life hasn't come and swept you off you feet?

    I am not asking you to look at your self in a negative way? I'm just wondering why it is so many "good looking" / "good guys" on this site are single?

    I'm single and I'm single because of my lifestyle. I really enjoy not having to worry about someone but sometimes it would be nice to have someone around. I've learned to enjoy my own company and I think that matters quite a bit.

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    How could you expect anyone to be with you when you can't even be with just yourself?

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    Sep 19, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    I think the main reason is that I'm not exactly out, and I don't really go looking because I want to know for sure the guy is gay before I go in... so I'm basically screwed.

    Plus I'm horrible at all this "flirting" and talking to guys crap because if we have a friendship going, I wouldn't want to ruin it with me being all "I'm gay, are you?"
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Sep 19, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    TheAlchemixt saidI would like to know why some of you think you are single. A great majority of the people on this site are. Why do you think you're single? Is it location? Lifestyle? You just don't have time? The right guy hasn't come along? You're not confident enough? You think you're not cute? Is it because you enjoy being single? If so will you be single forever? Or is it because the Prince Charming you have been waiting for all your life hasn't come and swept you off you feet?

    I am not asking you to look at your self in a negative way? I'm just wondering why it is so many "good looking" / "good guys" on this site are single?

    I'm single and I'm single because of my lifestyle. I really enjoy not having to worry about someone but sometimes it would be nice to have someone around. I've learned to enjoy my own company and I think that matters quite a bit.

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    How could you expect anyone to be with you when you can't even be with just yourself?


    Where did you read that? I can be with myself. I'm with myself quite a bit actually. I do enjoy my own company, I've had a lot of free time to think. I've been traveling for the past 20 months. I'm just saying sometimes it would be nice to have someone around, human warmth and contact on an intimate level is quite nice.


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    Sep 19, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    TheAlchemixt said
    IceBuckets said
    TheAlchemixt saidI would like to know why some of you think you are single. A great majority of the people on this site are. Why do you think you're single? Is it location? Lifestyle? You just don't have time? The right guy hasn't come along? You're not confident enough? You think you're not cute? Is it because you enjoy being single? If so will you be single forever? Or is it because the Prince Charming you have been waiting for all your life hasn't come and swept you off you feet?

    I am not asking you to look at your self in a negative way? I'm just wondering why it is so many "good looking" / "good guys" on this site are single?

    I'm single and I'm single because of my lifestyle. I really enjoy not having to worry about someone but sometimes it would be nice to have someone around. I've learned to enjoy my own company and I think that matters quite a bit.

    Bolded for emphasis. icon_wink.gif

    How could you expect anyone to be with you when you can't even be with just yourself?


    Where did you read that? I can be with myself. I'm with myself quite a bit actually. I do enjoy my own company, I've had a lot of free time to think. I've been traveling for the past 20 months. I'm just saying sometimes it would be nice to have someone around, human warmth and contact on an intimate level is quite nice.



    Dude - I'm agreeing with you. I'm just adding additional words of "wisdom". icon_lol.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Sep 19, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    TheAlchemixt said
    IceBuckets said
    TheAlchemixt saidI would like to know why some of you think you are single. A great majority of the people on this site are. Why do you think you're single? Is it location? Lifestyle? You just don't have time? The right guy hasn't come along? You're not confident enough? You think you're not cute? Is it because you enjoy being single? If so will you be single forever? Or is it because the Prince Charming you have been waiting for all your life hasn't come and swept you off you feet?

    I am not asking you to look at your self in a negative way? I'm just wondering why it is so many "good looking" / "good guys" on this site are single?

    I'm single and I'm single because of my lifestyle. I really enjoy not having to worry about someone but sometimes it would be nice to have someone around. I've learned to enjoy my own company and I think that matters quite a bit.

    Bolded for emphasis. icon_wink.gif

    How could you expect anyone to be with you when you can't even be with just yourself?


    Where did you read that? I can be with myself. I'm with myself quite a bit actually. I do enjoy my own company, I've had a lot of free time to think. I've been traveling for the past 20 months. I'm just saying sometimes it would be nice to have someone around, human warmth and contact on an intimate level is quite nice.



    Dude - I'm agreeing with you. I'm just adding additional words of "wisdom". icon_lol.gif


    :X Oh, I totally read that wrong. :Hugs: icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 19, 2013 4:50 AM GMT
    I'm single because I work and go to school full time.
    I don't even have time for random hookups, not that I do that anyway.
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    Sep 19, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    There aren't a whole lot of eligible guys around my area. Plus, I tend to be quiet and prefer guys to approach me, which is not the best strategy at all.
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    Sep 19, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    I fire on all pistons and need multifaceted engagement, that's something "for me" that usually can only be satisfied by multiple men. I don't believe in zodiac signs but I do coincidentally fall under the many characteristics of my Gemini sign.

