Sex is so boring.

  • Eli_jah

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    Sep 20, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    Rarely is the other person as into it as you are. Rarely do they put in as much work. And mostly, they just care about their own pleasure.

    I was definitely getting more comfortable having sex, but I stopped, possibly stunting my growth. I felt most of my experiences were disappointing, or degrading, or both.

    I'd much rather cuddle with a cutie and watch bad TV. Miss the old days of making out and awkward hand jobs.

    Still, I miss having another body next to mine.
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    Sep 20, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    You're wise beyond your years.
  • Eli_jah

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    Sep 20, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidYou're wise beyond your years.


    Well, thanks. But I wish I could be more normal and just go with the flow.
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    Sep 20, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    Being normal, or acting it, is no way to live a meaningful life.

    Stay in touch with what your gut tells you, and if that means leaving sex out of your life these days, I don't think you'll have any regrets later.

    Keep exploring life beyond what seems like the norm.
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    Sep 21, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    Man, from your words, it seem like you were never with someone that cared for you and accepted you for you. Keep looking, man. Not everybody is the same. icon_biggrin.gif
  • GQjock

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    Sep 21, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    They're not as into it as you?
    Where are you picking up these guys?

    If they're not into it ... ofcourse the sexisgonna suck .... no pun intended

  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 21, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    First times are always exciting ... once you have satisfied the sexual urge, you still need mental stimulation other than sex.
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    Sep 21, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidRarely is the other person as into it as you are. Rarely do they put in as much work. And mostly, they just care about their own pleasure.

    I was definitely getting more comfortable having sex, but I stopped, possibly stunting my growth. I felt most of my experiences were disappointing, or degrading, or both.

    I'd much rather cuddle with a cutie and watch bad TV. Miss the old days of making out and awkward hand jobs.

    Still, I miss having another body next to mine.

    I love cuddling up next to someone, sometimes more than sex. That said, I'm gonna disagree with your first paragraph. When you're having awesome sex, you'll know it because it's obvious. It's incredible when both are into it, and I honestly don't think that it's rare because I'm not that special and I've had some awesome sex.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 21, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    Usually first encounters are pretty good sex. Exciting. Don't expect to see stars every time and just enjoy getting to know the guy while you're at it. I think most of the negative thoughts you hear on some of these posts are from guys who just want a hook-up, not to get to meet and know the guy so their whole focus is on the sexual experience. You sound like one of the good guys that actually might care about the other guy. So don't worry about it. When you settle down with one guy, the nature of the sex changes into something that can range from pure sensory to pure emotion and everything in between. Sometimes it is better than other times but it is still fun and at least half of the fun is making it good for the other guy. Focus on him but also give him the opportunity to focus on you. When the two come together is when you'll see the stars.
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    Sep 21, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    It could just be how you are "Wired"..

    There are some that can hookup easily and have a blast.. and then there are others that driven by sentiment.

    Your comment about stunting your growth in my opinion sounds more like growth..
  • jo2hotbod

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    Sep 21, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    You don't know what you're doing or never found anyone into you

  • Sep 24, 2013 2:39 PM GMT
    Sex is one of the most beautiful things on earth. Maybe one guy might be more into it than the other and that's OK. But when the chemistry is right and the intensity is there and you both want it so bad; it can be so hot hot hot. Times when you both merge into one ...almost like your souls have come together. This is beauty, this is passion this is hotness!
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    Sep 24, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    Seems to me you need to be more selective, you can't just sleep with anyone, they've got to be into you and into having sex. No harm in being selective, it really makes the difference sometimes.
  • Hothouse

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    Sep 24, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    Someone once told me that when it comes to sex, sometimes you have to be selfish.
    I didn't really understand at the time, but I do now.
    There are times you have to be selfish and get some pleasure for yourself - you stated that they only care about their pleasure, so, start caring about yours too.
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    Sep 24, 2013 2:53 PM GMT
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  • rnch

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    Sep 24, 2013 3:16 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidOP may be the kind that enjoys sex with someone he cares for and not with a random hookup.



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    Dec 17, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    Dopeamine saidRarely is the other person as into it as you are. Rarely do they put in as much work. And mostly, they just care about their own pleasure.

    I was definitely getting more comfortable having sex, but I stopped, possibly stunting my growth. I felt most of my experiences were disappointing, or degrading, or both.

    I'd much rather cuddle with a cutie and watch bad TV. Miss the old days of making out and awkward hand jobs.

    Still, I miss having another body next to mine.


    I agree, and I can relate.
    Real Intimacy is rare, and so many of us just take it for granted, even though deep inside, it's really what we wanted all along.
    But no, we'd rather Fuck the pain away.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 29, 2015 11:57 AM GMT
    sonomacountyguy saidSex is one of the most beautiful things on earth. Maybe one guy might be more into it than the other and that's OK. But when the chemistry is right and the intensity is there and you both want it so bad; it can be so hot hot hot. Times when you both merge into one ...almost like your souls have come together. This is beauty, this is passion this is hotness!
    With you, sex is one of the most beautiful activities on Earth. A hot, muscular hunk like you could easily drive any masculine gay guy with healthy hormones super wild.icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 29, 2015 11:26 PM GMT
    Mulignan saidRarely is the other person as into it as you are. Rarely do they put in as much work. And mostly, they just care about their own pleasure.

    I was definitely getting more comfortable having sex, but I stopped, possibly stunting my growth. I felt most of my experiences were disappointing, or degrading, or both.

    I'd much rather cuddle with a cutie and watch bad TV. Miss the old days of making out and awkward hand jobs.

    Still, I miss having another body next to mine.

    lol.
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    Apr 29, 2015 11:29 PM GMT
    Of course sex is boring. That's why I like to get it over with in 2 minutes or less so I can get back to having fun.
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    Apr 29, 2015 11:42 PM GMT
    ...and that's where the kinky stuff comes from. icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:04 AM GMT
    "Sex is so boring," said no straight single man EVER.
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:05 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said"Sex is so boring," said no straight single man EVER.
    You've obviously not met many straight single men.
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    either wrong method, or wrong size.icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 30, 2015 2:15 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidThis thread is nearly two years old. Necroed thread!

    At least you like to cuddle. Human contact is important.
    The OP is still an active forum member, so it's not a necro'd thread.
    If he's changed his mind and sees this thread, then it's up to him to come in here and update the status of his current feelings toward sex. icon_wink.gif