Had any "mighta been" encounters you regret?

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    Nov 24, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
    One that haunts me was in Sturgis, South Dakota in August, 2004, during the huge annual motorcycle rally. I was in a large vendor tent looking at souvenir stuff when this gorgeous dream guy came in by himself, and my heart started to pound.

    Dressed in black biker leathers like me, my gaydar pegged. But I knew I'd have to be discrete around all the straight Harley guys, plus I wasn't sure if he was really alone. Unlike myself, a great many bikers ride to Sturgis in groups for mutual support on the road (except the wimps who tow their bikes there).

    I maneuvered myself around the flat display tables so our eyes would meet, but he wouldn't look up. I followed him around as he browsed, only pretending to be looking at the merchandise myself. I was single then, and dying to invite this guy back to my campground tent, or maybe visit his or his room.

    If he noticed me then he chose to conceal it, and before I could think of some good line to say, he had slipped out into the sidewalk crush where I quickly lost sight of him. Tiny Sturgis becomes a madhouse, with over 500k bikers jammed in there.

    I looked for him over the next days, but never saw him again, nor anyone else as beautiful. And I still regret not being quicker & more aggressive, to maybe at least have learned if he really was gay, and might have been interested in me.

    Anyone else have a close encounter that failed? I don't know why that one continues to bother me so much.
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    Nov 24, 2008 3:18 PM GMT
    Yes, a guy who I had lusted after for years but who had never seemed interested in me, cruised me heavily at a house party in 1992 or 1993. This was the first time he had seen me with my head shaved so that was the likely trigger. I was in a fuck-buddy relationship with another guy at the time so I resisted. I wish I had not.

    Although I suspected he was HIV+, that would have not have been an issue. He was very good looking, fit, outdoorsy, down to earth and a nice guy (he worked with street kids which was kind of neat). As long as we had stayed away from politics we probably would have hit it off (he was a Leninist-Marxist).
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    Nov 24, 2008 4:42 PM GMT
    Just before I moved (3 yrs ago) there was a HOT, younger guy in my gym that checked me out - a lot - and even followed me home on more than one occassion (at least to the entrance of my neighborhood) and no I didn't imagine it I even took a different route once.
    Oh yeah and I just remembered he even followed me from the gym to the place where I tanned (when I did that) AND hung around in the parking lot and pretended to ask about memberships until I came back out 20 mins later! That's a long wait!

    Finally the last time he followed me, I pointed to a parking lot and pulled over. He pulled in too and I chatted with him a bit and utlimately gave him my phone number.
    He didn't call and sadly a week later I moved (out of state). And my available time for working out was limited that last week. Hence and I wasn't in the gum much and did not run in to him. icon_cry.gif

    DAMMITT. Such is my luck though.

    Though I do wonder why he never called? I mean ya follow a guy for a cpl wks, talk to him twice, you get his number... WTF??
    And no I don't have a voice like Mickey Mouse.

    Just my 1st straight, curious, young guy I guess...
    and HOT!!! yes he was.
    DAMMITT again I say. icon_evil.gif
  • UncleverName

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    Nov 24, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    BodyWork: He was obviously just in it for the chase! Once he had your number, he just wasn't interested in you anymore. Either that, or he's a retard icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 24, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    UncleverName saidBodyWork: He was obviously just in it for the chase! Once he had your number, he just wasn't interested in you anymore. Either that, or he's a retard icon_smile.gif


    Total retard!
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    Nov 24, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
    Maybe not "regret," because it would have caused complications at work, but I did used to think a lot about what might have happened.

    I used to take a lot of weekend SCUBA trips and many times, one or more of our college interns would go along. A couple of them made fairly blatant passes at me on several occasions. Both were good-looking guys, but one of them was literally stunning. (I know my jaw stupidly dropped open the first time I met him. When he walked down a long crowded hallway, you could see heads turning to watch as he passed.)

    Anyway, I wish I could say that it was good judgement and restraint that kept my hands off them, but really it was absurd obliviousness. Usually, the pass was so unexpected that it was hours before I realized what had happened. Or rather, not happened.
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    Nov 24, 2008 7:17 PM GMT
    haha
    awww thanks mates... I feel all warm and fuzzy inside now.

