Sep 27, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
i don't know if anybody else has this problem. I'm 25 and I find it so incredibly hard to make gay friends. I have plenty of straight friends, but for some reason the gay men I meet have zero interest in friendship. It's like, once they realize you don't want to have sex with them, they don't want anything to do with me. I used to think something was wrong with me, but it's not like I don't have any friends, I have plenty of friends, just none that are gay. Ok so I have 1 gay friend, but he is an ex, and I kind of feel like the only reason why we have even reconnected is because he's interested in sex. I really don't mean to come off like a conceited asshole like everyone wants to have sex with me, it's not like that, I am of average attractiveness, and most of the time guys I'm sexually interested in are not interested in me. But anyway, I'm a graduate student, and my college, of course, doesn't have a LGBT grad organization, but they have an undergrad LGBT group, so I'm definitely going to attend those meetings to hopefully meet people, but even then, it's going to be all 19 year-olds. I've joined a few meetup.com groups for gay people in the philly area, but I've yet to be available to attend a meet up, so hopefully when I am, that will go well. But even the philly 20-somethings group I'm a part of are incredibly flakey, and no one seems to even be interested in meeting up. It's just crazy to me. I've tried to phone apps, but once again, when I tell people I'm just looking for friends the conversation ends. It's depressing. My straight friends aren't the type to go to a gay bar, but I know they would for me, but it would be such an awkward context of "we are only going to this place to find him gay friends". it's incredibly frustrating. Does anybody else have this problem or is it just me? any advice? Sorry for venting!