I made the right decision to break up with my ex because...

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    Nov 23, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    ...I saw him for the first time in six months, and I've lost over 20 lbs, and look radically different. Not only did he not say anything, but when I pointed out to him that I have to get a whole new wardrobe because I don't fit into any of my clothes anymore, he asked whether I had gained or lost weight.

    Granted, it's cold up here and I had on some layers, but I intentionally took off my sweater and he can see how much thinner my face is now. You guys can tell from the pics in my profile (at least a lot of you have mentioned it.)

    I keep saying that I want a partner who actually considers me, and this was proof that this guy would never come around to that.
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    Nov 23, 2008 9:52 PM GMT
    Atta girl!
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    Nov 23, 2008 9:58 PM GMT
    I look, dress, and act completely different from when I was still with my ex. I think he saw me last year and his compliment on me being thin was, "You must be doing cocaine." WTF?
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    Nov 23, 2008 10:04 PM GMT
    matt45710 saidI keep saying that I want a partner who actually considers me, and this was proof that this guy would never come around to that.


    Then you are wise that you made him your ex. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 23, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    Yay for you! Down with assholes.
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    Nov 23, 2008 10:51 PM GMT
    Hmmmm...why do you still care that much about what he thinks???
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    Nov 23, 2008 11:16 PM GMT
    IMO you look like a different guy in your default pic than in a lot of your other pictures. You look like you have a confidence that's missing in some of the others. Maybe he did notice, but wanted to trivialize your accomplishment, some guys are notorious for dishing out an insult when someone accomplishes something. Anywho, congrats on your weight loss, and I think either way you were right to ditch the boyfriend.
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    Nov 24, 2008 3:23 AM GMT
    Caslon7000 saidHmmmm...why do you still care that much about what he thinks???


    Well, we were together for 17 years, and there's a lot that's still there. I sort of feel sorry for him. I know when I dropped him off today, I felt a sort of relief. It's a continuous letting go. I'm also obviously very happy for myself, and it's a shame that he can't really share that with me. I still like him, but sad for this distance. As I've mentioned, it's so obvious to almost everyone else, but he can't see it. That's hard to realize with someone that you were so close to for so long.

    I guess it's just another part of the separating process.