Nov 23, 2008 8:09 PM GMT
so
i'm only attracted to men who act 'straight.' psychoanalyze all you want, but that strong, confident, masculine jock type is just what i go for. the problem is that all the men i see/meet who fit the bill.... ARE straight. i know i know, this has been brought up before- i'm not whining about the unfairness of it all, its a segue into my question:
how should i tackle this problem? out there, in the real world, when i see a man who makes my stomach knot up and my heart beat faster, what do i do? some may offer as advice that i do the whole 'make eye contact' thing... but a lot of really butch gay men are just as scared of making eyes at the wrong guy as the rest of us- so that may not work. aside from that, what else is there? i've figured there's nothing one CAN do besides walking away, or having the balls to just go up and ask- i've done that three times in the last week at my school rec center and was politely (to their credit) shot down. it was embarrassing but not the end of the world... i wouldn't mind doing it again, aside from how predatory it makes me feel... but my hopes are pretty low that that haphazard approach will ever bear fruit. any other ideas/suggestions?
especially from those of you who ARE impossible to spot as being gay?
i'm only attracted to men who act 'straight.' psychoanalyze all you want, but that strong, confident, masculine jock type is just what i go for. the problem is that all the men i see/meet who fit the bill.... ARE straight. i know i know, this has been brought up before- i'm not whining about the unfairness of it all, its a segue into my question:
how should i tackle this problem? out there, in the real world, when i see a man who makes my stomach knot up and my heart beat faster, what do i do? some may offer as advice that i do the whole 'make eye contact' thing... but a lot of really butch gay men are just as scared of making eyes at the wrong guy as the rest of us- so that may not work. aside from that, what else is there? i've figured there's nothing one CAN do besides walking away, or having the balls to just go up and ask- i've done that three times in the last week at my school rec center and was politely (to their credit) shot down. it was embarrassing but not the end of the world... i wouldn't mind doing it again, aside from how predatory it makes me feel... but my hopes are pretty low that that haphazard approach will ever bear fruit. any other ideas/suggestions?
especially from those of you who ARE impossible to spot as being gay?