Need Help! I'm 21 in a very unique and bad situation and need advice..

  • Bradley1234

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    Sep 27, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Okay so this is going to take a while to get to my problem but I will start with an introduction.

    I am currently 21 years old. 3 years ago I got a message on an online gay dating site from somebody offering me $1500 to go and be involved in a threesome with an older gentleman. Usually I would just ignore these messages, but the $1500 got my attention. I took a huge risk and went through with it. I met the other guy, who was 27 and we went there I got head and I got $1500. It was all over and it was so easy. I then made direct contact with the older gentleman and ever since have been seeing him once a week to get $1200 for him giving me head and me sitting around and having a chat to him for about half an hour. By older this guy is about 60. He gives me a cialis pill to get hard, and I never sexually enjoy it, I have to wank myself off to cum. Mentally it is quite hard, but the cash benefits have overweighted the trauma that it causes. I have formed a "relationship" with him where I text him most days to see how he is, and text saying goodnight. From me there is nothing there apart from a very good paying job. My feelings stop there and it is for financial gain and nothing else.

    About 18 months ago I started seeing a guy seriously. I really really like him, we get on very well, we are very compatible all round. I obviously didn't mention this to him at the time as it would have been a deal breaker. I have just continued seeing the older gentleman once a week for about an hour to an hour and a half and getting my money. I made sure I got sexual health checks done and he is clean and never given me anything. It's hard to catch something just getting your dick sucked anyway.

    About 12-13 months ago my partner who I like found out about me seeing the older gent. It wasnt from me, he found it in my phone. We obviously had a big argument and a lot of discussions took place. He could see the benefit of me seeing him, but obviously hated me seeing him and the fact that I had been lying to him. At this point he also found out that about one month into our relationship I had seen another guy on two occasions and hooked up with him in my car. I was 19 at the time. He told me that I could continue seeing him and we would stay together because we loved eachother so much.

    This whole situation has obviously caused a lot of problems in our relationship. Nobody likes to be dating a male "prostitute". The difference between me and most hookers is that I see one person, not plenty. And that one person gives me a lot of money so it is far more attractive then most prostitutes. With the cash I have bought a house, with a loan, bought a car, and started a business. I am not wasting the money. I live a good life, but also make healthy decisions. We have had multiple fights over it all but we both still like eachother. Since he found out about it, I have been completely honest with him about everything. I share my life with him, we speak on the phone once a day and I spend every weekend and usually a night or two a week with him. I don't hide my phone from him, he has full access to it, and I genuinely share everything with him.

    About 9 months ago I found out that he was on dating sites chatting to other guys. We had a fight and he promised that he wouldn't go on them anymore.

    About 7 months ago I found out that he went over to a guys
    House that he met online, supposedly didn't do anything
    Sexual with him, and then got dropped to work the next day.
    He lied to me about this for months, but I knew something had happened so I kept questioning him for months and he eventually
    Told me he had stayed at a guys house.

    About 5 months ago I found him talking to other guys again. We had another big fight, and he promised me again that he wouldn't and that he loved me.

    About 3 months ago I found he was chatting on webcam
    And wanking off with other guys and I had a big problem with that and we had an argument and he said he wouldn't do it again.

    2 months ago I found out he was on manhunt talking to people. Se
    Thing again.

    About one month ago I found out he had been talking to about her guy just as much as he was talking to me. 20 messages a day,
    Pictures of his dick and vice versa. He had the guy saved under his best friends name (female) and I obviously never thought anything of him messaging her (turns out it was actually him). I found out this had been going on for over a year and he had quite a relationship with this other guy. He had never met him, it was all online and phone. They spoke on the phone etc. we obviously had a massive fight over that and I sat down with him
    Again and talked about it. The biggest problem to me is that he was lying to me about it. I asked him and he lied, asked him again and he lied. Takes about 20 times, and him realizing I know everything before he comes clean. The prostitution thing always comes up of course and I offered to stop doing the prostitution if he stopped lying to me and talking to other guys. He promised me that he wouldn't talk to anybody else, and I told him
    If I did I would end our relationship. Apart from the fact that I prostitute myself, I am a very good partner. I am always there for him. I drive him around all the time because I don't have a licence. I pay for things for him obviously and buy him presents (he gets many benefits from me being a hooker too). I might also add that we are both not out, and straight acting masculine gays. Hence I don't really have anybody to talk to this about...

