spgem saidEven straights are freaks---trying so hard to fit in designated boxes---it's all a matter of interpretation & who's doing the interpreting.
I'm not sure about being freaks, but conforming is very common, with non-conformity often seen as a negative, a defect.
I'd sometimes hear a young soldier complain how confining it was to wear a uniform all the time on duty. I'd reply that lots of civilian professions have their own uniforms, too, and enforced not much less rigidly than the military does.
As one example, if you're a banker you'll be wearing a dark suit & tie every day, or the equivalent suit for a woman. Your suit can't be bright red, and you better have an appropriate tie, no open collar or silly patterns. Likewise if you're a nurse, and lots of other professions that effectively have "uniforms". I actually preferred the Army uniform, because I had no decisions to make, everything was prescribed, right down to my shoes & tie, one less thing for me to worry about.
And conformity extends beyond the obvious outer attire we can visualize. Corporate & social group think is also enforced, within the work and private circles we occupy. I think there are common denominators of thought & behavior within the gay community, too, as there are within the straight.
Not SOLE denominators, but COMMON, meaning the majority or consensus, what MOST are doing but not all. And I'm comfortable with that for myself, again like wearing my Army uniform, because it lets me fit right in without much effort, when I want to blend and not battle.
At the same time, when solving a new problem I try to think outside the designated box, to only use conformity & precedence as my starting points. And your concept of living our lives as we please, without harm to others, was once an important cornerstone of our US Constitution. Sadly, today many Americans have turned to meddling in each others lives, under a perverted religious & political interpretation of our founding tenets.