Attracted to my best friend

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    Sep 29, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    I've known my best friend since we were 12 and one of the reasons I knew I was gay was because after a while I found him to be really attractive. He isn't the typical straight boy crush most gay people have, he's a but on the heavy side and probably would be seen as the most attractive to other guys, I never really acted on it and life went on. We tell each other everything and just imagine the best friendship you could ever have and that would be us. He was the first one I came out to and was completely fine with it and nothing in our friendship has changed. But a few months ago I was taking to one of my new friends I meet at my college, and I came out to her as well,then she told me she was bi lol, and then I told her about my best friend and she asked me if I was attracted to him, I said no. Then she said she was just wondering because she knows some people who are gay that have been attracted to their best friend. She said that its because that one person formed an extremely personal friendship with the other person. So the point of this is I'm wondering if I feel the way I do about my best friend because he was the first deep "relationship" I had with another person, and I'm just confused because I haven't dated any guy's yet, or what? The feelings aren't there as much as they used to be in fact it hardly ever pops up but I'm just curious as to why it did and sometimes does pop up (I'm 20 by the way, so that probably weird that i haven't dated another guy yet huh?)

    I love him like a brother and would never dream of acting on my impulses, my friendship with him is more important to me than that I don't know what I would do without him.
  • MikeW

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    Sep 29, 2013 7:01 PM GMT
    Yeah, I think you have it pretty well figured out. The whole sexual vs emotional attraction thing is fuzzy for most everyone, I think. Especially so for gay guys who didn't date as teens (which is just about all of us). Sounds a bit like you had a crush on him at one time but that has settled out and you're left with a good friendship that sometimes sparks other 'needs'.
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    Sep 29, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    I'm attracted to my straight friend thread #30442...