HOW SOON IS TO SOON TO START DATING AGAIN.

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    Nov 23, 2008 3:09 AM GMT
    HELP ME OUT....

    I just recently had a break up, it still hurts.

    About two months ago, I found out a guy at my gym was gay.
    This is a guy that I would stare at all the time back in the day.
    From a friend I found he he did the same to me. My friend
    took it upon himself to tell the other guy that. He asked me out right there
    while I was on the bench press. Of course I said no, I said I had someone already.

    Tonight I ran into him again, told him about a break up. He asked me out again. I said maybe...Not sure what to do.


    Friends say that "The best way to get over someone, is to get unders someone else

    I'M NOT SURE WHAT TO DO, I CAN'T HELP BUT FEEL BAD LIKE I SHOULDN'T GO ON THIS DATE. AT THE SAME TIME I FEEL LIKE A GITTY LITTLED EXCITED GIRL.

    HURRY I HAVE TILL TEN TO DECIDE, HELP A BROTHA OUT
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:13 AM GMT
    Go for it! There is not time like now. Don't waste your life away following some rule book.
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:23 AM GMT
    Go for it. It's just a date. If you don't like him sleep with him. You know then there's no obligation for anything more.

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    Nov 23, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    lol well I don't hook up so thats not gonna happen.

    The break up was like a week ago....

    Should I feel guilty I mean the other already has someone else. So why do I feel I shouldn't


    God I havent been on a date in sooooooooooo long...lol
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:40 AM GMT
    No don't feel guilty. You are your own person.

    Look at my ex. . . we were living together for four years then I packed up and left.
    He called me crying one night...I miss you.....I told him he really needs to get through this on his own.

    He got a boyfriend in a week. They've been together ever since. Go figure?

    It's just a date. Go and have fun. Who cares, it could lead to a great friendship.
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:42 AM GMT
    onslaught saidHELP ME OUT....

    I just recently had a break up, it still hurts.


    God no wonder why you're such a recent post whore.

    Go out with the new guy.
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:49 AM GMT
    lol haha


    lets just hope the crap doesn't put their two cents in this forum.
    Tired of the fag drama already.


    Im gonna call him, gonna get ready now icon_lol.gif

    I hope Im not to shy, I mean this is a guy i lusted over for ever. Knowing that he did the same,what do I do lol
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    Nov 23, 2008 4:08 AM GMT
    Would "as soon as he is out the door" be TOO soon? ... icon_rolleyes.gif

    ... dont even get it, do you? ... icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 23, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    damn...

    Okay im geting nervous, he is on his way.
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    Nov 23, 2008 4:34 AM GMT
    "If you don't like him sleep with him"

    So many people would say, "If you don't like him, don't sleep with him."

    But the way you put it is refreshingly honest, debussy! icon_wink.gif

    I once told a guy I wanted a couple of weeks to get over a breakup before going out. He seems to have lost my number ... so don't wait forever!
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    Nov 23, 2008 6:28 AM GMT
    onslaught saiddamn...

    Okay im geting nervous, he is on his way.


    WOW you work fast icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 23, 2008 9:27 AM GMT
    wow that was fun, jut got home.

    what a sweet guy, he made me cookies

    awwwwwwwwwwwwww he was so sweet
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    Nov 23, 2008 11:06 AM GMT
    onslaught saidwow that was fun, jut got home.

    what a sweet guy, he made me cookies

    awwwwwwwwwwwwww he was so sweet


    Where these cookies metaphorical or physical? and what sort of cookies?
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    Nov 23, 2008 2:50 PM GMT
    well he was a built mo fo and asked if i wanted to try some high protein cookies that actually taste good.

    after a really late dinner, we went back to his place to chill and being meat heads we talked about supplements.

    it was really nice, he was very sweet to me, going out today as well.
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    I'm surprised this isn't something (or wasn't) that you could "figure out" for yourself. Everybody is different in terms of "getting back on the horse."

