Hardly ever ejaculate during sex ( Bottom Boy)

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    Sep 24, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    I think I'm a bit weird but i find it hard to orgasm during sex ,as I never really cum ...so i just end up being erect for ages until i get flaccid


    Don't get that much of kick out of masturbating so I usually just end up having wet dreams ..


    like I love being a bottom But I'm assuming the reason why I never ejaculate during sex is more of a mental thing?
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    Sep 24, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    I wouldn't assume it's mental without seeing a doctor. If you have trouble masturbating too, it could be medical.
  • rnch

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    Sep 24, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    Contrary to what gay sex porn propaganda teaches us, not very bttm is required to jizz while insertion sex is taking place!

    There is nothing "wrong" with you, EH.
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    Sep 24, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Scruffypup said[/cite]I wouldn't assume it's mental without seeing a doctor. If you have trouble masturbating too, it could be medical. [/quote


    haha I dont have trouble masturbating like i just don't enjoy it as much icon_razz.gif
  • Fable

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    Sep 24, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    different strokes for different folks... literally!

  • Fable

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    Sep 24, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    wait do you mean you don't come while they're in you... but you're not stroking? Cos if that's so... welcome to the rest of the world.
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    Sep 24, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    fable saidwait do you mean you don't come while they're in you... but you're not stroking? Cos if that's so... welcome to the rest of the world.



    like even when I'm riding him or his fucking me while im stroking I just never reach that level of satisfaction even though I'm enjoying it
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    Sep 24, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    EchelonHaze said
    fable saidwait do you mean you don't come while they're in you... but you're not stroking? Cos if that's so... welcome to the rest of the world.



    like even when I'm riding him or his fucking me while im stroking I just never reach that level of satisfaction even though I'm enjoying it



    During sex, the bttm is often overwhelmed by a barrage of SO MANY pleasurable sensations & feelings, so many and too many to comprehend and enjoy, all happening at one time.

    Not being able to jizz while enjoying insertion anal sex is not that unusual or "wrong".
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    Sep 24, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    EchelonHaze said
    fable saidwait do you mean you don't come while they're in you... but you're not stroking? Cos if that's so... welcome to the rest of the world.



    like even when I'm riding him or his fucking me while im stroking I just never reach that level of satisfaction even though I'm enjoying it



    Are you able to cum if you jerk off alone?
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    Sep 26, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    failscarf saidAs a bottom you should never cum, thats not your purpose.

    WHAT? Seriously, stupid comment. There's not assigned roles here, bottom or top, it's all about what pleases both. Many bottoms cum because of the enjoyment. I think you do have a mental block about something and maybe need to work through what it is that really pleases you. You may be distracted by the 'act' so you're not feeling the excitement you need to climax.

    Also, no everyone can cum that easily. I know guys that have a very tough time shooting while being given a bj. Other are ready at just the thought of it. Again, I think some is physiological and some is mental. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, you just need to find that 'thing' that pleases you to put you over the edge. Keep practicing….makes perfect icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    thanks everyone icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    Once again......Are you able to cum if you jerk off alone?
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    Sep 26, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidThis is normal. Besides it's your job to pleasure the top first.

    This makes sense to me.
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    Sep 27, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    EchelonHaze said I think I'm a bit weird but i find it hard to orgasm during sex ,as I never really cum ...so i just end up being erect for ages until i get flaccid


    Don't get that much of kick out of masturbating so I usually just end up having wet dreams ..

    like I love being a bottom But I'm assuming the reason why I never ejaculate during sex is more of a mental thing?


    A good top makes sure his bottom guy cums. It's the tops job. No bottom is hard still needing to cum while the top thinks he's finished. I take this responsibility seriously.
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    Feb 28, 2014 7:26 AM GMT
    I know this is old but I've been searching for an answer similar to the info in this thread although the circumstances are slightly different.

    Usually I do cum during sex or afterwards by touching myself but the past two times embarrassingly I didn't cum. I decided to try masterbating on my own a couple of times to see if i could and within 5 mins I gave up because I wasn't even hard. I'm into sex in that i enjoy the togetherness but I could just as easily do something else none sexual but that's not really an option. Is this problematic? I'm 20 years old and to me it feels like I'm under performing in our sex life.

    Sorry if I've not covered the details but I hate talking about sex but sadly its going online because it's too embarrassing to ask in person lol.
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    Mar 01, 2014 10:21 AM GMT
    True bottoms dont need to cum the same way tops do, they True bottoms don't need to cum the same way tops do, they might even have anal orgasms and get totally satisfied.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 01, 2014 3:16 PM GMT
    If you dont cum the top feels inadequate like hes using you. That sucks. Learn to cum.
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    Mar 01, 2014 6:59 PM GMT
    I have had completely opposite experience with bottoms, they usually cum quicker.
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    Mar 01, 2014 9:55 PM GMT
    There's no "right" way for a bottom to cum. One man can be different at different times too. It depends on the top too of course and what kind of agreement and level of intimacy they have. If you are in a Master/Sub-slave relationship it doesn't matter as you are doing it his way. I ask, he tells me or figure it out along the way.

    Some guys as bottoms NEED the prostate massaged and pressure to ejaculate. Then they really CUM! Sometimes hands free, or assisted ;-)

    For some bottoms they orgasm anally or mentally and that is exactly what they want. A BJ or masturbation afterwards is icing on the cake. I'm a top but love the icing too!

    Others don't even want to ejaculate. They put all their energy and feeling into it their way. Some of them are tops and are saving their load and 'experimenting".

    Not into flipping, maybe someone can add to that.