    The biggest problem here of course being that I lied massively to him 14 months ago and got caught out, so I have trouble demanding he be honest with me. In the time since then I have been completely honest with him though and he knows that, yet he keeps breaking my trust over and over again. Anyway he promised he wouldn't talk to anybody else, and he knew that If he did our relationship would be over, as I couldn't be with somebody who lied to me and I couldn't trust.

    This week I decided to check his phone bill and I found that since we had that conversation a month ago he has still sent hundreds of texts to this other guy, pictures, the works. I confronted him over it and he promised me that he hadnt been texting him, even though I had evidence he had been. After a while he admitted he had texted him once a few weeks ago. Obviously another lie. He now knows that I know he has been texting him regularly, and my problem is that if he is texting this one guy and lying to me about it, how many others could there be. I don't want to be with somebody that I can't trust. I broke his trust in the first place 6 months into our relationship and I am basically a prostitute so I feel like I am setting double standards, but all I want in our relationship is for him to always tell me the truth. I broke up with him because of it, and because it has happened so many times over and over.

    I still love him a lot, and I'm really upset. I know that he still likes me too, and I don't know if he talks to other guys just for the conversation, and because he is horny, or whether it is more than that. I don't want to break up with him.

    Am I expecting too much considering my position?

    What should I do? Should I start dating him and give him another chance to be honest with me? Should I stop seeing the older gent and stop getting $1200 Cash a week that I'm basically living off while I start my business up?
    I just need some general advice, I'm really lost, I'm really upset because I don't know what to do. I love him a lot, and I really wanted to spend my life with him. I just can't be with someone who lies and has broken my trust so many times, and I want him to change. I don't know if I'm
    Allowed to expect that being in my position though.

    Please help!!!..... :/

    (*Posted it in the wrong section to reposted in correct section)
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    Sep 27, 2013 5:02 AM GMT
    Bacon.
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    Sep 27, 2013 5:06 AM GMT
    Elmo Didn't Read
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Sep 27, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
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    Sep 27, 2013 9:57 AM GMT
    Most interesting...Im confused as to how you bought a house though in NY with no "real" job and no documentation from such? Lending guidelines today are enormously strict.
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    Sep 27, 2013 12:07 PM GMT
    NJDewd saidMost interesting...Im confused as to how you bought a house though in NY with no "real" job and no documentation from such? Lending guidelines today are enormously strict.

    Once you start writing a work of fiction, like the OP, it's easy to fudge minor details like this.

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    Sep 27, 2013 12:28 PM GMT
    You earn $1200 to get your dick sucked. You better keep that sugar daddy healthy. How do you explain your income to family and friends? Once gramps buys the farm, what will you put on your resume when you have to get a real job? And what kind of business are you starting? An escort service.icon_question.gif
  • Fable

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    Sep 27, 2013 12:53 PM GMT
    bitch you earning 68k + a year from getting yo dick sucked?

    winning.
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    Sep 27, 2013 1:06 PM GMT
    So a whore is uncomfortable being a whore? Is that the message? Because I could not read past the first paragraph where you complain about being a whore. Nothing wrong with you being a whore, but you are a whore and there's nothing wrong with that, except you don't know how to edit or write, but then again, you're a whore. Keep on whoring.
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    Sep 27, 2013 1:36 PM GMT
    My gut is telling me this is a Troll thread.

    In any case, here's some gasoline for the fire.

