Bottoming help?

  • Pentanone

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    Sep 20, 2013 1:07 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I'm new here and was just wondering if anyone has any tips to help me.

    I'm a bottom however lately I've been having extreme troubles with relaxation. My boyfriend is on the larger side and a while back I accidentally hurt myself with him and ever since it's been really difficult to relax to let him in. We use tons of lube and we try foreplay but when it gets time to get into position (usually doggystyle) I tense up because I know of what kind of pain I can experience. When I do actually feel like I'm relaxing and he starts to go in its just way too painful to continue and I start to become less sexual and give up. I'm looking for any advice or tips!
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    Sep 20, 2013 1:10 PM GMT
    you topped him.
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    Sep 20, 2013 1:13 PM GMT
    Bite a pillow and take it like a man.
  • Hothouse

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    Sep 20, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    There are lots of posts in the Sex/Adult forums about this - check them out.

    I think you're freaking yourself out, so you're tensing up and you need to be relaxed to get fucked, especially by a big dick.
    Try riding him, have him lay down, cock sticking up, squat and sit on it - you control how much you take and how fast. After you open up you can switch up the position.
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    Sep 20, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    Deep breaths, pal...and think "deeeeep" to yourself while inhaling...also think of how awesome it'll feel once he's deep inside and bumpin' the P-spot. icon_smile.gif

    You could also write a profile for your RJ account while taking those deep breaths.
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    Sep 20, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidBite a pillow and take it like a man.


    This
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    Sep 24, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    Always start slow... with fingering i guess. Lot of lube. Your ass needs to get used it. I have only used a dildo to see how it feels like. I guess the more practice you do you will get better at it.