    Anybody wanna follow me home? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 24, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    well mine is different....


    I regret falling for someone that I was told is a player, and flake.

    Of course I didn't believe it, you don't want to think the worst of someone you like. I was told the person was a player,told guys he loved them more then anything, to keep them around. When it came down to meeting he flaked every time.

    I didn't want to hear any of this shit, gay guys don't seem to want each other to be happy, especially if they have a history with the man in question.


    I regret not listening, I regret ever wasting my time when it was bad the whole time.


    I might get back lash from this but I'm an adult, I wont point fingers lol.


    So I regret the time I wasted, I was dumb and in love. Was told the worse but I didn't care, bad things happen, things come up in relationships. Some get over it, some get better, and after time some learn to forgive.We learn from each relationship, but it's okay to regret ever talking to the person. As long as there isn't hate, we all can move on.

    You should always see the positives in someone, but ignoring the negatives gets you in trouble. On the plus side, sometimes you're better off as friends.
    Some times you meet someone better that treats you right.

    In the end things happen for a reason, regrets are the dreams of immaturity.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 24, 2008 8:44 PM GMT
    I get one of those everyday ...
    The last one was at the lettuce counter at Publix

  • JohnG16775

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    Nov 24, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    Well there was this stunning man at the gym yesterday. He was so hot looking. At first I didnt notice butthen my poorly functioning gaydar went off and I almost fell off the treadmill. I tried my best not to look the rest of the workout but I am afraid I was not succesful. His armpit looked shaved. Wow he was awsome.
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    Nov 24, 2008 9:31 PM GMT
    GQjock saidI get one of those everyday ...
    The last one was at the lettuce counter at Publix


    All I get to use at most Fort Lauderdale Publix is my old-dar. They're the only places I know where next to the rows of waiting shopping carts are rows of wheelchairs & walkers for the customers.

    Now for serious supermarket cruising, try the Wilton Manors Publix at Five Points. It's like gays everywhere, with their homes just a few blocks away. And a Starbucks within sight, where you do a preliminary warm-up before hopefully heading to his place.
  • auryn

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    Nov 24, 2008 9:37 PM GMT
    I have about three. One that really gets me, was a guy that I wasn't ready for because I was still getting over someone else. Tall, sweet, strawberry blond. I've thought about him frequently over the past 5 years.

    Coulda, shoulda, woulda...

    He's affection helped me learn that I needed to get over the other quick, or I'd continue to miss out on great guys like him.

    Wish I could reconnect and just be friends. *sigh* Don't think I'll ever forget Victor.
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    Nov 24, 2008 9:40 PM GMT
    I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had not taken back the guy who broke my heart after traveling halfway around the world to visit him when he spent a semester in Japan. He ended up pulling the same crap within 2 months of us getting back together, and I spent a long time trying to make it work when there was no reciprocation. It's sad, but I learned a lot from that experience
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    Nov 25, 2008 12:15 AM GMT
    THERE ARE THOSE GUYS THOUGH


    REALLY HOT BUT YOU CHICKEN OUT AND MISS YOUR CHANCE TO TALK TO HIM.

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    Nov 25, 2008 1:22 AM GMT
    Years ago when I was single I used to go camping with friends at a gay campground outside of Seattle. They always had a lot of parties and you could go from campsite to campsite partying and meeting other guys. One evening during a large dance party I met this guy who was totally hot, we hung out together the entire evening and then ended-up sleeping together. The next morning (after I crawled back to my tent) my camp mates said "Do you know who you were with last night?". Needless to say it was an up an coming young Hollywood actor. All either of us could do the next day is say hello and smile at each other - I'm still kicking myself for not being more agressive, getting his number and asking him out.
  • B71115

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    Nov 25, 2008 1:36 AM GMT
    He was 21, a surfer, 6-foot about 220, tan tan tan and in amazing shape. Amazing face. VERY strong. Never would have guessed about him being interested in guys.
    It was my second week at my gym in my new town. He started working out on the bench next to me and talking non-stop. Then he followed me to the squat rack, then to another machine, asking me all about whether i had a girlfriend, when was my last girlfriend, would i ever consider getting married, yada, yada. He followed me out the front door, introduced himself and said "if you ever need a spot or anything, let me know."
    Didn't see him again until the next week, same day of the week, same time. His workout was over but he followed me into the room with the free weights and started working out right next to me and talking some more.

