why don't gay relationships and friendships work?

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    Oct 02, 2013 2:59 AM GMT
    It's rare to find a good group of gay friends who don't have sex with each other. Also, it's rare to find a gay couple that's more mainstream and normal, like long term monogamous relations, unlike guys hooking up online or having open relationships.

    A lot of the way we love ourselves and within our own community comes from what we missed out learning when growing up. Someone who felt inhibited having the proper sex talks with parents may now, as an adult, want a lot of sex and become more adventurous with it.

    I'd like to discuss the difference between the ideal gay culture vs. the ideal straight culture and why they're so different.
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    Oct 02, 2013 3:06 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear that's been your experience. I haven't had that at all. Most of my gay friends are partnered or have been bfs for quite awhile. I don't know you so I can't assume to know your life, but I know where and how you meet people can oftentimes play a role in the kinds of people you have in your life.
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    Oct 02, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    icefan saidSorry to hear that's been your experience. I haven't had that at all. Most of my gay friends are partnered or have been bfs for quite awhile. I don't know you so I can't assume to know your life, but I know where and how you meet people can oftentimes play a role in the kinds of people you have in your life.


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    Oct 02, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    i think its because guys are just naturally much more promiscuous. Men evolved to spread their seed to as many different women as possible. Women, having to be knocked up for 9 months and stuck with a baby for life, evolved to be much more selective about sex and long term commitments.

    Lets face it, if women put out as easily as men do, straight people would be just as promiscious.

    I do feel a bit frustrated that m4m world seems almost purely sexual. When you hook up before really getting to know somebody it makes it harder to get to know them afterwards, and so it seems hard (to me at least) to ever develop a real relationship.

    There is a difference between the way men and men interact with each other vs men and women too. For me personally, i find that any sort of relationship with a woman tends to be a little deeper and stronger, i think its something in the feminine personality that balances out something in my male personality. Its still possible with guys but it seems harder for me.

    all just personal opinion though
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    Oct 02, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    IRFire66 saidi think its because guys are just naturally much more promiscuous. Men evolved to spread their seed to as many different women as possible. Women, having to be knocked up for 9 months and stuck with a baby for life, evolved to be much more selective about sex and long term commitments.

    Lets face it, if women put out as easily as men do, straight people would be just as promiscious.

    I do feel a bit frustrated that m4m world seems almost purely sexual. When you hook up before really getting to know somebody it makes it harder to get to know them afterwards, and so it seems hard (to me at least) to ever develop a real relationship.

    There is a difference between the way men and men interact with each other vs men and women too. For me personally, i find that any sort of relationship with a woman tends to be a little deeper and stronger, i think its something in the feminine personality that balances out something in my male personality. Its still possible with guys but it seems harder for me.

    all just personal opinion though
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