    It sounds like you "want it all" and don't want the consequences that come with the "benefits" of your choices. You are a sex worker. You want a partner. Either "own up" and fully embrace your life at this time as a sex worker and find a partner who's cool with your current line of work, go without a partner, or change to another line of work.

    This is a fairly straight forward, adult choice.




    P.S. If you're going to remain a sex worker, you might want to consider diversifying your revenue streams and paying off any debt which you have on the house or other assets. At 60, your sugar daddy could kick the bucket at any moment and there is no guarantee that you're in his will. Your primary revenue stream will literally die with him and you might lose any assets which you have gained but which are still encumbered by debt. Also, consider asking sugar daddy if he will pay for some schooling for you so that after he croaks you will have an education which you can monetize. See if you can get him to put the full four-years of tuition, books, housing, fees, food & beverage into a "trust" for you. He might do this if he really cares for you and you can lay out the case for this "legacy gift".
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    Sep 27, 2013 1:41 PM GMT
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    Thread name: "Need Help! I'm 21 in a very unique and bad situation and need advice.."

    Bradley1234 saidOkay so this is going to take a while to get to my problem but I will start with an introduction.

    I am currently 21 years old. 3 years ago I got a message on an online gay dating site from somebody offering me $1500 to go and be involved in a threesome with an older gentleman. Usually I would just ignore these messages, but the $1500 got my attention. I took a huge risk and went through with it. I met the other guy, who was 27 and we went there I got head and I got $1500. It was all over and it was so easy. I then made direct contact with the older gentleman and ever since have been seeing him once a week to get $1200 for him giving me head and me sitting around and having a chat to him for about half an hour. By older this guy is about 60. He gives me a cialis pill to get hard, and I never sexually enjoy it, I have to wank myself off to cum. Mentally it is quite hard, but the cash benefits have overweighted the trauma that it causes. I have formed a "relationship" with him where I text him most days to see how he is, and text saying goodnight. From me there is nothing there apart from a very good paying job. My feelings stop there and it is for financial gain and nothing else.

    About 18 months ago I started seeing a guy seriously. I really really like him, we get on very well, we are very compatible all round. I obviously didn't mention this to him at the time as it would have been a deal breaker. I have just continued seeing the older gentleman once a week for about an hour to an hour and a half and getting my money. I made sure I got sexual health checks done and he is clean and never given me anything. It's hard to catch something just getting your dick sucked anyway.

    About 12-13 months ago my partner who I like found out about me seeing the older gent. It wasnt from me, he found it in my phone. We obviously had a big argument and a lot of discussions took place. He could see the benefit of me seeing him, but obviously hated me seeing him and the fact that I had been lying to him. At this point he also found out that about one month into our relationship I had seen another guy on two occasions and hooked up with him in my car. I was 19 at the time. He told me that I could continue seeing him and we would stay together because we loved eachother so much.

    This whole situation has obviously caused a lot of problems in our relationship. Nobody likes to be dating a male "prostitute". The difference between me and most hookers is that I see one person, not plenty. And that one person gives me a lot of money so it is far more attractive then most prostitutes. With the cash I have bought a house, with a loan, bought a car, and started a business. I am not wasting the money. I live a good life, but also make healthy decisions. We have had multiple fights over it all but we both still like eachother. Since he found out about it, I have been completely honest with him about everything. I share my life with him, we speak on the phone once a day and I spend every weekend and usually a night or two a week with him. I don't hide my phone from him, he has full access to it, and I genuinely share everything with him.

    About 9 months ago I found out that he was on dating sites chatting to other guys. We had a fight and he promised that he wouldn't go on them anymore.

    About 7 months ago I found out that he went over to a guys
    House that he met online, supposedly didn't do anything
    Sexual with him, and then got dropped to work the next day.
    He lied to me about this for months, but I knew something had happened so I kept questioning him for months and he eventually
    Told me he had stayed at a guys house.

    About 5 months ago I found him talking to other guys again. We had another big fight, and he promised me again that he wouldn't and that he loved me.

