What does it say about u when u make fun of someone?.....

  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 1:46 PM GMT
    Ever make fun of someone who did nothing to u but just happen to walk pass u & u decide to judge them not knowing anything about them but based solely on how & what they look like? What does it say about u when u find the need to spew ur negative thoughts about someone u don't even know? Do u feel ur better then them hence ur placing them below u by making a negative comment about them? Does it make u feel like ur above them? Or do u realize it's u who has the problem? Ever analyze why u have to rip on a complete happy-go-lucky stranger just to make u feel better about urself?.....

    And instead of making fun of someone, what if u complimented a complete stranger instead? It's good karma to make someone feel good about themselves then bad & by doing so u just did a good deed for the day & u just made the world a better place icon_smile.gif .....

    Also, if ur the stranger being made fun of & u hear it & know they were targeting u would u bother to confront them & teach them a lesson? Or would u just take the higher road, turn the other cheek, ignore them & not let them provoke u & go down to their level?.....
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    Sep 23, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    I do it all the time. I don't think there is any deep seeded meaning. I'm just joking. I would never actually go up to anyone just to insult them. A) it's rude B) I don't want to get my ass beat.


    Don't act like you never judged anyone before you met them. We are all guilty of that.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 3:16 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidI do it all the time. I don't think there is any deep seeded meaning. I'm just joking. I would never actually go up to anyone just to insult them. A) it's rude B) I don't want to get my ass beat.


    Don't act like you never judged anyone before you met them. We are all guilty of that.


    Only when provoked & the idiot(s) is picking to start a fight.
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    Sep 23, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    spgem said
    jmusmc85 saidI do it all the time. I don't think there is any deep seeded meaning. I'm just joking. I would never actually go up to anyone just to insult them. A) it's rude B) I don't want to get my ass beat.


    Don't act like you never judged anyone before you met them. We are all guilty of that.


    Only when provoked & the idiot(s) is picking to start a fight.


    Well I'm glad that you are perfect.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 3:31 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    spgem said
    jmusmc85 saidI do it all the time. I don't think there is any deep seeded meaning. I'm just joking. I would never actually go up to anyone just to insult them. A) it's rude B) I don't want to get my ass beat.


    Don't act like you never judged anyone before you met them. We are all guilty of that.


    Only when provoked & the idiot(s) is picking to start a fight.


    Well I'm glad that you are perfect.


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  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 23, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    Back in the old days of driving through the countryside, as opposed to the Interstates, I used to play a game with myself: I'd spot some soul sitting on a front porch, or just walking down the street, some mundane everyday action, and I'd try to put myself in their head, their life, and see and think what I'd imagine they'd be thinking, feeling. It gave me an empathy. Now, I try not to do this while walking through Walmart.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    There's one thinking it, but to intentionally say something derogatory so the person ur targeting hears it is another.....
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 23, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    spgem saidThere's one thinking it, but to intentionally say something derogatory so the person ur targeting hears it is another.....

    Sure. Who would do that?
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    Do u ever think ur an asshole for making fun of someone u don't know? Ever question urself: "Why did I just demean that person I have no clue of knowing anything about based solely on what they look like?" "Is it right?".....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    spgem saidThere's one thinking it, but to intentionally say something derogatory so the person ur targeting hears it is another.....

    Sure. Who would do that?


    Those who think it's alright to do so.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    spgem saidDo u ever think ur an asshole for making fun of someone u don't know? Ever question urself: "Why did I just demean that person I have no clue of knowing anything about based solely on what they look like?" "Is it right?".....

    Well, I'd never demean someone publicly for no reason. But I would form opinions based on what they look like. Everyone makes certain selections about what clothes to buy and wear, haircuts, how they carry themselves, physical shape, etc. These reflect their values and background and we all learn to "read" others. It is an imperfect read to be sure but probably not all that far off. Would I ever say something to them about my thoughts? For no particular reason? Of course not.
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    Regardless of how nice the person seems on the internet or real life, judging is something everyone does.

    I try to be the best person I can be, but I would be flat out lying if I said I didn't judge people by looks on first meeting. Heck, I think we would all be lying, considering looks are the first thing we notice when we meet a new person.

    Taking it further and making fun of someone is pretty stupid in my opinion. I've always had the idea to point out people's strengths instead of weakness.

    Judging does not necessarily mean bad all the time either. If someone looks neat, collected, and speaks at an intelligent level, I'm going to make a judgement call that they're well educated and take care of themselves.

    Like J said, we shouldn't act like we've never judged before, because we all do, and will all continue to do so. After the initial meeting of a person it's our choice to steer things into a positive or negative direction.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidRegardless of how nice the person seems on the internet or real life, judging is something everyone does.

    I try to be the best person I can be, but I would be flat out lying if I said I didn't judge people by looks on first meeting. Heck, I think we would all be lying, considering looks are the first thing we notice when we meet a new person.

    Taking it further and making fun of someone is pretty stupid in my opinion. I've always had the idea to point out people's strengths instead of weakness.