    OK, I was younger and newer to the world of men, but I was so blind. It didn't hit me till later what was going on. I should be shot. I haven't seen him since, although he did tell me where he likes to surf. it's been almost two years. (Yes, I've been back on the same day of the week and time of day many times.)
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 25, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
    I've got one with a reunion make-up.

    Back in 93-94, I was stationed in Fort Benning, GA. There was a guy in my unit that was rumored to be bisexual. I was curious about men, but still hadn't come to terms about being gay. I never sent off signals to anyone I was interested in.

    In February, 1994, our unit was out in the field. One day, the First Sergeant needed to do some office work in preparation for his next assignment, so he had me drive him and this guy that I mentioned above. We spent the whole day at the barracks waiting on the First Sergeant, but we could not go to our rooms because we had to turn-in our keys before going out to the field. We were stinky, dirty fugs. Well, the other guy goes around collecting hygiene products from personnel not in the field to use in the downstairs gang latrine. He was so excited that he asked me if I wanted to join him. I decline twice before I realized that he might be hitting on me. So I then accepted the offer, but nothing ever happened.


    Fast forward to February of this year and I meet up with him and some mutual girlfriends from that assignment. Both women knew I was gay. I came out to him and he was cool with it. Well, as the night wore on, we got seriously drunk and spent the night hanging out naked. He and I shared a hot tub together and I asked him what his sexual orientation is. He said that he's just open minded. He gets male bonding and doesn't think that there's anything faux pas about men being intimate, gay or not. He's not about gay sex but doesn't mind a physical or emotional bond between two men.

    I did fondle him that night and he was cool with that. It was really great to get to know each other on an openly honest level.
  • VinBaltimore

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    Nov 25, 2008 2:39 AM GMT
    Yep and his name is Robert. He was a guy I was run into every now and again that I thought was completely out of my league. There were about a milllion times when he'd run into him and have the perfect opportunity to strike up a conversation, but I'd just look at him and my mind would go completely blank. It would have been hysterical if it wasn't so INCREDIBLY lame.

    Then the week I met my current boyfriendhusbandwhatever I ran into Robert and I guess knowing I had just starting to see someone gave me the confidence to at least say hello to the man. I expected him to be a total jerk, but he could not have been nicer. We ended up talking for awhile and went to dinner together.

    We had a really nice time and we seemed to have a lot in common and I was totally kicking myself for not asking him out much earlier. (A lesson here, kids, don't let this happen to you! If you want to ask a man out for the love of all things good and holy ASK THE MAN OUT!).

    Never saw him again because my relationship with my boyfriend/husband/whatever quickly became an all consuming, whirlwind romance.

    Every now and again, on long drives or when my man is getting on my nerves, I wonder if Robert and I would have worked out and what our life together would have been like. Never see him anymore so I assume he's moved away.

    I can't believe I'm gonna admit this, but up until a few months ago I STILL had a print out of his Match.com profile tucked away! icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 25, 2008 2:45 AM GMT
    ORDude saidYears ago when I was single I used to go camping with friends at a gay campground outside of Seattle.


    The Triangle Recreation Camp (TRC) perhaps? I camped at both their Index and current Bender Creek locations. What years? But don't worry, I'm not a Hollywood actor... LOL!

