Why is he always horny when all I want to is cuddle

  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 25, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Why is that all the guys I meet are always horny when all I want to do is cuddle?

    We can be laying on the couch and they get turned on by anything. one reason why our relationship with a recent bf ended was because when I just wanted hug or cuddle he always wants to bang. Why is he like that?
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    Sep 25, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    It's called testosterone.
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    Sep 25, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Because you're so hot.

    Duh.
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    Sep 25, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    Story of my life...

    --need to find me a vegetarian.
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    Sep 25, 2013 8:13 PM GMT
    You could try one of these.

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    Sep 25, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    Some men have intimacy issues,have you communicated your needs to your prior BF's? And other guys just want a piece of ass nothing more.

    Hope you meet the right guy for you!
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    Sep 26, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    Cuddling leads to fornacation!
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    Sep 26, 2013 2:57 AM GMT
    I think you need a mom, not a boyfriend.



    LOL! jk
  • Webster666

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    Sep 26, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    I like affection a lot more than sex...
  • Apparition

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    Sep 26, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    because you are sexually incompatible. did you lie to him about your sex drive to get cuddles? ie. have sex at the beginning of the relationship with the full knowledge that what you really wanted was cuddles just to TRAP him...then taper off the sex just so that you can get what you want (cuddles).

    If so. You are an asshole and deserve to get dumped.

    why on earth do people who dont like sex date people who obviously do?
  • PR_GMR

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    Sep 26, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    charlitos saidI think you need a mom, not a boyfriend.



    LOL! jk


    Well, I'm not joking. He really does need a mom. Gay men that only want to spoon just turn me off.
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    Sep 26, 2013 5:22 AM GMT
    Cuddling happens much more naturally after sex.

    Just sayin
  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 26, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    Maybe you are the girl in the relationship icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 26, 2013 6:01 AM GMT
    KardioKing saidYou could try one of these.

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    Oh my.

    I don't think we've met.
    My name is Slim. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 26, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
    RainBow_Dragon2000 saidWhy is that all the guys I meet are always horny when all I want to do is cuddle?

    We can be laying on the couch and they get turned on by anything. one reason why our relationship with a recent bf ended was because when I just wanted hug or cuddle he always wants to bang. Why is he like that?

    Does he know you have a vagina?
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    DweebDude saidBecause you're so hot.

    Duh.

    icon_smile.gif AWW that was so sweet, appricate the compliment. Thank you
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:15 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidMaybe you are the girl in the relationship icon_lol.gif
    bud, i'm anything but feminineicon_smile.gif
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:16 PM GMT
    woodsmen saidSex is the one intimate gift you can give him (unless you want him to get it outside the relationship). Give the gift!

    you're right, thanks (:
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:17 PM GMT
    Apparition saidbecause you are sexually incompatible. did you lie to him about your sex drive to get cuddles? ie. have sex at the beginning of the relationship with the full knowledge that what you really wanted was cuddles just to TRAP him...then taper off the sex just so that you can get what you want (cuddles).

    If so. You are an asshole and deserve to get dumped.

    why on earth do people who dont like sex date people who obviously do?


    your views, but I respect you. thanks for commenting.
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:18 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidI like affection a lot more than sex...


    You're good news icon_biggrin.gif
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:19 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI think you need a mom, not a boyfriend.



    LOL! jk

    lol the last thing I want is another mom. got my brith mom 'n she makes me crazy!icon_biggrin.gif
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:20 PM GMT
    Hillie saidCuddling leads to fornacation!

    And fucking leads to heaven?icon_confused.gif
  • RainBow_Drago...

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    Sep 26, 2013 1:21 PM GMT
    Globetrotter25 saidSome men have intimacy issues,have you communicated your needs to your prior BF's? And other guys just want a piece of ass nothing more.

    Hope you meet the right guy for you!


    Aww thanks bro, love uicon_biggrin.gificon_redface.gif

    Can I have ur shades?icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 26, 2013 1:37 PM GMT
    RainBow_Dragon2000 saidWhy is that all the guys I meet are always horny when all I want to do is cuddle?

    Because cuddling is a form of foreplay, like other intimacies. And if these other guys are your age then their hormones will spike from such contact. Cuddling MAKES them horny. It means they're normal gay males - most straight men are the same way with women.

    So your options are as some have suggested in posts above. Accept that cuddling will lead to more, unless he's very tired, or the circumstances don't permit it.

    And hope you can cuddle afterwards, although some men have a strange aversion to intimacy immediately after they orgasm. That's another thing women notice about some straight men, like a switch gets suddenly thrown.

    One moment the guy's a raging sex fiend, the next he can't distance himself fast enough. Likely some kind of body chemistry thing a percentage of men experience.

    So if you encounter guys like that it may have less to do with you than with them. But nevertheless you have a right to look for a man who completely satisfies you; it may just take some time & patience.
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    Sep 26, 2013 1:43 PM GMT
    Oh honey, OP, you're doing it all wrong. You supposed to suck his cock and bang first Lol, after you cum and all soft, then you cuddle and talk about *feelings! feeling like a needy chick! ahhhhh gay sex rules lol (I've done this and guilty of it) icon_redface.gif