Men who only talk about themselves

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    Sep 24, 2013 12:08 PM GMT
    Never thought I'd put this onto the forum, but I figured since I've observed this frequently enough, perhaps others can relate.

    Gotta admit, I'm getting pretty tired of men who, in responding to emails or in carrying a conversation, talk only about themselves with seemingly no regard to or interest in the other guy. Not a "so how are you?" or a "tell me about yourself." Nada. It's all about them. I shouldn't be, but I'm still shocked by how self absorbed and narcissistic so many gay men are.

    There are times when I feel like saying, "Dude, do you have anything of interest to say other than talking about yourself?"

    Which leads me ask, just who would date a guy who only talks about himself? Answer: another guy who only talks about himself. I imagine a hilarious scene of these two guys on a date - both talking about themselves, both trying to talk over each others voice, to the point where they start yelling, cuz they can't hear themselves over the other person... neither one listening at all. Makes for a good parody on gay life.

    If you happen to be one of those dudes reading my post, do take a moment to ponder this. Please show some courtesy and respect to the person with whom you're communicating. No offense at all, but the world does not revolve around you even though your mother may have convinced you otherwise.

    Maybe others can chime in with their advice or experience. Be good to know I'm not the only one who deals with this. Thanks for letting me blow off steam.
  • Fable

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    Sep 24, 2013 12:13 PM GMT
    it means they aint interested noob.
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    Sep 24, 2013 12:24 PM GMT
    Then why send a message then, fable?
  • Hothouse

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    Sep 24, 2013 1:33 PM GMT
    I've been around people like this (not just men.)

    You can almost hear them say "well, enough about me, let's talk about me..."
  • Fable

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    Sep 24, 2013 1:47 PM GMT
    JasFriedman saidThen why send a message then, fable?


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    Sep 24, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    fable said
    JasFriedman saidThen why send a message then, fable?


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    So helpful and insightful, fable. (Sarcasm) Is this how you treat another fellow human being? Have you actually tried answering the question?
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    Sep 24, 2013 2:50 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    JasFriedman saidSo helpful and insightful, fable. (Sarcasm) Is this how you treat another fellow human being? Have you actually tried answering the question?

    I'm guessing this is the first time you've met.icon_biggrin.gif


    Yes.
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    Sep 24, 2013 3:18 PM GMT
    I rarely have the happen honestly. In fact, I get the exact opposite a lot. I've had guys ask VERY personal details about my life a little too quickly which I find to be equally a turnoff.
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    Sep 24, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    Funny thing is, many of the guys I meet neither speaks about themselves until I ask them nor asks me about myself. Sometimes it runs like a official conversation & ends the same. Probably it's because of my poor communication skills.
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    Sep 24, 2013 6:27 PM GMT
    JasFriedman said
    Aristoshark said
    JasFriedman saidSo helpful and insightful, fable. (Sarcasm) Is this how you treat another fellow human being? Have you actually tried answering the question?

    I'm guessing this is the first time you've met.icon_biggrin.gif


    Yes.

    That "Ignore His Posts" link over there on the left under his picture works wonders.
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    Sep 24, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    But if I talk about other people by telling how much I don't enjoy how they talk about themselves, am I talking about myself again?

    Oooooorrrrrrr, if I talk about myself in relating a story about a situation that you seem to be going through am I talking about myself at all?
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    Sep 24, 2013 7:47 PM GMT
    LorTO saidWhich leads me ask, just who would date a guy who only talks about himself?

    His conversation is probably more interesting than those voices I hear in my head.