My husband & I get screened for HIV every few months. We ask it be included in blood draws done for other recurring purposes.
Our reason is two-fold:
- It's a mark of our open trust for each other. We are monogamous, and never cheat. But we also both lost our former partners who cheated, or were cheated on, guys who swore they didn't cheat, but did cheat and contracted HIV. We each have authorized the other to see our full medical records. If the other cheats and catches something, we will know it, HIV or any STI.
- We work with the at-risk gay community. We tell others to be tested frequently. We must be able to say to them we do the same thing, as an example. If we say instead that we don't test, because we aren't at risk, that becomes an excuse for these other guys.
"Well, I'm not at risk either, so I won't test."
The illusion that "I'm not at risk" and "I can't have been exposed" is what kills more gay men from AIDS than anything else. Denial is a death warrant.
So you test regardless. And if my monogamous husband & I can test, then YOU can test. I don't care if you haven't had sex in years. Test anyway, and set a good example for others. If you have nothing to worry about, then what have you got to worry about?