What really grinds your gears on Grindr?!

  • chiguy669

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    Oct 01, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    Hi everyone,

    I was going to write an extensive boring post about this, but I think my questions will be answered if we all post what really upset us on grindr!

    Here I go, 1st thing:

    When you GET CONTACTED FIRST, then asked for a face pic without first getting one yourself!


    Now you!
  • PR_GMR

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    Oct 01, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    These are the things that annoy me about all dating/hookup apps:

    --People with no profile pics. No profile picture means you're afraid to come out as gay, are on the downlow, etc. It's a major turnoff for me and we're never gonna meet.

    --No profile info. If you don't take a minute to post some info about yourself and what you're looking, we're also not likely to ever meet.

    --People with no conversation skills. Anyone that messages with a 'Sup?' or 'Into?' or 'Looking?' just gets a pass.
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    Oct 01, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    "Hey"
    "Whats up"
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    Oct 01, 2013 5:15 PM GMT
    unfounded7 said"Hey"
    "Whats up"

    I never use these aps or hookup sites, but "sup" would disqualify any further conversation with me. I can't stand stupid people.
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    Oct 01, 2013 6:51 PM GMT
    It is too late for this to affect anything when it happens but when they ask for more pics then go offline when I send them. Obviously this means they think I have a face like a slapped arse.

    The weird thing is occasionally they will try to resume conversation a few days later. Now I am not a sensitive guy by any stretch, but I would like to keep what remains of my dignity so they get no more chat from me.
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    Oct 01, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    ^
    I'd limit sending pics to locals who you might conceivably meet because I bet that most people who ask and get either want to steal or fap to your pics, which doesn't exactly do anything for you, does it?
  • chiguy669

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    Oct 01, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidThese are the things that annoy me about all dating/hookup apps:

    --People with no profile pics. No profile picture means you're afraid to come out as gay, are on the downlow, etc. It's a major turnoff for me and we're never gonna meet.

    --No profile info. If you don't take a minute to post some info about yourself and what you're looking, we're also not likely to ever meet.

    --People with no conversation skills. Anyone that messages with a 'Sup?' or 'Into?' or 'Looking?' just gets a pass.


    Very interesting. I might fall in one or two of those categories :p

    -- Yes, I find it frustrating when the have no picture! but I also understand why they would do so. My profile does not have my face because, in fact, I am not out. But what really makes it bad is that when you ask for one they don't provide it even when they already made the first contact.

    -- PASS ON THIS ONE haha

    -- I have tried everything and conversational skills seem to be scarce on Grindr. I myself like to communicate, share ideas, talk a lot! I am curious so I might ask many questions, and I find it interesting when someone else does, but when starting a chat I always go with "Hey, how is everything going?" or perhaps worse? "Hey, what's up?", or even worse-er! 'Hey' or 'Hi', but how would you guys start a chat provided they know nothing about you and neither do you about them?... I've tried other stuff, mostly cause I wanted to joke around and, for instance someone had a pic of a bottle of vodka as their profile and I contacted them out of boredom and said: 'Hey there, you got one big hot bottle of vodka there ;)' (not proud of it, haha) but still, what would you do?
  • chiguy669

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    Oct 02, 2013 2:51 AM GMT
    Ohno saidIt is too late for this to affect anything when it happens but when they ask for more pics then go offline when I send them. Obviously this means they think I have a face like a slapped arse.

    The weird thing is occasionally they will try to resume conversation a few days later. Now I am not a sensitive guy by any stretch, but I would like to keep what remains of my dignity so they get no more chat from me.


    Yea, this is pretty common! It's happened to me a couple times, Jezz it does feel kinda rude. If I was super sensitive my self steem would be at negative values .
  • chiguy669

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    Oct 02, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
    eagermuscle said^
    I'd limit sending pics to locals who you might conceivably meet because I bet that most people who ask and get either want to steal or fap to your pics, which doesn't exactly do anything for you, does it?


    I'm very liberal when it comes to sharing pics. I only share face pics when I know I might be able to meet with them, though. That is sensitive material in my opinion.
  • chiguy669

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    Oct 02, 2013 2:55 AM GMT
    somersault saidthe entire concept of it


    You're right, many people on grindr are pretty rude, but I have totally met some nice-hearted guys that just happen to be curious about it. We haven't met in person because we all work and our schedules don't match but still, I would love to go out for dinner and have a nice long chat with them! You just gotta be patient, I think.