Never asked out a dude before.. help?

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    Sep 29, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    Okay so I like this guy that I know from last year when I was in High School. I was closeted back then, and therefor never really spoke to this guy. However, now that I've started to come out I have realized how good looking he is. There's a problem though, we go to different schools, and don't really share any common friends that I know of. We are friends in facebook, and occasionally we like each other's pictures, but we don't really talk. Now that I think about it, we've probably never spoken to each other. So I mean I'd like to try to go on a date, perhaps not have it be too serious and all but I really just don't know how to go about it.
    Do you guys have any suggestions about how to approach this guy? icon_question.gif
    ---Actually I do have a friend in common, but she is really religious. I'm not even sure if she knows I like guys too, She may have thought I was kidding when I told her... should I ask her to introduce us? what if she declines?

    thanks, and sorry I'm such a noob haha
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    Sep 29, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    It's alright community, it's not like I wanted anyone to comment anyway...icon_cry.gif
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    Sep 29, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    Question!
    Is he gay or straight?
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    Sep 29, 2013 6:30 AM GMT
    Harry7785 saidQuestion!
    Is he gay or straight?


    He is obviously gay, I wouldnt go for a straight guy. thats just annoying.
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    Sep 29, 2013 10:01 AM GMT
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    Harry7785 saidQuestion!
    Is he gay or straight?


    He is obviously gay, I wouldnt go for a straight guy. thats just annoying.


    Your original posting is annoying! You're wanting a religious girl, who doesn't know you're gay, to introduce you to a guy you like. Do this....cut out the middle-man (woman) and ask the guy yourself! Tell him how you feel and go from there! There's no fancy way of asking him out other than just simply approaching him!

    And don't ask him out via Facebook, text, Twitter, etc. That's just plain tacky!
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    Sep 29, 2013 10:29 AM GMT
    acrolat saidOkay so I like this guy that I know from last year when I was in High School. I was closeted back then, and therefor never really spoke to this guy. However, now that I've started to come out I have realized how good looking he is. There's a problem though, we go to different schools, and don't really share any common friends that I know of. We are friends in facebook, and occasionally we like each other's pictures, but we don't really talk. Now that I think about it, we've probably never spoken to each other. So I mean I'd like to try to go on a date, perhaps not have it be too serious and all but I really just don't know how to go about it.
    Do you guys have any suggestions about how to approach this guy? icon_question.gif
    ---Actually I do have a friend in common, but she is really religious. I'm not even sure if she knows I like guys too, She may have thought I was kidding when I told her... should I ask her to introduce us? what if she declines?

    thanks, and sorry I'm such a noob haha



    ^ I candidly think either way you personally end up going about it, you'll be fine

    Homeboy is already on your FB-profile page, which is a decent and legit +plus+ .. .

    Worst case scenario, you guys both meet up, and it turns out he isn't interested in you sexually at all. Yet platonically, - you still have him as a friend, so you're not at any sort of loss, than what you started out with germane to discovering the possibility of a potential love-interest...

    Moreover; you also never know - that it may be you who will actually view or perceive him differently; once you meet him and get to know him better... In other words, you just might surprisingly find out he isn't at all as sexually appealing to you as you had initially thought he was going to be upon meeting and getting to know him better...

    - ^ Just my personal own liil 0.02-fu*ks .. .

    Wish you all the best of luck though, in whatever ends up going down with the both of you ... .

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    Sep 29, 2013 10:49 AM GMT
    acrolat said
    Harry7785 saidQuestion!
    Is he gay or straight?


    He is obviously gay, I wouldnt go for a straight guy. thats just annoying.

    First of all, you have to ask yourself whether it is infatuation or you really like him as a person.

    Coming to the suggestion.
    How about starting with FB!
    When he likes your pic, give him a personal msg...telling thanks, and talk about school etc. and slowly later ask him to meet out if possible!
    If you go & ask him directly, it will obviously give the wrong impression...let get to know each other first.

    I don't think having your girl friend as an intermediate between you two will work. It depends on how close she is to you both, and also you're not totally out to her, and she;s religious....But if you want to choose this path(it will likely take longer) first you have to know her attitude towards homosexuality, then you have to come out to her, then tell about your crush, then & then & then...isn't it a exhausting process?
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    Sep 30, 2013 9:59 AM GMT
    acrolat said
    Harry7785 saidQuestion!
    Is he gay or straight?


    He is obviously gay, I wouldnt go for a straight guy. thats just annoying.


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    Oct 09, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    Why not just meet up to hang out and see where the conversation goes from there?
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    Oct 09, 2013 7:09 AM GMT
    Let's ask Zula...
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    Oct 13, 2013 6:10 AM GMT
    Lo5t5oul5 saidLet's ask Zula...


    Hmmm interesting. Never really thought of that. That, I shall do.