    http://camptrc.org
  • SanEsteban

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    Nov 25, 2008 2:49 AM GMT
    There was an extremely hot guy at my gym who I had been playing the wave and say hello game for a while but we hadn't really struck up a conversation. One day, I was late and running into the gym to get to my spin class and he was there. He was waving and smiling BIGTIME! I smiled back and motioned that I was going into class. While in spin, I saw him walk out of the gym so I figured that I would definitely talk to him the next day when I saw him. He has not returned to the gym. I am figuring that he may have moved away or something. I KICK myself for not taking the moment to talk to him. I mean really, screw the class! There is always another one! I may have just missed out on the best guy around! I just keep hoping and looking that perhaps he just changed his workout schedule and that I will run into him again. If so, BELIEVE ME, I AM TALKING TO HIM RIGHT AWAY! If by chance, you are the hot guy and have a small inconspicuous lambda tattoo on your right shoulder and went to 24 Hour Fitness in Gilbert, AZ. PLEASE GET AHOLD OF ME!!!!!
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    Nov 25, 2008 2:54 AM GMT
    A couple of years ago, before I was even hooking up with guys, there was a guy at the gym. Just gorgeous. One day he asked if I needed a spot. I didnt but I still asked him for help. I even struggled a bit just so he would have to touch my arms (doing free weight incline).

    One time I caught a glimpse of him in the steam room. Wow. For a little guy he sure was a big boy.icon_wink.gif I actually saw him on facebook, turns out he went to my college years before I did.

    There was also another guy from my gym. He worked at the counter. I just loved looking at him. Just so sweet and nice. If I saw his car in the parking lot I always went in for a workout. Sadly he left the gym with no notice. Oh well.
  • styrgan

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    Nov 25, 2008 3:12 AM GMT
    I was at the dentist's office a few months ago for a cleaning, and the dental assistant was flirting with me really bad. But he was ridiculously hot so it didn't matter.

    He compared discomfort from my wisdom teeth which had just recently been removed to his bicep as he took the moment to flex.

    For God sakes, that analogy doesn't even make sense!

    I just pretended I was borderline retarded and had no idea what he was doing. I don't know why I didn't flirt back with him. I really should have. I think my mind is somehow inclined to just keep certain situations totally professional.
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    Nov 25, 2008 3:27 AM GMT
    styrgan said... I don't know why I didn't flirt back with him. I really should have. I think my mind is somehow inclined to just keep certain situations totally professional.


    He's the professional there, and if he wanted to flirt with you, then FLIRT!!!

    Any chance you can return soon with some other dental issue? This sounds worthy of a follow-up.
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    Nov 25, 2008 3:32 AM GMT
    Back in high school (when Grand Canyon was brand-new) there was this hot Mexican/American Indian guy I knew named George. He was dark-skinned, very Navajo-looking, with a wide, flat nose, deep brown skin, super-thick lips, and he had this thick mane of dark brown-black hair that went more than halfway down his back. I was totally in love with him. He was a stoner, and pretty laid-back, but with a somewhat indifferent attitude. We couldn't have been more opposites. But we liked hiking and smoking pot, and became friends. We were both about 16 years old.

    I couldn't bring myself to tell him I wanted to suck his cock and eat his anus. I even got him NAKED IN MY BEDROOM (!!!) once when we were changing to go swimming, and I couldn't help but stare at his thick bush and nice cock. I'm sure he knew I liked him, but he never said anything either. He seemed definately str8, but you never know...
    It's been 34 years, and I still fantasize about making it with him.

    (Sigh)
  • metalxracr

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    Nov 25, 2008 3:33 AM GMT
    I had just graduated high school the day before, but it was my last sr trip.

    I had broken up with my boyfriend about three weeks before and his really hot cousin signed up to be my roommate in my hotel room. He was a good friend, so I was cool with it!

    He seemed to kind of flirt with me, but I figured I was reading him wrong, because I was with his cousin after all, and he always portrayed himself to be the straightest guy who could have any girl he wanted.

    Then, the last night we were there, we had some guys over at our room to play halo. It was late so i went to go brush my teeth and he followed and did the same. He was wearing sweats and had a nice bulge that I couldn't help but notice in his reflection in the mirror. I looked up and I was caught staring and I was so scared, but he just smiled. Then he looked back to make sure no one was looking and then looked back at me and put his thumb in his waistband and quietly whispered, "Do you want to see it?"

    I looked back and no one was looking and I just laughed and said, "You're stupid!"

    Till this day I kick myself for saying that! I panicked for some reason.