Alpha13 saidI guess there has to be somebody to bully and you have decided to be that person. It's interesting that at 155 lbs in high school no one bullied me and you are the same weight. Adults are kinda wimpy and slow so I never took anything from them either .
I can't believe what I just read.. "you decided to be that person." Seriously?? Since when is being bullied a decision??
I saw it all the time in school. All kids weren't bullied. The syndrome is written about is dozens of "self help" books since the 1940's. Two best sellers were "The power of positive thinking " by Norman Vincent Peale and "The greatest salesman in the world." By Og Medina. Charles Atlas ran an ad for body building so as not to be bullied in the back of magazines for decades.
The call sign for one of my parents' boats was Papa Papa Tango, the PPT and other boats sometimes hailed us, asking if the Reverend was aboard. My folks were among his biggest fans so I was raised on this stuff. But there are limits to it and it can be misunderstood when overgeneralized.
as themachine saidIf you have been bullied once, you are automatically a target again, because you made a bully look good in the past.
So sometimes these kids can't get out of this shit on their own and through no fault of their own.
Nobody ever fucked with me until some individuals on this very website who I simply told fuck off and clicked onto ignore. Growing up, I didn't just see it, rather, I used to place myself between a bully and his victim, I'd get inside the bully's head and turn him on himself. I never had to use bodily force. I do recall at that time determining if the perceived victim was being unfairly bullied or if that person shared culpability. If I thought them "asking for it", I'd not interfere but just let it play out.
Some lessons are only learned the hard way while others need never be taught.
Some people like to think new age thinking so very edgy (I find it has gone badly astray since Castaneda, with most of its ideas simply stolen from elsewhere--better to be understood in their original form--but that's just me) but, particularly when taking theory and applying to the real world, it can be dangerously two edged.
For instance, while it is completely appropriate to point out that we are responsible for our own lives, it is absolutely inappropriate either to ever blame a victim (and I'm not talking the passive aggressive creeps who entice suffering but those who simply don't have proper tools to fend off or defend from attacks), nor does citing self-directed destiny ever substitute a lack of empathy, however well it might mask it.