    Judging does not necessarily mean bad all the time either. If someone looks neat, collected, and speaks at an intelligent level, I'm going to make a judgement call that they're well educated and take care of themselves.

    Like J said, we shouldn't act like we've never judged before, because we all do, and will all continue to do so. After the initial meeting of a person it's our choice to steer things into a positive or negative direction.


    Very good JumpMan icon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    spgem said
    Destinharbor said
    spgem saidThere's one thinking it, but to intentionally say something derogatory so the person ur targeting hears it is another.....

    Sure. Who would do that?


    Those who think it's alright to do so.

    Well that says more about them than their target. That they are silly, rude, small minded people. Truly ugly. But I can't remember the last time I heard anything like that.
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    I don't enjoy it.
    It's part of our weaknesses, we can overcome it by constantly practicing and training our thoughts.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:13 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    spgem said
    Destinharbor said
    spgem saidThere's one thinking it, but to intentionally say something derogatory so the person ur targeting hears it is another.....

    Sure. Who would do that?


    Those who think it's alright to do so.

    Well that says more about them than their target. That they are silly, rude, small minded people. Truly ugly. But I can't remember the last time I heard anything like that.


    I was going inside a local theater yesterday to go see Salinger when to nondescript-looking white girls getting their bikes unlocked said, "That's scary." "Yeah, very scary." They were both looking at me & no one else was around. I was ready to spit in their faces & say, "Two ugly nondescript average-looking bitches making fun of someone, how funny & ironic.".....But I took the higher road, just turned the other cheek & ignored their slight. But I WAS thinking, "Hope a car hits both ur bitch asses on ur bike ride home!".....
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidI don't enjoy it.
    It's part of our weaknesses, we can overcome it by constantly practicing and training our thoughts.


    I always think if someone was ur type u sure wouldn't make fun of them. U only make fun of someone u don't care to know anything about.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    Why would they find you scary? You're beautiful. I don't get it.
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:18 PM GMT
    We all say stuff.


    And probably shouldn't.

    We should stop hurting each other.
  • MikeW

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
    Cash saidWe all say stuff.


    And probably shouldn't.

    We should stop hurting each other.

    SO true. icon_exclaim.gif
  • madsexy

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    I am the first to admit that I do this way too much. But in my own defense, I try to keep it light and really not to judge the person. But sometimes, when you see an older woman trying to be YOUNG in dress, hair, makeup or an older guy whose comb-over is flying in the wind, and you know either would look greater if they could shed whatever insecurity they have and just be them, it's hard not to declare a fashion felony. And then, of course, my friends and I tease each other mercilessly, but we always do it with love, not malice.

    I try to be tolerant of the views of others.
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:25 PM GMT
    People, every single day, judge you based on how you look, how you dress, how you present yourself, and so on.

    It's a simple fact, everyone does it and you aren't exempt.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Sep 23, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    hypernationnative said
    spgem said
    Destinharbor said
    spgem said
    Destinharbor said
    spgem saidThere's one thinking it, but to intentionally say something derogatory so the person ur targeting hears it is another.....

    Sure. Who would do that?


    Those who think it's alright to do so.

    Well that says more about them than their target. That they are silly, rude, small minded people. Truly ugly. But I can't remember the last time I heard anything like that.


    I was going inside a local theater yesterday to go see Salinger when to nondescript-looking white girls getting their bikes unlocked said, "That's scary." "Yeah, very scary." They were both looking at me & no one else was around. I was ready to spit in their faces & say, "Two ugly nondescript average-looking bitches making fun of someone, how funny & ironic.".....But I took the higher road, just turned the other cheek & ignored their slight. But I WAS thinking, "Hope a car hits both ur bitch asses on ur bike ride home!".....


    how do you know they were talking about you and not the movie they saw or something? i can relate to what you're saying though. dunno if you've
    been bullied in the past as a kid or whatever BUT enough bullying to someone will think that people view them a certain way when that's not often the case. even if they do, the best you can do is ignore them and not let that affect you.

    it just sounds like you have some self esteem issues and are only showing how you feel about yourself through what you THINK people are saying about you.


    No, they were clearly looking straight at me when they said it. There was no one else around.
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    7Famark saidPeople, every single day, judge you based on how you look, how you dress, how you present yourself, and so on.

    It's a simple fact, everyone does it and you aren't exempt.


    I was waiting for u to troll in spednik: the #1 asswipe on RJ who makes fun of others icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 23, 2013 5:30 PM GMT
    spgem said
    7Famark saidPeople, every single day, judge you based on how you look, how you dress, how you present yourself, and so on.

    It's a simple fact, everyone does it and you aren't exempt.


    I was waiting for u to troll in spednik: the #1 asswipe on RJ who makes fun of others icon_smile.gif


    How is this trolling?

    Are we not an image-based society? I can cop to my fair share of trolling but this is just like..true life. People are judgmental, especially based on outer presentation because people assume that it is indicative of who you are as a person.