    I could settle into a wonderfully comfortable and consistent relationship, I tend to attract those types of guys, but where would the fun be in that?

    Love is a first world problem in an existence of privilege and opportunity. There are a GREAT many things worse than being single and many GREAT things about being single.

    A guy would need to keep up with me to hold my attention and secure my devotion. I'm a weirdo... but a joyously content weirdo who feels great happiness and love. Not a bad place to be.
  • Webster666

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    Sep 19, 2013 5:56 AM GMT
    Not bragging, just saying that I've had my share of boyfriends and partners.
    And, I just don't have the energy or desire, anymore, to do the work of both people.
    While I would love to have a true partner in life, I'm contented with the peace and quiet that I have.

    Will I be single forever ?
    Probably.
  • DrobUA

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    Sep 19, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    I'm single because I want to be. I work a lot and I like to spend my free time with my friends. A bf is too much of a time commitment and I don't want to have to choose between that and my friends.. Until I find someone I NEED in my life, I don't see a reason to change what I'm doing. I love my life right now.
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    Sep 19, 2013 6:32 AM GMT
    the fuck if I know
    it isn't by choice that's for sure
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Sep 19, 2013 6:41 AM GMT
    Maybe I am too fussy? Choosy?
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    Sep 19, 2013 6:54 AM GMT
    i can't seem to meet guys IRL to whom i'm attracted. I'm not really that picky even, not as much as i used to be anyway
  • Joeyphx444

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    Sep 19, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    It's not me, it's everyone else
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    Sep 19, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidi can't seem to meet guys IRL to whom i'm attracted. I'm not really that picky even, not as much as i used to be anyway

    This
  • visualguy

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    Sep 19, 2013 7:31 AM GMT
    Having gotten out of a 12 year relationship, I'm learning all over again how to be single and self reliant. There are days that I wish that I was once again partnered, and then I remind myself that all worthwhile endeavors take time. I'm single right now because I need to be.
  • 1sub2bind4use

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    Sep 19, 2013 7:40 AM GMT
    I've been so damned particular icon_rolleyes.gif about what they look like & what they're into, & the one's I think would be ideal aren't at all interested in me icon_cry.gif ('cause really I ain't all that grand looking to be expecting so much, though I work on what I can icon_smile.gif ).

    I realize this has been MY internal subconscious defense against actually having a meaningful intimate relationship icon_twisted.gif (probably in fear of having my heart broken again - 'cause it happened once & "it ain't gonna happen again "icon_evil.gif. My subconscious now has it thet I'm damaged goods icon_sad.gif, & every guy who might be the perfect match for me is simply a potential heart brake waiting to happen again icon_cry.gif - if they don't brake it, I'm sure I'll find a way to get them to icon_wink.gif ).

    I'm committed to that being the way of the past & not who I am now icon_smile.gif, though it's been so ingrained, I'm committed to giving up my argument thet it's all true.

    I guess, wish me luck ('cause it's never been them, it's always been me) icon_redface.gif.
  • 1sub2bind4use

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    Sep 19, 2013 7:59 AM GMT
    Oh yeah, & something's not in retrograde with some other thing icon_lol.gif, or what ever. I kissed a few frogs, but...nothin'icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 19, 2013 8:06 AM GMT
    Too passive, always waiting for people to approach.
    Too picky, shouldn't have done that, as being not so good looking myself.
    Too closeted, not out and afraid running into close friends and families when going out on a date.
    Too thin, mainly the reason. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • str8hardbody9

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    Sep 19, 2013 8:20 AM GMT
    I love my life now. My passion is world travel and often out of the country. Right now, I'm in Eastern Europe (Prague, Vienna and Budapest). I can't handle too much drama on a relationship. I'm single and very happy. Hopefully one day I will fall in love again.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 19, 2013 8:38 AM GMT
    Short answer: I am single by choice.
    Long Answer: Well after my previous relationship ended (about 3 yrs long), I learned so much about myself and what to expect or not to expect. I moved, changed direction in my job/work and making new friends. I've dated and slept with a couple guys since my ex but I guess I didn't see them as potential bf type! (aka rebound phase). There were guys that chase after me but I didn't really feel them. Lol, so I am dating at the moment and sorta seeing this one guy, it's new still, I kinda like him. So I'm not going to say anything else to jinx it! But technically, I'm single, don't see no ring on this finger yet! lol
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    Sep 19, 2013 8:45 AM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidthe fuck if I know
    it isn't by choice that's for sure


    ^ Here here ... ..
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    Sep 19, 2013 8:45 AM GMT
    guys dont like me i guess... maybe I'm not attractive to them or something...who knows?
  • caminhos

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    Sep 19, 2013 10:04 AM GMT
    1sub4sir2use
    Read your name again.

    Now ask yourself how many lads interested in a serious, committed long term relationship would think that was an appropriate name?