    If it were me, I would go for it. I've never been damaged, or hurt anyone else (unreasonably), by giving in to the giddy excited girl.
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    Nov 23, 2008 3:42 PM GMT
    LOL WELL WE ARE SUPPOSED TO CHILL TODAY BUT EVEN THOUGH LAST NIGHT WAS A DATE, IM STILL NOT READY TO DATE.

    ITS TOO SOON, I NEED TO FOCUS ON ME AND WORK OUT MY PROBLEMS FIRST.
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    Nov 23, 2008 7:41 PM GMT
    Go ahead and date. Another variant of your quote is: "The best way to forget an old love is with a new love."

    The caveat, however, is to go slowly and be wary of your judgment right now. You may or not have been traumatized enough by the break-up, that you may not yet be fully yourself for a little while longer. Romantic attachments made on the "rebound" often come to a bad end.

    So go slowly, but don't retreat or stand still. Just be careful, maybe give yourself a few more months to adjust to life post-split, and withhold making any serious commitments until you've had some time to heal emotionally.

    But dating can be part of the healing process, so enjoy yourself!
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    Nov 23, 2008 8:07 PM GMT
    onslaught saidwell he was a built mo fo and asked if i wanted to try some high protein cookies that actually taste good.


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    Thats one hell of an excuse to get you back to his place icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 23, 2008 8:34 PM GMT
    Just take your time, you will know when it's time to date. Just enjoy being single and getting to know yourself all over again. You will be amazed at how much you change over the course of a relationship. Plus there is nothing wrong with going out with different guys and or even having sex at the same time, get out there and have fun, nobody expects you to jump right into another relationship on the rebound.
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    Nov 24, 2008 1:12 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    onslaught saidwell he was a built mo fo and asked if i wanted to try some high protein cookies that actually taste good.


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    Thats one hell of an excuse to get you back to his place icon_lol.gif


    haha yeah definitely gonna try that one... does that mean I actually have to BAKE though?
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    Nov 24, 2008 8:07 AM GMT
    LOL THERE WAS NO SEX....

    HE KNOWS WHAT HAPPENED WITH THE LAST GUY SO HE KNOWS IM NOT GETTING DOWN LIKE THAT.

    HIS COOKIES WERE GOOD THOUGH, WE ATE THEM AND CUDDLED ON HIS COUCH.

    DAMN I MISSED CUDDLING, AND YAY I WAS THE SPOONIE. I'VE ALWAYS BEEN THE BIGGER GUY IN THE RELATIONSHIP SO I WASN'T USED TO BEING ON THE INSIDE. I KIND OF LIKE BEING THE SMALLER GUY.
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    Nov 24, 2008 8:14 AM GMT
    OH JESUS. He made you cookies!

    MARRY HIM NOW! icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 24, 2008 8:17 AM GMT
    OH HE WAS A DEVIL...

    WE HUNG OUT ON OUR FIRST DATE AND HE TALKED ME INTO COMING INSIDE BECAUSE HE WANTED TO MAKE THESE PROTEIN COOKIES.

    IT WAS LIKE HE BASICLY SAID

    "HEY MEATHEAD, I KNOW YOU NEED PROTEIN, I HAVE SOME INSIDE"

    IT WAS SWEET THOUGH, VERY SWEET GUY.
    IM KIND OF NERVOUS, HE IS PRETTY CUTE, AND REMEMBER WE BOTH STARED AT EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME.

    I GET HARD AS SOON AS I SEE HIM, WTF.icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 24, 2008 8:21 AM GMT
    Easy now. You DON'T want to turn this into a real rebound relationship.

    But goddamn, he made you cookies. icon_biggrin.gif Marry him anyway. LOL

    And dude, easy on the caps.
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    Nov 27, 2008 3:07 AM GMT
    sorrry I was yelling at someone, sorry for the caps


    and those cookies where good, he is kind of arrogant and cocky.

    I hate it when guys think they are soooooooo hot, it makes me less attracted.

    I think I'll be single for now, I don't want to put any more work into something that most likely wont last. There is just a sexual attraction with Mr cookies.

    I wont give it up though, only for a bf.