Just got married and we're thrilled about it. It's got me thinking-

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    Nov 25, 2008 1:49 AM GMT
    Since the wedding I've been feeling this new sense of equality with my hetero counterparts that I hadn't realized was missing before. I've been realizing that gay marriage in and of itself is the one tool that society has at it's disposal to marginalize us and keep us separate. Gay Marriage is the ultimate sign of acceptance and equality in this Hetero-dominated world. If we win this right then we have ultimately won the battle for equality amongst our peers. It has also reaffirmed my belief that anything less than marriage is belittling and divisive. I used to feel that I didn't need the government to sanction our commitment to make it "valid": However after experiencing that wonderful day and seeing all of the other couples declaring their commitment and authorized by a government agency made me realize how critical this issue is to every gay human being. Regardless of whether you ever intend to get married I hope you all appreciate the importance of this issue to our community. We deserve every right and opportunity that the straights have. Also I think the possibility of a legally recognized committed long term relationship would mitigate some of the destructive personal/relationship dynamics that are so prevalent in the gay world. Any thoughts?
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    Nov 25, 2008 1:56 AM GMT
    I agree completely. And BTW, you make a stunningly lovely couple, and you look extremely happy together in your pics. Congrats!
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    Nov 25, 2008 2:01 AM GMT
    First of all, how freaking awesome....

    I'm happy for you two, call me a women but it's always been my dream to be married. Lol have always wanted a guy to ask me to marry him.

    As far as marriage.... Well the issue isn't that they just hate us because we are different. It’s the very fact that their religions say its bad. This is the only problem that keeps us from getting married. Maybe if we didn't call it marriage they wouldn’t care. But forget that, we are human to and it never says in the bible that two people of the same sex can’t be in a committed loving relationship. Men can't lay with men; well guess what men can’t lay with women unless they are married. So all the sins people do every day is nothing to them. When two that are in love want to have what every other loving couple what’s, they can't stand it.

    We need our rights, but that is why we fight for them and educate others that we are just like everyone else, we want to finalize our love as everyone else does. Now marriage doesn’t mean you are in more love but it does have a symbolic sign of we are one now. The right that come with it, well that should be a given even though marriage is an issue.


    Good luck you two, I hope every day to have the love you guys have.
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    Nov 25, 2008 2:13 AM GMT
    It must be how African-Americans feel with Obama's election. It shows that America...European-Americans....have finally accepted African-Americans as equally capable.
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    Nov 25, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    Congratulations.

    What you write is surely true. It's possible, of course, to get through life without validation from anyone - though few manage it. But it can be nice to have it, and to imagine that just maybe you won't have to jump through hoops every time the issues come up that are relevant to partnership, marriage, and on and on.

    It's still a long road ahead, and a whole world to conquer - or charm. But, yes, I do think that equality before the law will contribute to many more healthy relationships for gay people - not just with partners, but with family, society, and with themselves.

    Wishing you a long and happy life together.
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    Nov 25, 2008 5:39 AM GMT
    I agree! If only non-monogamous folks would understand that it's more than just a marriage.

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    Nov 25, 2008 6:15 AM GMT



    Congratulations, guys!!!

    -from us guys wwwaaaayyy up here in igloo-land.
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    Nov 25, 2008 7:50 AM GMT
    Yes, very important post by the OP. Until we got married I did not understand that what is at stake is dignity.
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    Nov 25, 2008 10:18 AM GMT
    Congrats, you make a stunning couple!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 25, 2008 10:34 AM GMT
    Just out of curiosity. Where?
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    Nov 25, 2008 1:58 PM GMT
    San Francisco City Hall. On Halloween during a 3 day layover on our return trip from Hawaii. My best girlfriend (and coincidentely the first person I ever came out to) lives out there with her husband. They hosted a wonderful weekend. San Francisco really is one of the worlds greatest cities. Awesome food, nightlife and people. City Hall was gorgeous and our justice was the sweetest lady who assured us our marriage could would be valid for good. We even got interviewed by a reporter for Q-tv news.
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    Nov 26, 2008 6:49 AM GMT
    I'm happy for you both. you going to be out protesting for gay rights?
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    Jan 11, 2009 7:38 PM GMT
    I would like to do something proactive for gay rights, but I don't know if "protesting" is what I have in mind. We saw the movie "Milk" not long ago. I highly recommend this movie! It is an exceptional film, and on top of that it accurately portrays a lot of gay life in a way that is enjoyable and empathetic. Also, thanks for the congrats guys. It's really a wonderful experience committing to someone and having that same love and promise reciprocated for the long term. I wish it for anyone who is seeking it.
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    Jan 11, 2009 7:48 PM GMT
    Congratulations to both of you. It is indeed encouraging to have people like you who has a desire to make an influence in the gay community.