    About 3 months ago I found he was chatting on webcam
    And wanking off with other guys and I had a big problem with that and we had an argument and he said he wouldn't do it again.

    2 months ago I found out he was on manhunt talking to people. Se
    Thing again.

    About one month ago I found out he had been talking to about her guy just as much as he was talking to me. 20 messages a day,
    Pictures of his dick and vice versa. He had the guy saved under his best friends name (female) and I obviously never thought anything of him messaging her (turns out it was actually him). I found out this had been going on for over a year and he had quite a relationship with this other guy. He had never met him, it was all online and phone. They spoke on the phone etc. we obviously had a massive fight over that and I sat down with him
    Again and talked about it. The biggest problem to me is that he was lying to me about it. I asked him and he lied, asked him again and he lied. Takes about 20 times, and him realizing I know everything before he comes clean. The prostitution thing always comes up of course and I offered to stop doing the prostitution if he stopped lying to me and talking to other guys. He promised me that he wouldn't talk to anybody else, and I told him
    If I did I would end our relationship. Apart from the fact that I prostitute myself, I am a very good partner. I am always there for him. I drive him around all the time because I don't have a licence. I pay for things for him obviously and buy him presents (he gets many benefits from me being a hooker too). I might also add that we are both not out, and straight acting masculine gays. Hence I don't really have anybody to talk to this about...

    The biggest problem here of course being that I lied massively to him 14 months ago and got caught out, so I have trouble demanding he be honest with me. In the time since then I have been completely honest with him though and he knows that, yet he keeps breaking my trust over and over again. Anyway he promised he wouldn't talk to anybody else, and he knew that If he did our relationship would be over, as I couldn't be with somebody who lied to me and I couldn't trust.

    This week I decided to check his phone bill and I found that since we had that conversation a month ago he has still sent hundreds of texts to this other guy, pictures, the works. I confronted him over it and he promised me that he hadnt been texting him, even though I had evidence he had been. After a while he admitted he had texted him once a few weeks ago. Obviously another lie. He now knows that I know he has been texting him regularly, and my problem is that if he is texting this one guy and lying to me about it, how many others could there be. I don't want to be with somebody that I can't trust. I broke his trust in the first place 6 months into our relationship and I am basically a prostitute so I feel like I am setting double standards, but all I want in our relationship is for him to always tell me the truth. I broke up with him because of it, and because it has happened so many times over and over.

    I still love him a lot, and I'm really upset. I know that he still likes me too, and I don't know if he talks to other guys just for the conversation, and because he is horny, or whether it is more than that. I don't want to break up with him.

    Am I expecting too much considering my position?

    What should I do? Should I start dating him and give him another chance to be honest with me? Should I stop seeing the older gent and stop getting $1200 Cash a week that I'm basically living off while I start my business up?
    I just need some general advice, I'm really lost, I'm really upset because I don't know what to do. I love him a lot, and I really wanted to spend my life with him. I just can't be with someone who lies and has broken my trust so many times, and I want him to change. I don't know if I'm
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  • Hothouse

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    Sep 27, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    Are you reporting this income to the IRS?
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    Sep 28, 2013 12:48 AM GMT
    Sheee-it, I'd give the ho $1200 just to STFU. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 28, 2013 12:57 AM GMT
    okonomiyaki saidSheee-it, I'd give the ho $1200 just to STFU. icon_lol.gif

    Wait, you can make money by shutting up? How do I get on this gravy train, because I am nothing if not an obnoxious loud mouth, but I'd stop for 1200 bucks.
  • solo123456

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    Jan 13, 2016 4:55 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidSo a whore is uncomfortable being a whore? Is that the message? Because I could not read past the first paragraph where you complain about being a whore. Nothing wrong with you being a whore, but you are a whore and there's nothing wrong with that, except you don't know how to edit or write, but then again, you're a whore. Keep on whoring.
    i like u