Why would a "straight" guy shower right next to someone????!!!

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    Nov 24, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    the showers at my gym are all open...just one big room with about 20 shower heads in it...I cant tell you how many times I will be in there ALONE and a guy will come in and shower at the one right beside me!!!!

    hes got the whole frikin room to shower and he picks the one right next to me!!! WTF??

    I know some of you are saying whats the problem? Hot guy showering next to you is a good thing right?? I got to the gym to work out, not to pick up anyone and I dont get the impression thats whats going on...

    It just drives me insane why a straight guy would do that when hes got the whole room to pick from...I dont get it!
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    Nov 24, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    count your blessings...

    Plenty of guys do this, like the one that picks the locker right next to mine and then spreads all his stuff out and then proceeds to strip in my face, his ass in my face.... icon_eek.gif
    and no, when this happens to me the dude is not hot!

    It usually one of these guys...
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    Nov 24, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    Only practical reason for this is to get hot water out of the shower head more quickly. But depends if the shower heads are connected in series (slower hot water), or if it's a circulating water set-up, where each shower head would have about the same time delay for hot water.

    Other than that possibility, I think he likes you, or naked men in general.
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    Nov 24, 2008 7:39 PM GMT
    I don't get those people, its like HELLO some distance please. I hate when people get in my personal space when they have an ample amount of showers, lockers, or urinals.
  • SpartanJock

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    Nov 24, 2008 7:40 PM GMT
    That's kinda creepy, seriously. Isn't there some unwritten guy rule that disallows this, similar to the rule of using the adjacent urinal in a bathroom? icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif Cuz, you know I might see your wee wee.
  • Koaa2

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    Nov 24, 2008 7:43 PM GMT
    Maybe he just wants to talk about your workouts.
  • dhinkansas

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    Nov 24, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
    I think there needs to be a zoo for straight guys, so everyone could go look, and satisfy their curiousity about the straighties.
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    Nov 24, 2008 7:58 PM GMT


    First of all do you know for a fact that he's straight or are you just assuming icon_confused.gif

    Seems like you are insecure in your own sexuality and unable to separate sexual and nonsexual situations, he could just be that secure in his sexuality that he doesn't interpret any form of male proximity as threatening. He's simply being friendly, non-sexual male bonding and showing you he's not intimidated by other males in a position of vulnerability

    I don't get the problem if he is actually hitting on you and your not interested in anything with him....., just finish showering, don't show interest and go get changed. It's not like he's going to jump you.
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    Nov 24, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    Is it no different to standing at a piss trough, having a slash, and you are the only guy there, and the next person who come in, stands rite next to you,and he had 7 foot of free space too pick. I Finnish my slash, and move on.

    I never shower at gym anyway, as I have my very own at home. Not an issue for me.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 24, 2008 8:06 PM GMT
    It is kind of creepy and it's an invasion of your space
    because what's the response you're supposed to make?

    A big vacuuos room and this guy comes right next to you?
    I don't like that either
  • EricLA

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    Nov 24, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    Well, it's always nice to look, isn't it? Who says you have to do anything. I seem to run into a lot of guys at the gym who just want to be checked out. I don't know if they want to mess around there (a possibility -- but EWWW), or they're too afraid to talk to someone and bringing them home.

    I just enjoy the view.
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    Nov 24, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    I'd just enjoy the view. =P
  • Timbales

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    Nov 24, 2008 9:22 PM GMT
    It makes me glad we have private showers at my gym.
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    Nov 24, 2008 9:26 PM GMT
    I'd shower next to ya too. icon_wink.gif
  • JohnG16775

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    Nov 24, 2008 9:28 PM GMT
    We have public showers and actually at first I was timid but now I say WTF, its just a shower and I have seen lots of dicks before and hot asses and some not so hot asses. I got past the public nudity problem. It did take a couple of months however. Now Im naked and proud.
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    Nov 24, 2008 9:49 PM GMT
    any guy (as long as he is hot and not creepy) can come up and shower next to me anytime he wants.
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    Nov 24, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    redbull saidthe showers at my gym are all open...just one big room with about 20 shower heads in it...I cant tell you how many times I will be in there ALONE and a guy will come in and shower at the one right beside me!!!!

    hes got the whole frikin room to shower and he picks the one right next to me!!! WTF??

    I know some of you are saying whats the problem? Hot guy showering next to you is a good thing right?? I got to the gym to work out, not to pick up anyone and I dont get the impression thats whats going on...

