Help. Friendship > Feelings

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    Sep 22, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
    Alright... Hi
    I met this guy in Brazil, we were just planning to be friends because I was leaving soon. But yea that didn't happen, we had feelings and all of that stuff haha.
    Long distance is too complicated (for him), which is fine. Anyway, I'll be seeing him again on December, as a friend.
    I still have feelings, and our deal was if he gets to be with someone, I'd still be his friend (vice-versa). And I want to get over my feelings, and all of that stuff that probably has been discussed here multiple times. But this is happening to me too, so... how can I lose such feelings, but still be able to maintain a true friendship, which I really do want. Super cheesy, I know haha. But it's true. Thanks.
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    Sep 22, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    Well you know how feelings work..
    You have to work through them as opposed to turning them on or off like a light switch.

    So the new agenda is friends only?
    .. Stick to your guns and enforce what you think is best for you..
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    Sep 23, 2013 12:11 AM GMT
    This was actually very helpful man, I do it ooften haha

    Thanks, indeed, just gotta focus on what I really want at the end icon_exclaim.gif


    Edit: or not, miss already o well
  • Webster666

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    Sep 23, 2013 12:56 AM GMT
    If I felt about him the way you do, I'd have to not see him again.
    Otherwise, it would just be torture.
    But, maybe you could find a way to be together all the time...
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidIf I felt about him the way you do, I'd have to not see him again.
    Otherwise, it would just be torture.
    But, maybe you could find a way to be together all the time...


    O well..
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    Sep 23, 2013 9:57 PM GMT
    Perhaps you are going to communicate with him in other means, like email or skype? I think give it a week and decide then. Do you really like him? I guess stuff like this takes time to resolve itself.