Did I Mess Up?

  • gjoseph

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    Nov 24, 2008 9:12 PM GMT
    Hey guys I went clubbing Saturday night for the 1st time since I just turned 18 and had my "girlfriend" Kate with me. We met two girls who are a married couple and they helped me out a-lot with finding guys such as dancing and getting comfortable. I guess I ended up getting too comfortable with a guy and while dancing he had a drink in his hand and I accidentally knocked it out. I felt so bad because 1.) He was soo HOT he was totally my type tall about 6'2, muscular, masculine, and from Argentina, and had the most beautiful eyes looked like a model. Did I do right by giving him a hug? I felt so bad like I cannot stop thinking about him. He ended up going to the bar after the song ended and I never saw him again =( I wish I wasn't so "Klutzy"
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    Nov 24, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
    Did you offer to buy him a drink to replace the one you spilled? (They allow drinks on the dance floor? I know most of the gay adult bars in Tampa; was this one for teens, I presume non-alcoholic?)

    Accidents happen, and sometimes people are cool about it, and sometimes the whole world comes to an end. Better luck next time.

    I wouldn't say you messed up, just learned some techniques for doing better next time. Klutziness can come with the territory of being 18, but fear not, for this too shall pass. The more you club the better you'll get. Just play smart & safe, OK?
  • gjoseph

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    Nov 24, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    Umm this was at GBAR in Ybor City and I'm pretty sure that the drink was alcoholic with one of the guys I danced with b/c another guy who was sweet but older 30 =/ offered me a drink and I tasted rum i.e. Coke & Rum but I definitely learned never accept a drink from a stranger b/c I could get drugged and raped. Also I always plan on playing it safe NO GLOVE = NO LOVE

    The really hot guy from Argentina must have been 21 or 22 I don't plan on dating guys over 23. I was only trying 2 b nice to the 30 yr old guy since my friend Kate and I were receiving compliments from him.
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    Nov 24, 2008 10:06 PM GMT
    Yeah, Ybor City is gay central for the Tampa area. But I thought the G Bar was 21+ only. I wasn't carded there, but then I never am any more. [SIGH]

    Surprised you got in. Do they have a wristband system for 18-20? I didn't recall seeing that. Nor do I recall drinks on the dance floor itself, so maybe this guy was in the wrong, too.
  • gjoseph

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    Nov 24, 2008 10:17 PM GMT
    Yes they have a diff wristband system for under 21 and they stamp both hands....umm I saw a couple of guys with drinks on the dance floor.
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    Nov 25, 2008 12:23 AM GMT
    well you felt bad, at least you cared.

    you should have bought him another drink...
    that way you could have maybe talked to him.


    People like to "accidently" spill their drink on me.

    last night it was beer bust, eight bucks to drink all you can drink beer from
    4to8 pm.

    One guy got beer on my shirt... Friends took my shirt off. Of course the guys stared at me like I was the nights rap victim. ( its a manly big guy bar)
    Another guy spills his drink a big down my chest and tummy.

    he says " oh im sorry, you look better wet anyways"

    as he did that he winked and wiped the beer all over my chest and abs as if he was trying to clean me up.


    bottom line is you have to buy the guy a drink if you spill his.
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    Nov 25, 2008 12:54 AM GMT
    that didn't sound conceited at all lol

    but yeah i agree with these guys- your only mess-up was to apologize and walk away.. u shoulda replaced the drink and talked to him.
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    Nov 25, 2008 1:04 AM GMT
    lol hey now, it a bar for mostly really beeffy hairy older guys.

    Not my fault a smooth young muscle boy excites them.

    I didnt say i was gods gift to men did I?

    It's true ask any of my denver friends, people stare me constantly.
    Maybe Its my huge bottom lip, I don't get it either.

    Im okay looking but not some model stud.
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    Nov 25, 2008 1:13 AM GMT
    Spilling somebody else's drink is def a party foul. The appropriate reaction would have been to immediately apologize and get the guy another drink. I wouldn't feel too bad about it at this point. If anything I'd say you got off lucky. Were he an angry drunk he could have decided to kick your ass. I have friends who have been jumped in bars for much less. A guy at work got his ass beat by 3 other guys for trying to break up an argument between two chicks. What's really shitty is the guy was on crutches with his leg in a cast at the time HAHAHA!!! True story.
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    Nov 25, 2008 1:17 AM GMT
    You messed up by not buying him another drink. .... icon_eek.gif
  • jetswa737

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    Nov 25, 2008 1:59 AM GMT
    He is 18...he could not buy the guy a drink. Maybe given him some money to buy it himself. But he definitely couldnt purchase the drink himself or go to the bar with the guy and purchase the drink. Its against the law. I am sure being polite is not worth getting an Minor in Possession Charge.
  • gjoseph

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    Nov 25, 2008 2:18 AM GMT
    Yes! I definitely wasn't concerned about going back to the bar and buying him another drink since I'm under the legal drinking age. But next time I'll just offer a guy money so he can buy himself another drink =)

    Thanks Guys
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    Nov 25, 2008 2:26 AM GMT
    jetswa737 saidHe is 18...he could not buy the guy a drink. Maybe given him some money to buy it himself. But he definitely couldnt purchase the drink himself or go to the bar with the guy and purchase the drink. Its against the law. I am sure being polite is not worth getting an Minor in Possession Charge.

    Oh sorry....I didnt know the law. Well, young man, if you spill someone's drink, you need to replace it. Reimburse him when he buys the drink.

    ....but trying to remember what it was like at 18...if you dont have the money, you must apologize and confess that you know you should replace the drink, but unfortunately, you dont have the money. He will understand and feel so much bigger.

    or....

    funny pictures
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    Nov 25, 2008 3:01 AM GMT
    I remember how tough it was when I hit my first gay bar. I was trying to look so cool and was trying to impress this hottie. I took a swig from what I thought was my can of coke off the pool table. But it was the wrong one and the guys had been using it as an ashtray. I nearly threw up when I realised I had choked down these filthy butts. I was so mortified I ran out and went home.
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    Dec 02, 2008 4:30 PM GMT
    if run into him again the next time your there, offer that drink!