    It just drives me insane why a straight guy would do that when hes got the whole room to pick from...I dont get it!

    Start up a conversation with him...like, "Oh hi. How's it goin'? Did you have a nice workout? Boy, I love to feel the pump in the muscles after pumpin' those weight, dont you? You're lookin' pretty buff there. How long you've been workin' out? etc etc etc..." If he says anything about the conversation or if he gives you a look or pffft....just say, "oh since you took the shower head right next to me when the whole room is vacant, I figured you wanted to chat it up." .... He wont be back!

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    Nov 24, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    msw1 saidany guy (as long as he is hot and not creepy) can come up and shower next to me anytime he wants.


    Well, last month I was showering at school. The University has a program for older people--senior citizens. So I'm showering.. alone in a room with 12 shower heads (I counterd cause i was amazed at what happened next).

    An old man, prob in his 80's, came right up next to me and started to shower. Blah blah.. free country, but he had 9 other shower heads to choose from (12 heads minus mine and the two next to me). I was like wtf.

    But after 15 secs of wondering what the Hell was happening... I did my thing and he did his. He didn't even look at me. So everything was cool. I thought: "He's human. I'm human. who cares." Plus, we all may look like him someday
  • cowboyathlete

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    Nov 24, 2008 10:02 PM GMT
    msw1 saidany guy (as long as he is hot and not creepy) can come up and shower next to me anytime he wants.
    I heard that. An absolute piece of meat at my gym has done so before on more than one occasion. He has a butt to die for too.
  • RyeMac

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    Nov 24, 2008 10:08 PM GMT
    lol...... R vespa & eric nailed it... ! This dude is what ya call a a "33 per-center" ..... Love's women & probably even married with kids..... but still can't resist checking out & flaunting his stuff / junk with the jocks.....and "subversive" flirting
    on the dry-off time, toss this dude a "bone"...... by way of a casual compliment, lol .....and see if he, uhhhh grabs it....icon_lol.gif....

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    Nov 24, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    cjcscuba1984 saidAn old man, prob in his 80's, came right up next to me and started to shower. Blah blah.. free country, but he had 9 other shower heads to choose from (12 heads minus mine and the two next to me). I was like wtf.

    But after 15 secs of wondering what the Hell was happening... I did my thing and he did his. He didn't even look at me. So everything was cool. I thought: "He's human. I'm human. who cares." Plus, we all may look like him someday


    Someone of his generation probably swam naked in HS pools and at the Y, maybe lived in military barracks where privacy doesn't exist. His view of locker room & shower nudity would be different than yours, and could be quite relaxed & innocent.
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    Nov 24, 2008 10:39 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    cjcscuba1984 saidAn old man, prob in his 80's, came right up next to me and started to shower. Blah blah.. free country, but he had 9 other shower heads to choose from (12 heads minus mine and the two next to me). I was like wtf.

    But after 15 secs of wondering what the Hell was happening... I did my thing and he did his. He didn't even look at me. So everything was cool. I thought: "He's human. I'm human. who cares." Plus, we all may look like him someday


    Someone of his generation probably swam naked in HS pools and at the Y, maybe lived in military barracks where privacy doesn't exist. His view of locker room & shower nudity would be different than yours, and could be quite relaxed & innocent.


    yup true
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    Nov 25, 2008 5:32 AM GMT
    get over yourself.
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    Nov 25, 2008 7:24 AM GMT
    watch the last two cheerios in a bowl cling together in the cereal bowl...it's the law of attraction...

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    Nov 25, 2008 7:47 AM GMT
    redbull saidthe showers at my gym are all open...just one big room with about 20 shower heads in it...I cant tell you how many times I will be in there ALONE and a guy will come in and shower at the one right beside me!!!!

    hes got the whole frikin room to shower and he picks the one right next to me!!! WTF??

    I know some of you are saying whats the problem? Hot guy showering next to you is a good thing right?? I got to the gym to work out, not to pick up anyone and I dont get the impression thats whats going on...

    It just drives me insane why a straight guy would do that when hes got the whole room to pick from...I dont get it!


    I workout at home, but my best guess would be for self-assurance. I suppose I'd rather be closer to someone to not be a central focus for those that walk in. It would also seem weird to have one guy on one end and another at the other end. I do recall in High School when guys would shower next to each other even when other stations (there were four stations) were empty. It was sort of a buddy thing - kind of a way to strike up a chat and ignore the fact that you're naked in front of someone you're not attracted to. I think it must be a way of normalizing something that seems odd for some people. I, like you, would get annoyed by it.