Has anyone ever wondered if your crush was gay?

  • Johnnyg11

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    Sep 23, 2013 9:59 AM GMT
    First of all, I'm 20 really straight acting. Not really out to anyone yet. I've never been in a relationship. (Neither has he) All of my friends are straight (so I think). My really good friend that I've known since junior high is always on my mind. I wake up I'm thinking about him and I go to sleep thinking about him. I've tried to tell him that I like him a few times over the years but he never takes me seriously. I left him a long message on Facebook expressing how I felt one time and he never wrote me back. Then a couple more times with texts. And one night when we were really drunk at one of my other buddies house, I was laying on my back on his couch and my crush walks over and lays on top of me. It was pretty random but I still think to myself did that mean anything? Was that his way of flirting with me? And this was right when we graduated high school. Now we barely even hang out or talk to each other. Till this day, I still haven't figured him out. I don't know what to do here.

    Well the obvious thing is to talk to him in person about everything, but I'm scared of losing my best friend. What do you guys think I should do? Should I risk losing my best friend and confront him about my feelings hoping he feels the same way? Should I let him come to me? Or should I just forget about him?
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    Sep 23, 2013 10:27 AM GMT
    Anything can be guessed from your post for him not responding to your messages...
    You might have scared him
    He may think it as a prank
    He's really not into you
    He's probably straight but not interested in relationships or
    He's not sure of his orientation...etc.etc.

    My suggestion is the obvious one, talk to him...If you can't talk to him face to face, write everything you want to say on a paper(try to be short and precise, don't be apologetic or dominating...just be honest) and give it to him IN PERSON and ask him to read. We all know that it's difficult, scary etc. but you have to accept it as the only possible way(may be).


    If he's really your Best friend and if he feels the same...you don't lose anything.
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    Sep 23, 2013 10:53 AM GMT
    John SaidI left him a long message on Facebook expressing how I felt one time and he never wrote me back.


    John Also SaidWhat do you guys think I should do?


    John:Now we barely even hang out or talk to each other


    Hmm..
    He's not the one Johnny..
    I understand you two WERE close, but not anymore.. If he was interested or gay.. you two would not be so disconnected.

    Now is it possible that letter pushed him away?
    Did things get really awkward after that Facebook letter?
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    Sep 23, 2013 11:03 AM GMT
    Johnnyg11 saidFirst of all, I'm 20 really straight acting. Not really out to anyone yet. I've never been in a relationship. (Neither has he) All of my friends are straight (so I think). My really good friend that I've known since junior high is always on my mind. I wake up I'm thinking about him and I go to sleep thinking about him. I've tried to tell him that I like him a few times over the years but he never takes me seriously. I left him a long message on Facebook expressing how I felt one time and he never wrote me back. Then a couple more times with texts. And one night when we were really drunk at one of my other buddies house, I was laying on my back on his couch and my crush walks over and lays on top of me. It was pretty random but I still think to myself did that mean anything? Was that his way of flirting with me? And this was right when we graduated high school. Now we barely even hang out or talk to each other. Till this day, I still haven't figured him out. I don't know what to do here.

    Well the obvious thing is to talk to him in person about everything, but I'm scared of losing my best friend. What do you guys think I should do? Should I risk losing my best friend and confront him about my feelings hoping he feels the same way? Should I let him come to me? Or should I just forget about him?


    Oh boy. icon_razz.gif

    Almost every gay guy on Earth has been there. Here are your options:

    1. Don't tell him. Wonder about what ifs until you move on. Who knows how long that'll be.

    2. Tell him. He doesn't feel the same way. Risk getting hurt. You might be forced out the closet.

    3. Tell him. He feels the same way. Bowchickabowwow.
  • Johnnyg11

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    Sep 24, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    Alright thanks guys. Really appreciate your help you've given me.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Sep 24, 2013 9:28 PM GMT
    My crush in high school turned out to be bisexual lol