Gym hookup tips

  • Realshy

    Posts: 3

    Oct 10, 2013 2:21 PM GMT
    Hi,

    I started working out seriously about a year ago when I turned 18, and since the beginning, I noticed this really hot guy at my gym. I'm a shy guy in these situations, especially back then (I was a virgin when I started), and I think it's sort of given me confidence issues. I have a hard time accepting that hot guys are REALLY attracted to me when they approach me, and even if I can clearly tell that they are, I'm scared of scaring them off. The time I've spent in the closet has given me some difficulty with connecting to people. I still am in the closet (but probably not for much longer), but no longer a virgin due to a couple of Grindr hookups.

    So this guy at the gym probably isn't what most gay guys would consider unbelievably hot, but there's something about the hairy, nerdy, buff, nice guy combination that really turns me on. I've noticed him staring at me occasionally, but I can't really bring myself to stare back unless I can see he's not looking, and when I meet his gaze I've noticed HIM looking down as well (I guess he's shy too).

    A couple of months ago he came up to me of his own accord to help me with some weights and give me some tips. I thanked him but was sort of cold about it. On that day, when I was leaving for the locker room, he gave me the most intense gaze I think I have ever seen from a guy, which really got my heart racing. I wasn't able to handle the situation, so I just looked down and left. I realize I sound like a wuss but I've changed my attitude a lot lately, upon realizing that I need to come out, and really have gained more confidence in myself. I think one problem has been that I don't actually come off as shy, it just manifests itself in how I tend to scare away people or act disinterested.

    I'm not the hottest piece of meat out there, but I've attracted a couple of really hot guys in the past, whom I sort of scared off without feeling too bad about it (not into the overly confident douchebags). But this guy seems different, so he's someone I at least want to get to know better. I'd really like some tips on how to move forward here. Yes, I know the gym isn't made for hookups and that's not why I go there, but since I've reached the point where the most interesting guy happens to be at my gym, I don't see what's wrong with pursuing that. He usually keeps his headphones on so that's a problem as well.
  • Realshy

    Posts: 3

    Oct 10, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    It's not that I desperately want to sleep with him, just get to know him and see where things go from there.
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    Oct 10, 2013 2:56 PM GMT
    #YCYL

    Eww you're a skank
  • Realshy

    Posts: 3

    Oct 11, 2013 12:17 PM GMT
    Any serious posters?

    I don't know what's so wrong about discussing homosexual gym encounters at a forum that specifically caters to physically active, gay men.
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    Oct 11, 2013 12:27 PM GMT
    Realshy saidAny serious posters?

    I don't know what's so wrong about discussing homosexual gym encounters at a forum that specifically caters to physically active, gay men.

    Haha. Most of us aren't gay men, but prudish little old ladies, posting the pictures of our sons and grandsons.

    Kidding aside, he once approached you and you were " kind of cold" about it. The ball is in your court. Ask to train in on a machine he's using, ask him to spot you, be creative.

    Btw, many guys on here regard the gym as church and frown at people that come to pick up guys. RJ has become rather prudish and casual sex or hook ups are mainly viewed as chances to pick up STDs.